shadowplay Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 I met this guy a few months ago in a class and we started dating recently (he asked me out). We've only gone on two dates, but it seems like more. I feel like we really connected on our last date, and I can see myself in a relationship with him. The thing is he's going to school for a year in NY starting in the fall. (I live in Boston.) Since we just started dating we haven't had any talks about our future, but I'm concerned because I really would like to be committed to him and I don't know how he feels because he's moving in September. We're both early twenties btw. Do you think a guy in such a situation would have any intentions of getting in a relationship with a girl or would he just dismiss it as a summer fling? He doesn't seem at all like the player type and I get the vibe he definitely likes me. He imed me twice and called me once this week while he was away and talked a lot about what we should do when we see each other next. Another thing is I'll probably be moving to NY come the spring and his family lives in Boston so he has some ties to the place. What do you think? Should I bring up the subject or is it too soon? It's weird how we've only gone out twice but it feels like a lot more.
jcster Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 I think you're putting too much thought into it based on only having 2 dates. Maybe it's a fling - maybe he figures you guys will figure it out if it's not. But it's too soon for him to know his own intentions - let alone for you to know what he's thinking.
AHIWON Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 Yeah, two dates is really early even tho you like him alot. Long distance relationships can work for a while but only if you have an established relationship. Short term is extremely delicate and not able to handle the stress of a LDR. (Long Distance Relationship) Perhaps you two could meet some time in the future such as when you are done school? Plenty of nice men out there lady, be picky and get the one that is close to what you want. Don't pick exact cause there is no perfect man.
Author shadowplay Posted July 23, 2007 Author Posted July 23, 2007 Yeah, you guys are right that I'm getting a little too attached after only two dates. But we knew each other for a few months before and we talk/talked a fair amount online, so it feels like we've been seeing each other for longer. The thing is I really like him and I want things to work out. Boston's only a few horus from NY and he drives a lot, so I don't know. Also, like I said I'm moving to NY int he spring.
Author shadowplay Posted July 30, 2007 Author Posted July 30, 2007 So here's an update. We've seen each other twice more. Things are going really well and we've gotten closer. He told me he had a crush on me from the first time he met me, which made me feel better because he's kind of hard to read at times. Then I said "It's too bad you're going to NY." And he said "Yeah, things could get pretty heavy (meaning by the time he leaves), but I can visit you frequently and you can visit me. The good thing is I"ll finally have my own place (right now he's living with his parents, so we haven't had a place to go. we haven't had sex yet though because i'm trying to keep things at a slow pace)." What do you guys think? Is there a possibility of a relationship here? Should I address the issue or wait?
fray718 Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 "Yeah, things could get pretty heavy (meaning by the time he leaves), but I can visit you frequently and you can visit me. To me, this sounds like he is interested in a LDR. I don't think you should address it yet, instead just go wit the flow and do the long distance yet, but I also think you should wait on having sex until he brings up being exclusive. But for now, it sounds like there is a high chance that he wants to make something out of this. good luck!
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