LazyLibra Posted July 21, 2007 Posted July 21, 2007 I met this girl, we decided to take it slow get to know each other without blinding ourselves with sex. Well I fell in love with her and it's been a learning experience. We fight yes but we learn alot about one another and how we deal with problems and promises etc. So she goes in because she had some female problems. The doctor tells her she Has Herpes. No breakouts or anything but she is a carrier. She was open with me and i was shocked and somewhat angry. I love this girl we have had a great relationship. My friends tell me to run but I just can't. What would you do?
whichwayisup Posted July 21, 2007 Posted July 21, 2007 If you like her, stick with her. Learn about what she has, both of you protect yourselves when you do have sex, and there shouldn't be a problem. Many people are carriers, never have an outbreak, and some don't even know they're carriers either. You have a right to be angry, and to have doubts on whether or not you want to continue things with her, but from what you've said, it just sounds like you need some time to figure things out. I don't know what I'd do, I guess it would depend on the relationship itself, how long we'd been together, how serious etc...
Tyra Posted July 21, 2007 Posted July 21, 2007 Just like the post above me states. If you really have strong attraction towards her then stay. Im sure that she really cares about you. Reason being because she told you about it. If she didn't, she wouldn't have said anything, and just had sex with you unprotectively.Just protect yourself while having sex if you do decide to be with her.But just think things over with yourself and ask yourself, is this what I what. Because your health is at risk too. Oh and besides, you shouldn't have told your friends. You know what I mean. Cause it's none of their business.
jcster Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 Why are you angry? She's the one that has herpes - I'm sure she's not too thrilled about it! If you truly love her, you'll figure it out - but you need to put aside your anger and be a caring boyfriend if you decide to stick with her.
norajane Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 You have a right to be angry Why??? Angry at what? They never had sex. She told him as soon as she found out she was a carrier. What could he possibly have a right to be angry about? The injustice of falling in love with someone who has a virus?
allina Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 My friends tell me to run but I just can't. What is their reason for telling you to run? She didn't do anything wrong. Also that's VERY disrespectful that you told your friends about her medical condition.
AHIWON Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 If you really like her then this STD won't be a blocker for your relationship. Learn about herpies and a few other STD's while your at it. Don't infect yourself, READ and you will be able to deal with it just fine. For now always use condoms till you learn what it takes for unprotected sex with a herpies carrier. For the record I've never got an STD but I have had a interest in the health care behind it.
MikeC Posted July 23, 2007 Posted July 23, 2007 If you really care about her, it WONT MATTER what you friends think. Use your own judgement. To be honest, if you love someone enough, it won't matter what is wrong with them (well, most of the time atleast). Ignore the negative feedback, go with your heart and I am sure you will prevail.
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