IpAncA Posted July 20, 2007 Posted July 20, 2007 Divorce doesn't always go smoothly. Especially when a child is involved. Are you thinking you'll get fully Cust.?
Author bouncingheart Posted July 20, 2007 Author Posted July 20, 2007 full cust.. with him visiting? He does care for her.. he just doesn't pay much attention to her( much).. It's how he was raised.. his mother and mothers helper did all the children raising.. father was only there for dicipline and bringing home the money.
Author bouncingheart Posted July 20, 2007 Author Posted July 20, 2007 wow.. there are a lot more data entry jobs in my home area than where i am now.. that's really weird considering my area is huge compared to there.
Author bouncingheart Posted July 20, 2007 Author Posted July 20, 2007 you ain't gotta tell me twice ha ha ha.. I'm from a weird family.. stbx doesn't understand our weirdness.. We just try to have fun! It must suck growing up in a loveless no fun home.
Author bouncingheart Posted July 20, 2007 Author Posted July 20, 2007 im looking online for jobs and apartments.. and things seem a lot better at "home" maybe once I finally get out and down there.. settled.. things will be better.. Why does life have to be so damned hard.
CryingCanuck Posted July 20, 2007 Posted July 20, 2007 Okay first of all I hate to jump in on threads but this one really caught my attention so here goes. I had lived with a depressive for 23 years, yes 23 years, and they were tough years for both of us and leaving is not usually the answer hun, you admit you have a depressive illness and believe me as much as you find it difficult, the other shoe finds it difficult also. I hate it when someone says that the guy is controlling or whatever without knowing the whole story, and believe me there usually are two, and then you take what is said and split it right down the middle and you usually have the real one.... You have issues dear lady, there is no doubt about that and you do need help but slow down I think, on the leaving, life doesn't usually get better and most often gets much much worse.. Case in point if you have the time read up on my threads, you will maybe see yourself in my EX and look at her life now and mine. Your Hub as much as he's trying doesn't understand depression at all, all he maybe sees is that he's a total failure in his marriage and that he can;t make you happy, cuzz if he did you would be so happy to be cleaning, making dinner, and taking care of your child... It does sound to me like you're actually blaming him ( not in so many word) but blaming him for your illness and you might think that if you were away form him things would be better... Well a thought you might need is that your illness would be with you regardless of who you were with.... and that maybe he is what has been keeping you out of hospitals...Who knows...... Anyway, I don't want to make it sound like I'm bashing you because I'm not, only suggesting that there are better alternatives to bailing on a marriage, that should be the last thing you should be doing hun....... C.C.
Ladyjane14 Posted July 21, 2007 Posted July 21, 2007 I'm in agreement with CC. Not to be unkind, but your husband would have to be out of his mind to allow you to take off with his daughter and then settle for "video conferencing" with her.... not to mention paying child support for the privilege. I don't think you're being very realistic right now.
Author bouncingheart Posted July 21, 2007 Author Posted July 21, 2007 Ok, I was overdoing it moving away. I would like to anyways.. but I also want things to be easier for him and dd.. CC I did read some of your posts and I don't agree. I've had mild depression since childhood. Our marriage has made it a ton worse. I will pm you about what started it in the first place. I've never been hospitalized and nor will I try and hurt myself. Dh is not concerned for my safety. If anything.. mentally I am better than before.. just crazy about my bad marriage. ok, off to pm you
Author bouncingheart Posted July 21, 2007 Author Posted July 21, 2007 ok, how do I pm you? ok, I guess I can't cus I don't have enough posts.. how many posts do I need?
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