Lucky555 Posted July 23, 2007 Posted July 23, 2007 So i have been seeing this guy, the 30 yr old and i am 22. Alright so this time i decided to find out about him before i made judgments about him. yeah he seems to be a good dad and all. He want me to be his girlfriend. ugh, i do like him but i am sick of driving!! I am seriously so worn out from work and studies that this relationship is taking a toll on me. when i am with him its like complete sanity, i feel good i have a good time ect. But since he doesnt have a car "yet" as he proclaims, I do all the driving. I dont let anyone drive my car. anyways, yeah he doesn't have anything to offer me but i can rely on myself i am not a gold digger. I do want a nice car and house eventually but thats like 10 years from now. So in the mean time he has been really good to me, except the dates where he didn't have money. there are those issues still, i can't except him as he is right now, i realize this, and its why i won't be his girlfriend. So since this strains me on my time, energy, money, car....i am feeling like i need to bail, which i have been saying for sometime here on LJ and everyone was telling me to run, but everytime i try to break away he fixes everything so perfectly like i dont know how to break it to him that i don't want a relationship with him? i work with him and its going to be so hard so i think i have been letting it drag on for far too long, like he is a great communicator with me and is honest, but in the back of my mind i have doubt. Another thing is when we kiss i get bored, is that normal? Shouldn't there be this longing to see the guy, i guess he just doesn't "do it" for me. Mainly the turn off is his life which he is in the "process" of turning around. Hes been pressuring me to stay over a lot! so it out time i think , and i know his friends will hate me but frankly its my life, my money, my time. If this situation was 50/50 at least it wouldnt be so bad. My dream of a guy would be that he is clean with a decent job and no kids. i honestly don't want kids in my life right now i still have two years left of school and i am leaving the state. Oh yeah he said that long term relationships never work out. Another thing, why wouldn't a 30 yr old want to date a 22 yr old. See to me that makes sense, as i look at him i see wrinkles and oldness now. I don't feel secure with him because he can't take care of himself, he just adores me and compliments me a lot, yeah it feels so good but obviously i need to break up and HOW DO I DO IT!!! How do i break up with this guy i seriously rather be single, last time i was with him, it went ok, but its like i don't have a spark or a strong strong attraction. I am thinking on saying that i am not over an ex or something so he doesn't think its his age or his daughter. Should i keep seeing him casually and break it off before i leave work?
oppath Posted July 23, 2007 Posted July 23, 2007 I've really enjoy you and value you, but I don't feel we are the right people for each other, it's nothing about you and there is no particular reason, but it would be unfair of me to continue in this relationship because I want you to be free so you can find the relationship you deserve, and I need to be upfront and honest and end it now because I value you and respect you.
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