unimoko Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 My bofriend dumped me about a month ago. We were with each other almost a year, we started dating Aug. 2007. He said the reason was because he wanted to persue his flight instruciton and he could not spend any time with me. He is also a personal trainer and works everyday ( 7 days a week) and I saw him during gaps during th day. I knew that he was not lying beause he would always call me from one of his facilites that we worked at and sometimes I would drop by a gym and would always see him there. so I don't think it was because of another woman. Even though I was (mayabe still) heartbroken his birthday is next Monday. I wanted to call and wish him a happy birthday. Orginally, before we broke up we were going to dinner. But since that porabably is not going to happen I thought calling and just saying Happy-B day. But I don't want to come as a sloppy mess. He told me that he was never stayed in contact with any of his exes, even if ended on good terms. I am not going to say the relationship was glamorous, but for the most part we rarely fought and generally got along with each other. I never met his friends/family/roomate but I trusted in time he would introduce me. He met my parents shortly before we broke up. Although he is 33 he never was in a long-term serious relationship (unless you count dating a girl on and off for 3 years) and I knew he was not ready for marriage. But I am 25 and I was not ready myself. But I think the realtionship was good as long as I did not interferee with his cash flow. I guess part of me was just so happy to be in the relationship away from the flaws. So part of me wants to just move on from the situation but I do miss him and I do not know if calling him was the best thing. Suggestions?
jerbear Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 Short and sweet advice. If you were dumped, then move on. If the dumper wants to talk, he'll call you. It is a good ego boost for the dumper knowing that the dumpee still has a thing. Don't allow yourself to be a hollaback girl. IMO, don't call the dumper/ex.
tinke Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 don't call him. why should he still reap your goodness and kind-heartedness. he knew his b-day was coming up when he left you..must not matter to him.
CaliGuy Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 Short answer: No. The best revenge is a life well lived (without him!)
funkybassplayer Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 now this is funny, my exs b.day is in 2 weeks (i thought) i was thinking about sending a card (shes with new guy) anyway, i found out by accident it was a month ago!! I felt great for not sending it.........they dumped you, dont let them feel that you still need them, move on to better, heal for as long as it takes though. This act of no contact and b/card s etc will show your strenth, and your self respect, to you and them.
sonyjay999 Posted July 30, 2007 Posted July 30, 2007 i wouldnt call i mean atleast he was honest on why he couldnt continue the relationship i know i say i cant be in contact with any ex but some rules are made to be broken but if u was too call him he will think that u r still into him but if u dont care what he think then go ahead and call him make it brief like i just call to wish u an happy b day and how are you then get going good luck and keep ur head up
9Lives Posted July 31, 2007 Posted July 31, 2007 I say dont do it. It is not a good idea. You wont get anything out of it either. I would just leave it alone. If he wants to talk to you...he will contact you. I have thought about it myself sometimes but I know it will only hurt me more especially if it meant nothing to him. Trust me...I want to talk with him very bad but what is the point. I mind as well just suffer and cry.
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