Is it ok to leave a female in a restarunt if she answers her cell phone on 1st date?

[dbtmarley]

If a woman did that to me I would probably grab my cell phone and call her.

[DateAnalyzer]

Can't the women excuse herself and go to the bathroom or something, I'm no longer going to accept a woman answering a phone while sitting across from me

[sofakingmad]

Can't the women excuse herself and go to the bathroom or something, I'm no longer going to accept a woman answering a phone while sitting across from me

 

well ok but you're having a hard time getting past the first date. do you really think you need add another reason to hurt your chances? you even said it hasn't happened to you in years so wtf are you worrying about?

[DateAnalyzer]

well ok but you're having a hard time getting past the first date. do you really think you need add another reason to hurt your chances? you even said it hasn't happened to you in years so wtf are you worrying about?

 

 

look i have to keep in mind that she is not the only who has to be impressed but I do too. So just like I'm expected to not give off a rude vibe at the table, the same goes for women. I'm sure a woman would have something to say if a man answered his cell phone. They would assume it's a girl but when they do it-"IT COULD BE AN EMERGENCY"

[sofakingmad]

i have a young son. if i'm on a date and i see i have a msg and it's from my ex i'm calling her back to find out if he is ok. if i explain that to my date she should understand if she doesn't oh well that's her problem. at the very least i put my phone on vibrate or meeting mode and i keep it out of site. i already posted about the date i had where the woman got at least 5 calls and i had to hear her stupid ring tone every time and they weren't emergency calls. now THAT is rude. big difference.

[a4a]

Can't the women excuse herself and go to the bathroom or something, I'm no longer going to accept a woman answering a phone while sitting across from me

 

Well that is rude of you in my opinion. I cannot go without answering my phone. I am on call 24/7 for both jobs, and some clients can only contact you after 5 pm.

 

Get over yourself...... you just met the person and expect them to stop their life/job to just focus on you?.... You don't think that maybe a call is important to them? (be it business or personal..... )how do you know?

 

A call can be answered and simply tell the caller you will get back with them.

 

Now if they are rambling to a friend about their latest shoe purchase... yes that is rude. But some calls must be answered.

[IpAncA]

If a woman did that to me I would probably grab my cell phone and call her.

 

That would be funny. I'd love it if someone did that to me.

 

Can't the women excuse herself and go to the bathroom or something, I'm no longer going to accept a woman answering a phone while sitting across from me

 

Wow.

 

I do think it's rude but if they have a good reason, then what's the big deal? What if the person you were dating had children or something. You can't tell her she can't pick up the phone.

 

I keep my phone on vibrate and I never pick it up unless I'm expecting an important call that can't wait.

[Topper]

Here is a little tip. Some woman use that call as away to get out of the date.

last year I met a woman for dinner. It was a Date from a dating site on the net. We had a drink at the bar while waiting for the table. Her phone rings. she says she has to take this call. In the conversation she says " Oh he seems really nice.' She then hangs up. applogizes and says that she had her girlfriend call. If my Date had thought I was creepy or something she would say she had to run to some emergancy. It did kind of bother me at first. The more I thought about it the more I realized that it was just her way of protecting herself. I made a joke about her haveing to go becuse her cat was having a hairball emergancy. We went out 3 or 4 times but there wasn't any real spark between us. I still see her profile up on match.

[serial muse]

I've only ever been on one date where this happened to me, that I can think of. I thought it was incredibly rude - he had a five-minute conversation right there, at the dinner table. He was the kind of slick guy who wants to impress people with his fancy car and how important and busy he is. Blech. I didn't know him well enough yet to know for sure whether that was why he answered his phone at dinner, though (i.e. to look important and busy), so I gave him the benefit of the doubt that time.

 

He asked me out again and I agreed to go...and this time he was RUDE to our waiter in a really embarrassing way.

 

That was enough for me. No third date. Asshat.

[jcster]

He asked me out again and I agreed to go...and this time he was RUDE to our waiter in a really embarrassing way.

