aloneinatlanta1a Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 I am 39 years old and have been married for 10 years to my wife ( who I love ), but for the last 3 years our marriage has gone down hill (SEXLESS MARRIAGE). My wife and myself moved to Atlanta about 3 and half years ago, it was rough at first but we were able to get our self together in a new state. I started working for a retail company and have promoted three time since working there, but during this time my wife have been looking for a job but she has been unable to land the job that will pay her the salary she desires. She has worked at jobs that were not paying very well but did not stayed at those jobs very long, but each time she leaves a job the next job she get end up paying less than the last job. As I stated earlier I work at a retail company, but when I was hired I was not paid what I wanted but I knew I need to provide for my family so I took the job and did my best and was promoted. Now during this time my wife has become bitter towards me and she state I have not supported her job search. I have tried to understand why she states this to me and I know it partly because things have not gone her way and things have gone my way. Now do not get me wrong I AM NOT PERFECT ( no one is ) and I could have done something differently and I accept responiblity for that and I have apologize to her. But when I come for work and the first thing I here when I step the the door is my wife on the phone with her family and friends telling them that I do not not care about her and that I am selfish and that she has never lived like this and that she is has always had better than what we have now. It is bad enough that I go out everyday and fight the world but I have to come home and fight her too, it makes me not want to come home at all. (But every day I do) It has gotten so bad now it showing at work, people are asking me why I look so sad all the time. I do not realize it showed on my face that bad. I have not went out side my marriage for understanding from someone else because I love my wife and I know that would be wrong but it is getting hard to be in a marriage and yet I am so alone.
Mr. Lucky Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 Now during this time my wife has become bitter towards me and she state I have not supported her job search. I have tried to understand why she states this to me and I know it partly because things have not gone her way and things have gone my way. It's hard to understand what her specific complaint is. How did she expect your support would affect her job search and what does she think you failed to deliver? Mr. Lucky
Cobra_X30 Posted July 23, 2007 Posted July 23, 2007 Maybe you should look into her not working. Are you making enough to support the family?
quiet1one1 Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 Why is your post under "Infidelity"??? Hmmmmm.... Please get into some marriage counseling - it seems you've become disconnected by all the stresses in your life and this can be fixed if you BOTH WANT it. If you neglect it any longer it is much more likely to fail completely. Good luck.
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