Lizzie60 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Don't kid yourself. Some married cheater stopping by to be serviced is NOT a relationship. For me and those MMs it is... some of them I've been seeing for over 3 years on a regular basis.
Impudent Oyster Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 You'd be surprise my dear...you'd be surprise... I do provide many services... and in return... I get great sex... I see them under their best 'behaviour', they 'adore' me... I don't have to listen to the snoring... pick up their dirty socks... argue about money issues... about spending my money... my house is always clean... I can come and go as I want... I rather have my life than the life of many BS on here that are miserable with their scumbag... doing all the house work, taking care of the kids, laundry, having money issues... etc... etc... I can go on and on... As you say: 'Only a fool would accept OW status, and you're much too old to be that big a fool' Yes but the fool also accepts trips down south 'gracieuseté' of the MM...and get spoiled... yes... the fool is laughing... Ha-ha! BIG DEAL. So these guys buy you some jewelry or takes you on a few trips in exchange for sex and you're OK with it? I hope you manage to save a little for your retirement. Listen, I'm very, very happy with my husband, he is not a scumbag, he treats me like a princess. I don't do all the housework (we have a housekeeper), I don't have to work, My kids can mostly take care of themselves, not that I ever considered that a burden, I love spending time with them, we have no financial worries and we travel extensively, so laugh now, I expect you won't be laughing quite so hard when MM kicks and his wife is enjoying the life insurance. There is no fool like an old fool.
bish Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Then good for you. I believe you did the right thing. She didn't deserve your loyalty or trust. I don't think you are a fool. I think you are just very angry and directing your anger at the wrong people. I am not angry or disgusted by OM/OW in general...but then you have OW like Lizzie that thrives on spreadin' them for married men. She said she actively seeks them out and has several at one time. I hope one of these days she snatches a man with a wife the can turn into a real psycho, then she'll get what is coming to her.
Lizzie60 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 I am happy for you... I'm sure there are many W that have a good marriage and are happy...no doubt about it... To each our own... I don't want that... I want my freedom and many lovers to spoil me... I think I'm old enough to deserve the kind of life I want...
Impudent Oyster Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 I am happy for you... I'm sure there are many W that have a good marriage and are happy...no doubt about it... To each our own... I don't want that... I want my freedom and many lovers to spoil me... I think I'm old enough to deserve the kind of life I want... I can't argue with that, I believe you are living exactly the kind of life you deserve.
bish Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Ha-ha! BIG DEAL. So these guys buy you some jewelry or takes you on a few trips in exchange for sex And you know what they call women to take money for sex right?
Lizzie60 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 I am not angry or disgusted by OM/OW in general...but then you have OW like Lizzie that thrives on spreadin' them for married men. She said she actively seeks them out and has several at one time. I hope one of these days she snatches a man with a wife the can turn into a real psycho, then she'll get what is coming to her. Wishful thinking bish... I am not actively seeking them.. I have enough as it is... and it's not several at one time...it's one at a time... LOL I didn't twist their arms... plus I didn't go and get them in their home... they were out there seeking the same...
Lizzie60 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 And you know what they call women to take money for sex right? Like TC said... Smart Women!
bish Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Wishful thinking bish... I am not actively seeking them.. I have enough as it is... and it's not several at one time...it's one at a time... Thats not what you said in this forum.
Lizzie60 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Thats not what you said in this forum. We're not going to argue for 10-15 more or less... :laugh:
Tomcat33 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Once because I found out she cheated when we were engaged. The next day I found out she messed around during marriage, I told her to get out and that I was divorcing her. So I guess a whole day. Bish!!! Now I'm going to make a pact with you, if you stop harrassing people in OW/OM forum I will not blow your cover, you know exactly what I am talking about... Now let's have it let's be a good boy and promise to behave here while you post in this forum or your little lies don't get exposed.
annabelle75 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 I am not angry or disgusted by OM/OW in general...but then you have OW like Lizzie that thrives on spreadin' them for married men. She said she actively seeks them out and has several at one time. I hope one of these days she snatches a man with a wife the can turn into a real psycho, then she'll get what is coming to her. I think we can both agree that Lizzie is an enigma all unto herself. Not all OM/OW are like her. Infact I believe most aren't. Most of your posts seem to generalize that all OM/OW are just a bunch of whores out doing other people's spouses. Its really not the case. Most of the stories you read here are of people having affairs that last for years and most often end in heart break for one or both parties. I believe there are many different kinds of affairs and to generalize them all is to discredit your own opinions. When you take shots at Lizzie no one takes you seriously because you take shots at everyone. It just makes you out to be "the angry guy" that everyone wants to argue with. And on the subject of Lizzie, I honestly don't agree with her way of life but it is her life and not mine. I respect her right to live it the way she wants to. I also give her alot of credit for being such a BS magnet. Everytime she gets into a fight with a BS, she deflects the BS attention from those here looking for help and support from those that understand. Some times I wonder if she does it on purpose to give the rest of us a break from having to justify ourselves. For that I slaute her.
