MoonPixie Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 I have been dating this guy for about four months, he is out of the relationship for about 8 months... he told me he wants to take it slow, so I am letting it go slow... this weekend, starting Friday, he completely ignored all my texts, like I wasnt even there.. then saturday morning, he replied to 'good morning' and that was it... he ignored me for the rest of the day, I sent him one more text and left it alone, I did not want to text him to death, plus he was ignoring me... I am going to Florida with him in two weeks, he invited me, but I am not sure if it was just because he was being nice... because he was inviting his friends and I was there... I have the tickets, but now because he has ignored me for the entire weekend I think I should cancel the trip.. I dont know what is going on.. we broke up before, because he said he wasnt ready for a relationship, in my book it means he is not ready for to be in a relationship with ME. I heard that before from other guys and then saw them a month later in a relationship with someone else.. I do not know what to do.. to let him be, call him and ask.. not throw a fit but ask what is going on, because it is killing me... I hate playing games, I would prefer honesty.. I am trying not to text him, but its so hard.. I am a mess..
Chinook Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 I think if it were me, I wouldn't call him. I'd leave him be. I'd cancel the trip and completely cut contact with him. If he's interested he'll let you know. If a guy can't make the effort so early on...why should he later..? It shouldn't just be you doing the chasing up and texting.
Author MoonPixie Posted July 22, 2007 Author Posted July 22, 2007 That is how I feel, as if I am trying and he is just sitting there... it is not all the time this way.. but majority of time I feel like I am running after him... it is getting to the point where I am more upset by being with him than not.. if he thinks it's ok to just ignore me the entire weekend, no one who would like me or be interested in me would do such a thing.. he answered my text this morning, and I asked whats up.. and he told me he is going fishing.. so I said, listen, you havent been responding to my text, I feel like your ignoring me and I would prefer you to just tell me, give me space or I am in a bad mood, because it happens to me to as well.. he tells me he wasnt ignoring me, and when I said I am going to cancel Florida trip, he ignored that ... so I am going to try, even if I hae to loose 300 dollars, I am not going...
Tyra Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 I agree with Chinook. Aint nobody keep running behind you, (Im speaking of the guy you were speaking of). So don't text him anything, and I would cancel the trip. Come the day you are suppose to go down to Florida, he may not even call or anything, and instead he stands you up. You will be sitting with you bags and things, and he doesn't even show. Enjoy you. I know you're grown, and grown people don't have time for adolescent games. You know.
nasdxxx Posted July 23, 2007 Posted July 23, 2007 Well, dont make excuses for him unless he tells you what exactly freaks him out? Could he be still having hangs up on his ex gal? Do you know whom of the two broke off the relationship.... at times it can give you a clue. I know how difficult it can be trying to stop oneself from texting someone who totally ignores you. It is often not fair to you because he can write back to say, he just wants some time out to think about things or sort something out... and that he can get back to you once he gets out of his cave. ne time someboody i was seeing did that to me, by totally ignoring my texts for almost two days and there was no expalnation given and i felt that was rude. I deleted all his numbers, his email address and his texts just so i could not text himbecause luckily i couldnt remember his house phone and mobile... it worked because then i ignored him too for a day and when he got back to me, i told him why. He got it... Its never good to make excuses for people... at that point you have to realise they are either not that into you, or that they are simply taking you for granted! good luck
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