Heavenly55 Posted July 23, 2007 Share Posted July 23, 2007 I meant to address this comment above - I don't accept the old "you only need privacy if you have something to hide" argument. I don't want to derail this thread with discussions of government phone taps and monitoring of private citizen Emails - I'll keep it to employer/employee relationships - but I do reject this "something to hide" argument with respect to employer/employee boundaries. Someone who asserts reasonable boundaries does not automatically have something to hide. Exactly..I don't talk about my personal life at work..Nada..why bc the majority of people I've encountered are nosey you know whats and gossip non stop. I have nothing to hide but since I don't consider any of them to be friends or family there is no need for them to know what goes on in my personal life. They are coworkers who once 5 oclock comes pretty much don't exist to me anymore. I'm taking it this girl's boss is a guy..I come to the conclusion this guy must have a thing for her or something. What boss is gonna ask questions like where to u go out, who do you hang out with..come on now. That's not called getting to know your workers bc if that was the case he would have asked her directly, not behind her back. And so what she works with kids..she's not entitled to have life? Trust me there are a whole lotta doctors, lawyers, teachers..whomever who like to party on the weekends..and you know what..it's called having a life and their life. People can do drugs sitting in their houes or out someplace so even if this guy suspects something how is asking who she hangs out and where she goes relavant. This guy sounds like a wierdow. Jobs are there to pay the bills and as long as you're not coming into work high there's really nothing your job can do about it. Link to post Share on other sites
PoshPrincess Posted July 24, 2007 Share Posted July 24, 2007 yeh, but like i said, i do drug tests randomly every month aswell as police and all those other tests i mentioned. so when my boss goes behind back and asked these questions, its kinda invading my privacy but like i said, should what i do in my private life matter to him? really.. think about all the drugs screens and police checks i do, does he still need to ask about me? NTYCE, I totally agree that this is an invasion of your privacy. It all sounds a bit strange to be honest. Yes, if he has any genuine suspiscions regarding your conduct at work then he would have a right to investigate, but he is going the wrong way about it. What he is doing is extremely unprofessional and he shouldn't be discussing your work with an outsider. I don't necessarily think he has a 'thing' for you, as they would be pretty unusual questions to ask if he did have - it sounds more like he may have it in for you for one reason or another. If I were you I would consider talking to someone more senior than him (if there is someone) or maybe even confront him personally, although that may make things awkward for you and he may well try to talk his way out of it anyway. Just be careful! Link to post Share on other sites
julia pearson Posted July 24, 2007 Share Posted July 24, 2007 she is working with some of the most vulnerable. I think the best thing to do is to have a meeting with the boss and ask right up front why this is happening. Clear the table so to speak. If the OP has done nothing she needs to worry about she will come out clean and the matter will have been dealt with. Link to post Share on other sites
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