IWalkAlone Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 Here's a better idea. Don't go and date someone if your going to have problems with their weight. Find someone who fits the bill and not someone who doesn't but you hope someday she might. Even though I'm a skinny guy, 5'10" and 165 pounds, it seems that whenever I meet a woman who is interested in dating me she is overweight. I like skiing, hiking and mountain biking, and I'd like to meet someone who can so these things with me. I do meet attractive, physically fit women, but they are almost always in a relationship, or once I start asking them out or flirting with them, they claim to be busy or stop talking to me. If it weren't for overweight women, I'd never have sex. Why is it perfectly OK for women to avoid dating me because they's rather have someone more muscular and cut, yet if I'd like the women I date more fit, attractive women, I'm superficial?
directx Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 So what if they always overweight. Its your choice to date them. I can give you a list of overweight woman that make me drool. (I can do the same with skinny, foreign, whatever). I don't think women are so simple that you have the one thing that attracts only overweight women. Are you sending signals to overweight women that make them want to approach you? Are you only comfortable around them? And blow it with average size, skinny women? I think you may be contributing to the situation and you may not realize it.
alphamale Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 yes IWA the heavy chicks are usually the more aggressive ones. prolly cause not a lot of guys hit on them.
StayClose Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 Let's see... What I like about overweight women is that they are less likely to have other guys competing for their attention, and they tend to have bigger boobs. Not that boobs are the most important thing, intelligence, personality compatability and sex drive (none of which are related to weight) are all more important. But as far as physical attraction goes, big boobs can offset other parts that ideally shouldn't be so big. When I meet women who meet more of what I want (intelligent, compatable personality AND physically fit), there is usually an ex who wants to get back together with her, or other guys who want to date her, and she usually picks the other guy, either before I've had a chance to date her, or after one or two dates. And that's if she doesn't start acting cold to me after she lears I'm romantically interested in her. Some of the advice on this site says I guy would wait until a woman gives him an "opening" (prolonged eye contact, smiling, touches on the arm, seems very interested in what I'm saying, etc.) before making his move. I've exerienced this, and hooking up is easy when this happens. However, then this does happen, it is almost always from an overweight woman.
bish Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 Hey, nothing wrong with overweight girls. I would understand if they are obese, but a girl with a little weight actually is quite sexy in my book. Like I've said before, if I'm attracted to her face...smile and eyes mainly, then the rest of her doesn't matter as much. And the few "overweight" girls I have been with have been better in the sack!!
quankanne Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 "overweight" in the sense that they're a size 8 – or God forbid – 10, and not a size 2? Or "overweight" in a truly unhealthy way? If it's the former, then I think you're a big dummy for gettting caught up in the values the media dictate we must possess, though if it's the latter, I can see how you'd be concerned. if the weight thing bothers you, then stop porking these gals, period! Life's too short to waste it on a shallow partner ...
Lizzie60 Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 Sorry if I sound harsh..but this is what came to my mind when I read your post: you say: Even though I'm a skinny guy, 5'10" and 165 pounds, it seems that whenever I meet a woman who is interested in dating me she is overweight. I like skiing, hiking and mountain biking, and I'd like to meet someone who can so these things with me. I do meet attractive, physically fit women, but they are almost always in a relationship, or once I start asking them out or flirting with them, they claim to be busy or stop talking to me. If it weren't for overweight women, I'd never have sex. Maybe it's you... you seem to attract women who have a hard time finding guys... Maybe it's your personality, your manners, your looks, the way you dress or carry yourself... it could be so many things ... because, really, I don't see why you can't date physically fit women... If you have a really ...and I mean a really good female friend, maybe she can tell you what's wrong... ask her to be really honest with you...or maybe ask a guy, he might give you some insight...
quankanne Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 well, Miss Lizzie, my other thought was maybe they consider him a sympathy screw since he's scrawny and probably wouldng get any otherwise? Some people don't have problems with sympathy sex because they're guaranteed a bit of the action ...
Lizzie60 Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 well, Miss Lizzie, my other thought was maybe they consider him a sympathy screw since he's scrawny and probably wouldng get any otherwise? Some people don't have problems with sympathy sex because they're guaranteed a bit of the action ... Sympathy sex....why would the overweight girls have 'sympathy sex' ...LOL unless it's the only time they can get some.... You got to be desparate to have sympathy sex... eeewwwwww I feel that there is something wrong with him... I don't know him so it's hard to say... we only have one side of the story here...
Author IWalkAlone Posted July 19, 2007 Author Posted July 19, 2007 Maybe it's you... you seem to attract women who have a hard time finding guys... Maybe it's your personality, your manners, your looks, the way you dress or carry yourself... it could be so many things ... because, really, I don't see why you can't date physically fit women... As best I can figure out, it's because I have more of a lean "Tour de France" rider's body than a football player's body an squinty eyes - women seem to be drawn to guys with big eyes. I also have no interest in professional sports. Some women (and men) seem to find that "unmanly." If you have a really ...and I mean a really good female friend, maybe she can tell you what's wrong... ask her to be really honest with you...or maybe ask a guy, he might give you some insight... Female friends tend to say "there's someone out there for everyone, you'll meet her." Guys tend to give the sort of dating advice you read in this forum, or they're the cynical "Women are b!tches!" type.
jcster Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 Just because they're overweight doesn't mean they're out of shape. Take them hiking or biking.
