Darth Vader Posted July 24, 2007 Posted July 24, 2007 In the mean time, stay the heck away from her, because she'll start throwing bullcrap at you to suck you in! "Oh honey, I'm sooo sorry for blah blah blah" "I want you back" etc, PLEASE! Don't give her the time of day, don't answer any calls from her, if she calls you from another phone, hang up on her! If she shows up at your door, slam the door in her face, I know, that would be hard, but, you gotta do it to move on! It's your time, your time to heal from this slop, she squandered her time.
Author ARDriver01 Posted August 3, 2007 Author Posted August 3, 2007 Should we attempt counseling? We've never seriously tried MC. Is it even worth it?
Ladyjane14 Posted August 3, 2007 Posted August 3, 2007 Should we attempt counseling? We've never seriously tried MC. Is it even worth it? MC can help you with marital problems. It can help you learn better communications skills. It can help a couple learn to be more compassionate with one another and more aware of each other's needs. But... if you've given us a fairly accurate account of what's going on with your wife, then 'no'... I don't think MC will help. She's messed up on the inside. It doesn't sound like she's capable of true partnership at this time. Her judgment is poor, and if I had to hazard a guess she lacks impulse control. She's treated you as an authority figure rather than an equal... like you were her Daddy or something, which makes me wonder if she's looking for someone to control her since she seems to lack the ability to control herself. And even though she bucks that authority and goes her own way at times, the behavior seems very immature, like that of a teenager. Not to be the harbinger of doom or anything, but it wouldn't be an honest opinion if I blew a bunch of sunshine up your skirt and told you it's all gonna work out. I think this chick needs to fix HERSELF from the inside out, otherwise she's no good to anyone.
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