 

I never, ever, ever go out with someone who is rude to the waitstaff. Good call.

[tanbark813]

If a woman did that to me I would probably grab my cell phone and call her.

 

Dude, I'm so doing this the next time that happens.

 

I always do and so did my ex and the guys I've dated before. All my friends and family do it. Is this so unusual?

 

I do it also. The only time my cell phone ringer is on is when I'm at home. It's always on vibrate once I leave the house. It's not just for courtesy, though, because I usually have my music up too loud while driving around to hear the ringer anyway.

[LoveLace]

I went on a blind date once, and figured it'd be a flop (cuz they all are!), so I told my girl friend to call me at a specific time. I wouldn't answer if it was going well, but the guy was a huge turn-off from the start, so I answered when she called and told him I was going to meet some friends. (and even after that he kept trying to contact me!) So yes, there is always a chance that your date has the same plan.

 

To answer a casual call is can be rude, but keep in my mind people have children, sick family members, high-demand careers...its not all about you, all of the time.

[bish]

I think this is the most rude and ignorant thing a woman can do on a first date. It hasn't happened to me in years but I see it all the time on Blind Date. Why can't women just let the call go to their voicemail?????

 

I'll tell you one thing, I wouldn't date a woman that is CONSTANTLY on her cell phone. I get the vision of an airheaded little tart like Paris Hilton having nothing better to do than gab away on her phone...."like oh my god....gag me with a spoon....for real??"

[DateAnalyzer]

I went on a blind date once, and figured it'd be a flop (cuz they all are!), so I told my girl friend to call me at a specific time. I wouldn't answer if it was going well, but the guy was a huge turn-off from the start, so I answered when she called and told him I was going to meet some friends. (and even after that he kept trying to contact me!) So yes, there is always a chance that your date has the same plan.

 

To answer a casual call is can be rude, but keep in my mind people have children, sick family members, high-demand careers...its not all about you, all of the time.

 

 

well see that's why I would leave her in the restarunt because it's a good chance it's something behind it

[a4a]

So what if they don't like you should they sit there and pretend to for an hour or more.....

 

Take your rejection like a man.

[Topper]

So you have to ask yourself why would she be useing escape plan?

From reading a few of your post I get the idea your doing a lot of self sabotaging on your dates. You may want to take a look at what your doing to bring about failure.

[LoveLace]

well see that's why I would leave her in the restarunt because it's a good chance it's something behind it

 

You can't always assume this is the deal. Give a person a chance to politely explain themselves...if they don't, they are not worth it anyway. But a date is a date and leaving someone in a restaurant is more rude than her answering the phone.

 

You sound bitter about something, not sure what, but you sorda got this attitude that the whole world is against you...you don't seem very optimistic. Don't expect others to make you happy until your happy with yourself.

[DateAnalyzer]

You can't always assume this is the deal. Give a person a chance to politely explain themselves...if they don't, they are not worth it anyway. But a date is a date and leaving someone in a restaurant is more rude than her answering the phone.

 

You sound bitter about something, not sure what, but you sorda got this attitude that the whole world is against you...you don't seem very optimistic. Don't expect others to make you happy until your happy with yourself.

 

 

It's just a very arkward feeling to have a woman sitting across from me on the first date taking out her cell phone and answering it. second date, not a big deal but defintely not on a first date.

[LoveLace]

It's just a very arkward feeling to have a woman sitting across from me on the first date taking out her cell phone and answering it. second date, not a big deal but defintely not on a first date.

 

Fine...then don't go out with her again, but it's still ridiculous to leave them there. And again there are situations where your feeling awkward on a 1st date is not as important as that phone call might be, so get over it. If the chick is gabbing on her phone 80% of the time you are with her, that's a better reason to be so "hung up" on the issue...

[Pyro]

I always do and so did my ex and the guys I've dated before. All my friends and family do it. Is this so unusual?

 

Same here, but I am very surprised about how many people do not do that at my school. IMO its common sense.