Author Hestia Posted July 23, 2007 Author Posted July 23, 2007 studies show that men are many times the first to fall in love and the last to fall out of love. in addition, 75% of the time it's the female who terminates the romantic relationship. i should read that study, i always thought that we fell harder in love than men.
bish Posted July 23, 2007 Posted July 23, 2007 That is so bitter bish. I hope one day you'll get your faith in women back. Its not bitter....its just reality.
whichwayisup Posted July 23, 2007 Posted July 23, 2007 Well you are absolutely wrong here. I had butterflies with every new relationship...and when I was in love with someone...nobody else mattered. But with my experience with women, and my soon to be single status....at the age of 38, you can better believe, love will not be a part of my vocabulary from here on out. Simply don't believe in it anymore and I have no more to give. Bish, you're still young and honestly, you never know what will happen in the future. You could meet someone who makes your heart sing.......I just hope that when that happens, you won't run from it, you'll embrace it...Even though you've been burned badly in the recent past... My bro-in-law was burned badly in the past, and if he hadn't given my sister a chance, I wouldn't have my two amazing nieces now! *He wanted to get past his mistrust and past pain, so he COULD be with my sis, so he sought out therapy to sort himself out.*
oppath Posted July 23, 2007 Posted July 23, 2007 It's so difficult for me to say "I love you" and even vocally express affection. It's something I wasn't raised to do. My take is that women typically fall in love more quickly, but men find it more difficult to fall out of love, as evident in alpha's "women dump men 75% of the time." Or rather, males have such a big ego, that it takes them a long time to love again. I witness more often the woman having another guy lined up immediately; men might date immediately if they initiated the breakup, but women who initiate are often in a new relationship much more soon, largely because they take a long time in deciding to end the relationship. Men do love. sometimes it's hard for us to say. I think women need to do a better job of telling their men how they'd like them to behave romantically, and asking "how do you feel." Men are horrible at expressing how we feel. We're not raised that way.
alphamale Posted July 23, 2007 Posted July 23, 2007 largely because they take a long time in deciding to end the relationship. yea haha and while she's ending the current relationship she's secretly nurturing the new relationship
Trialbyfire Posted July 23, 2007 Posted July 23, 2007 Men do love. sometimes it's hard for us to say. I think women need to do a better job of telling their men how they'd like them to behave romantically, and asking "how do you feel." Men are horrible at expressing how we feel. We're not raised that way. Two points. 1. Women are not responsible for mens' inadequacies including and especially their inability to communicate properly. 2. Have you ever tried to "tell" a guy anything? Ahahahaha...that is all. Example: In the situation of driving, I'd rather gift a guy a GPS than try to suggest that he get a map or proper directions from someone else.
oppath Posted July 23, 2007 Posted July 23, 2007 Communication is a two way street. In my experience, women are much more passive aggressive, but that is largely from my choices. I do agree that women are not responsible for men communicating poorly, but they are responsible for communicating their needs, just as men are. Too often those needs aren't communicated. "I wish he were more romantic..." but the girl never says this to the guy. A guy can't be held responsible for a woman's checklist to not be met if he doesn't know what criteria she has or what her needs are. If a woman wants a guy to be more expressive about his feelings then yes, she needs to tell him that. He might not know how it affects her. It goes both ways, as guys often don't tell their women what they want/need until they snap when they don't get what they want.
Trialbyfire Posted July 23, 2007 Posted July 23, 2007 Agreed, it is through personal choice. As you've probably figured out, myself and many other women are far from passive-aggressive...
oppath Posted July 23, 2007 Posted July 23, 2007 I know there are women who are ASSERTIVE. I just haven't become involved with them. For the most part, I am assertive, but I've learned that doesn't work with a passive aggressive person. Of course I'll get frustrated and upset if someone isn't willing to speak what's on their mind. But to stay on topic, men do love. Absolutely.
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