Agent M Posted July 23, 2007 Posted July 23, 2007 Recently, I realized I don't feel comfortable around most people b/c I don't trust them (and with good reason!). I live in a condo complex and many of my "friends" do too. The problem is that they either do drugs, talk about me behind my back, talk about others behind their backs, are perverse in some way, don't have similar values to mine (core values, like integrity and courage), are dishonest, inconsiderate, or have severe mental health issues. Therefore, I recently noticed that I'm never really completely relaxed around these people. I always feel uncomfortable. My question is....what to do ?? Do I let down my defenses and just say, what the heck, they can't hurt me anyway and overlook all the back stabbing and lying and inconsideration, or do I try and stay away except for when absolutely necessary and just resign myself to relative lonliness? (They do tend to still invite me over for dinner and functions despite all of this...) I get sick of being by myself, but I've come to realize I really don't like these people. How can I change my thinking, or should I at all?
Hurt & Alone Posted July 23, 2007 Posted July 23, 2007 It would be best for you to stay away from these type people if they do not share similiar values as yours. You mention drugs, I am not sure I would want to be associated with any one like this. It could just lead to trouble for people that you do not have feelings for.
Author Agent M Posted July 23, 2007 Author Posted July 23, 2007 Not really heavy duty drugs if you know what I mean.....funny when I read over my list of their issues....somehow it doesn't seem that bad in person.....they are real people, and each has ONE of the issues I mentioned, not all.
Lizzie60 Posted July 23, 2007 Posted July 23, 2007 My question is....what to do ?? I'm afraid you'll have to move... get away from this type of people... there is no way you can stay away from them if you don't move from there. Do you own or rent the condo?
Author Agent M Posted July 24, 2007 Author Posted July 24, 2007 Well, sorry to say, but if you don't trust "most" people like you said, then you probably don't trust yourself. That can be hard to live with, too. Have you tried behavioral therapy? Are you ever relaxed? If not, try Zanex, it's suppose to work? I don't know, though because I have never been on any medications for mental health. My friend takes it, and she seems more relaxed in social settings since she has been on it. People who talk about other people are fake, so if you know they do it, confront them or leave them. I don't think suggesting drugs for mental health and therapy is advisable without being a psychologist or doctor, and I don't appreciate it. You said some valuable things, but unfortunately some of your other comments are quite reckless and inappropriate.
Author Agent M Posted July 24, 2007 Author Posted July 24, 2007 My question is....what to do ?? I'm afraid you'll have to move... get away from this type of people... there is no way you can stay away from them if you don't move from there. Do you own or rent the condo? Yes, I do own there, and people are coming to me informing me of what is going on with the neighbors (ie. what they are saying about me, etc. etc.) Thanks!
love necessity Posted July 25, 2007 Posted July 25, 2007 I don't think suggesting drugs for mental health and therapy is advisable without being a psychologist or doctor, and I don't appreciate it. Are you that childish and unfriendly that you have to make a smurk about everything? It's no wonder your friends talk about you behind your back. I was only trying to give you some clean advice. I wasn't saying go get on Zantex, rather go see a doctor and Zantex a drug of choice I would recommend. No, I may not be a doctor, but I am a nursing student who has worked in the mental health field for quite some time now. From what you say about your "thinking", it sounds to me that you may be paranoid, and you probably are. I would def. go get that checked out before it gets worse, to where your "thinking" controls your actions. You need serious help, especially now more than ever because you think everyone is out to get you. You think your friends are talking about you behind your back or something. Maybe they are, maybe they aren't, but let me tell you that people have mouths, and they will use them. I'm not saying that it's ok to talk about people, but if you chose to talk about them on here, then your right they probably talk about you, too. Have you ever heard of "what goes around, comes around"? You act like a b1tch, you'll get treated like one!" You said some valuable things, but unfortunately some of your other comments are quite reckless and inappropriate. I know I said some valuable things, I'm usually a very nice person, thank you very much! So, I don't appreciate you telling me that my advice was reckless, I was only making a clean suggestion. If you didn't like my advice or don't agree with it, that's fine, but it's another thing to get on here and tell me that my suggestions are inappropriate and uncalled for. I was only giving you advice, I wasn't telling you absolutely had, too!! You're not the smartest crayon in the box, I can tell you that right now.
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