Mino Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Great post Annabell, Could not have said it better, and yes we need Lizzie here:)
Impudent Oyster Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 And you know what they call women to take money for sex right? Sure I do. Boyfriend is a nice euphemism for a john.
Lizzie60 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Bish!!! Now I'm going to make a pact with you, if you stop harrassing people in OW/OM forum I will not blow your cover, you know exactly what I am talking about... Now let's have it let's be a good boy and promise to behave here while you post in this forum or your little lies don't get exposed. Blackmailing... ummm interesting... Come on TC... tell us ... tell us...pplllllleeease :bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny: LOL
Mino Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Yeah, I would like to know too, I always knew he was a bitter person, by the first post he made to me.
Tomcat33 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Blackmailing... ummm interesting... Come on TC... tell us ... tell us...pplllllleeease :bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny: LOL Well I want to... but my goal is that we all win in the end. If he states here that he will stop the innecessary isnults then I will stick to my word and I will not throw him to the lions. Ball's in his court.
Lizzie60 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 And on the subject of Lizzie, I honestly don't agree with her way of life but it is her life and not mine. I respect her right to live it the way she wants to. I appreciate that... I know it's not for everyone...I am not stupid... On the other hand... I do think that some OW are happy with this kind of relationship, especially those who are married and have kids and don't want to leave their family and it's their way of staying sane and happy. I don't stir the pot on purpose but if I am viciously attacked, like I am often... I will defend myself and can become quite nasty and cruel... I think I am smart enough to be able to help on here, this is all I want. My lifestyle shouldn't be an issue about my capacity to give advice.
Tomcat33 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 I don't stir the pot on purpose but if I am viciously attacked, like I am often... I will defend myself and can become quite nasty and cruel... I think I am smart enough to be able to help on here, this is all I want. My lifestyle shouldn't be an issue about my capacity to give advice. That's why I like your style. your lifestyle has absolutely nothing to do with the fact that you truely are insightful and you do help. Which is more than I can say for all the purtinas who claim to be morally superior. What the heck good is being so moral if you are going to destroy people with your attitude anyway. Seems totally hypocritical to me...
Lizzie60 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 what is the time limit you're giving bish to post that he will leave the OW's forum alone... from what I understood... you want him to post his affidavit on here.. right?
annabelle75 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Sure I do. Boyfriend is a nice euphemism for a john. Listen, I'm very, very happy with my husband, he is not a scumbag, he treats me like a princess. I don't do all the housework (we have a housekeeper), I don't have to work, My kids can mostly take care of themselves, not that I ever considered that a burden, I love spending time with them, we have no financial worries and we travel extensively, so laugh now, I expect you won't be laughing quite so hard when MM kicks and his wife is enjoying the life insurance. There is no fool like an old fool. Can I point out the irony of you calling Lizzie a whore for accpeting gifts and trips from men? I guess it makes it ok if you do it under the guise of matrimony.
Lizzie60 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Can I point out the irony of you calling Lizzie a whore for accpeting gifts and trips from men? I guess it makes it ok if you do it under the guise of matrimony. LOL... good catch.
sadbuttrue Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 IO, i agree with annabelle, why are you here if your husband's indiscretion was so insignificant to you? i think it bothers you more than you would like others to know. it is ok to be hurt by this. it is a hard thing to recover from i am sure.
Lizzie60 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 you have to make dinner??? See this is one thing I enjoy about my life... I don't have to make dinner..
herenow Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 I agree! And so to further my point, if a copule is going to be made up of one person who is as you just described, who refuses to fix themselves the marriage itself is as much as destroyed because for as long as that broken part makes part of the equation the marriage is destoyed... may not be through infidelity again but on other levels. Right, but to answer the original question. Isn't that a reason to not get involved with a MM? If a MM who cheats is not capable of facing his own problems, why would anyone voluntarily have an affair with a MM? Isn't that self inflicted pain? Please don't come back with the "why would a BW take back her H after he cheated, isn't that asking for trouble?" question. That is an other thread and I believe I have answered that question many times.
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