Lizzie60 Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 As best I can figure out, it's because I have more of a lean "Tour de France" rider's body than a football player's body an squinty eyes - women seem to be drawn to guys with big eyes. I also have no interest in professional sports. Some women (and men) seem to find that "unmanly." Female friends tend to say "there's someone out there for everyone, you'll meet her." Guys tend to give the sort of dating advice you read in this forum, or they're the cynical "Women are b!tches!" type. to do with your body... attractive, fit women are attracted to your type ...it has to be something else... I am not attracted to a sporty guy... in fact, I hate sports... it's not unmanly either... I don't know.. really what it is..but I see no reasons why you can't get a fit woman...unless it's your personality, character, your hair, your teeth... your breath... it is strange.
Trialbyfire Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 The only question I have is, how do you view women? Are they objects or real people? Do you want someone you can pull out when the need strikes you, regardless of the type of service you need, or do you view them as someone you enjoy being around?
uniqueone Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 If it weren't for overweight women, I'd never have sex. This line bothered me. It sounds like you date them for sex.
Star Gazer Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 Just because you have a fit body doesn't mean you have an attractive face, IWA. A body alone doesn't make you attractive to the opposite sex...
LN99 Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 I am a bit overweight and I don't have sex with every guy who offers! I have my preferences and well....personality is one of the big ones. Along with his eyes...gotta love them. I have dated mostly guys who were around your stats.....tall and thin (some even shorter). They didn't seem to mind. The ones who did, I quickly tossed to the curb. Just don't go using these girls. If your looking for a skinny twig, then go for one. Don't use people just for sex, ok?
directx Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 Just because you have a fit body doesn't mean you have an attractive face, IWA. A body alone doesn't make you attractive to the opposite sex... I agree. If all you have is a pretty face and body and not much else to offer, so much is being missed out on.
amymarieca Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 Just because they're overweight doesn't mean they're out of shape. Take them hiking or biking. Ha ha! I totally agree. I am a heavier set woman and I can bust ass on an eliptical trainer for 60 minutes straight. Just cause I have a big ass doesn't mean my muscles and heart are weak.
amymarieca Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 I find it odd how people seem to give the idea that overweight woman are lower on the dating scale. Anyone who judges someone because of their body type is shallow. I'm and overweight girl. I'm also pretty, smart, have a good career, and fun to be with. Why should I get treated like some sort of fungus by the opposite sex? Maybe the OP's problem is that he really is just shallow.
directx Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 Ha ha! I totally agree. I am a heavier set woman and I can bust ass on an eliptical trainer for 60 minutes straight. Just cause I have a big ass doesn't mean my muscles and heart are weak. That is so true! You can't judge someone's physical ability by looks alone! I used to work out and get much exercise, but really didn't lose weight until I cut my calories in a specific way before I began losing the weight. (thats not to say don't continue working out! That can only be good for you)
jcster Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 Just cause I have a big ass doesn't mean my muscles and heart are weak. Yup. It's a common misconception. Not everyone falls within the limited height/weight chart that somehow, someway, the insurance companies managed to make holy writ! "Overweight" women can kick your butt, they're not always desperately seeking sex from lonely men, and despite all of the slanderous, snide and generally uninformed comments that are all over this site - we don't feel bad about ourselves. And to the folks that can "overlook" our weight because we have big boobs...boobs are fat folks - if they're natural, some ass is going to come with them. Thank you for biding with me on this (not entirely unwarranted) screed.
Star Gazer Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 I agree. If all you have is a pretty face and body and not much else to offer, so much is being missed out on. True, but my point was that he's assuming he has an attractive FACE in addition to a fit body.
LN99 Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 I find it odd how people seem to give the idea that overweight woman are lower on the dating scale. Anyone who judges someone because of their body type is shallow. I'm and overweight girl. I'm also pretty, smart, have a good career, and fun to be with. Why should I get treated like some sort of fungus by the opposite sex? Maybe the OP's problem is that he really is just shallow. I so agree with this! AMEN! Guys who don't give me the time of the day because of my weight.....I don't even bother with. If they can't see past a scale, then thats their loss.
directx Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 I find it odd how people seem to give the idea that overweight woman are lower on the dating scale. Anyone who judges someone because of their body type is shallow. I'm and overweight girl. I'm also pretty, smart, have a good career, and fun to be with. Why should I get treated like some sort of fungus by the opposite sex? Maybe the OP's problem is that he really is just shallow. I think its odd as well. I still think its because of the media and models. One can always refer back to how women were portrayed in art way back, where they have those big curves, thighs, etc. Now those are GOOD women! I think Rita Cosby, Queen Latifah, and Mary Murphy to name a few are hot as hell. And if you are being treated like a fungus by the OS, I wonder if those men are worried it won't be acceptable society wise? That could be part of it,which would be sad. (and at least you are treated like fungus for that reason. I treated that way because I'm ugly, ignorant, under achieving job, and absoulutley no fun to be with)
playabum17 Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 I'm a newbie, so I hope I don't get flamed... Back to the title of your thread, what if only overweight girls date you....so what? Are you looking past their weight and seeing what is inside? I completely understand that you have to be attracted to a person, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder and you never know what beauty lies within that person.
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