Budda57 Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 I met this girl on myspace and she ended up going to my college. We talked a lot of back and forth online...life, things to do in the small town were both trapped in, and everything else in-between. I saw her couple of time on campus but never really said "Hi." Finally summer hits and she said that we should hang out sometime. We both agree to meet for a movie. I know, not the best for a first date but I didn't want to scare her off (and were both really busy). Date went fine and we both said good bye. Well, the next week she tell me to come over to her place and, drink, play some video game, just hang out together. Had fun, nothing really happens but definitely some sexually tension between us. The next week, we go to another movie, I picked her up this time. When the movie ends she asks me to come back to her place. We played some video game for a while and then we decide to watch a movie again. So we get a little close and about half way through it I really want to kiss her. #Side note: Currently I have been single for about 2 years. Before that, I dated a girl for about 4 years; we almost got married.# So, with all manly might I go in for the kiss on the cheek; hoping it lead to something more. She says, "friends don't kiss like this, I have a boy friend - Kyle." I was absolutely stunned and said nothing for almost 5 minutes. Thoughts rolling through my head. We end up talking. She tells me that she does have a boyfriend and she was just looking to be friends. I have never heard or met Kyle, why haven't to told me? She come back with shrug of the shoulders. I tell her that I don't want to be a third wheel. And If I was Kyle I would be pissed to find out my girlfriend was see another guy. She tells me she has lot of guy friends. I explain that I don't have a lot of girl friends...? My mind and the little tingle in my stomach (which I had for her) was shocked. I'm in a hole, I do like this girl. But I don't want to be a third wheel (friend). What do you think I should do? Stick it out and be her friend (Since then I have found out that they have only been together for 7 months.) or should I cut her loose...?
Chinook Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 Um, if it was me, I'd walk away. It just seems a lot of drama for no reason. I mean she seems to have led you up the garden path a bit. Imagine how you would feel if you were Kyle..?!
AHIWON Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 She has a boyfriend? Thanks for being upfront you little bitch. I will meet better women than you. Single girls, not ones with boyfriends. Thank you for the experience.
FormerNiceGuy Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 Take this quiz and find out if you're a chump. If you can identify with more than one of these situations you've got some things to fix. ======================================================= I keep making dates with her even though she's stood me up at least once. I have been playing email/telephone tag with her. I know she has a busy schedule. I've spent more than $______ on her (gifts, dinner, movies, lending her money for whatever reason, etc) and we haven't had any sort of intimate contact. I fantasize about her breaking up with her boyfriend in order to go out with me. When she has been rude or disrespectful to me in some way, I don’t tell her how I truly feel because I don’t want her to think that I am a jerk. When she consistently interrupts you or ignores you in favor of her friends, but you think to yourself, “Her friends are important to her too.” I take orders from her or change my mind just to please her. When you have known her and hung out with her for several months and haven't done anything remotely sexual with her but want to. When you somehow end up doing all the inviting and she never reciprocates. When a girl asks you to hold her stuff while she gets hit on by other guys, and you do it. When you mope after a girl for long periods without approaching. When you give the girl you like advice on another guy. When you go after a girl who has already rejected you twice. When you cant live without that 'special' someone. When you draft up a plan, with all variables accounted for except for one thing. You never follow though. You tell her how you feel instead of showing her. When you help a girl carry her bag and believe you're one step closer to her wet panties. When you buy tons of flowers for someone that’s not “your girl” because you think that it will get you laid. When you try to set up another guy with a girl that you really like. When you keep calling, everyday, and consistently leaving one message a day ("PLEASE CALL ME BACK!") or something of the sort. When you keep sticking with a girl that tells you “Let’s just be friends” and you are convinced that you can make her your girlfriend. When you think that the best way to get a girl is to be friends first!" Then you hear from her that she "didn't want to ruin our friendship." When you call your ex-girlfriend after she broke up with you begging her to take you back. When you pay for drinks or dinners for women that don’t want you. If you REALLY read carefully, you'll see I'm trying to help you out and not insult you. If you don't do any of those things listed above, you'll no longer be a chump. Btw, that girl turned you down....so in your mind you should be thinking...NEXT!
garnet Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 Come on. She was enjoying the attention from you and she totally led you on. She knew you were interested in more than a friendship, we can generally tell these things. Tell her to take a hike. Obviously she enjoys getting attention from different men. If she did end up breaking up with her boyfriend and dating you, would you be comfortable with her hanging out and going to the movies with other guys, probably leading them on as well? Because that's probably what she'd be doing. You can do better.
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