flm Posted July 20, 2007 Posted July 20, 2007 Ok so this is a REALLY complicated, but i'll try and explain as best i can. So i just ended what i guess you can call a "relationship" with this girl that i have been sharing strong feelings with.She feels the same way about me so we both love each other very much.Me and this girl have been talking for over 2 years now and have been "together" for about a year, The thing is..she lives pretty far away..like in another state.This didn't bug us one bit as we had plans of being together in a couple of years and settled for a net relationship. here's where it gets complicated, i have a girlfriend here where i live..we've been together for 2 years. well (we'll just call her "molly") molly has known about my gf since the beginning and seemed to be fine with it..i do have feelings for my gf but my feelings for molly are way stronger..the reason i never left molly is because she's a very good friend and i know it will hurt her very much if i leave, so i stick around..well..molly and i have been arguing for about a month and she came out and told me that she wanted to end things because it wasn't "just us".the thing is i don't wanna leave my gf for the reason stated and i guess you can say that i'm scared of being alone.i don't wanna end a 2 year relationship then have me and molly not work out or our plans..the plan was that when molly could she would move out here with me and i would end things with my gf before hand.. I know molly still loves me and i still love her but she claims that she needs time to think. so should i just give up on molly and move on? i really don't want to, all i can do is think about her.. I'm really lost people, any help would be appreciated
fairy_dust Posted July 20, 2007 Posted July 20, 2007 Alright you are dealing with peoples feelings! Sounds to me you are very young and inexperienced with how to handle your feelings and the so called "relationships" you are involved with between 2 people whom one is near and the other far. You have to make up your mind, you cannot just put 2 people on the back burner while your mixed up feelings are trying to think about holding both of them in your grasp. You need to grow up and think about more important things about a person you are getting to know or already have established a real live relationship with. If your so curios about the other person drop the relationship you have and find out about this other person. Other than that DO NOT have the girl your with now feel like crap about you and your "on the side" long distance relationship. Make up your mind and be mature and considerate for other's and how they feel. Other than your own conveniences to have them both and feel 'safe' of your decisions. You live and you learn through life's tough moments and you grow as a person knowing what you want or look for in people that you get intimately involved with. But it's that saying "Don't do things to other's that you don't want to be done to you"...
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