Brownie0915 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Me and my ex went out for nearly a year. We broke up and went back out 3 times over this year because of her no being happy with our relationship. It all started on a thursday when we had the most ackward day of our relationship. We fought about every little thing, i felt ackward sitting in the car with her(feeling like she didn't want anything to do with me) I tried to kiss her but by her kiss back I could tell that she didn't want to. The next day friday, seemed like a more normal day, i didn't see her but the talks on the phone were normal. She called me late that night drunk crying and ended it for good this time. She said she can't do it anymore and that our relationship is crap. She can't pretend anymore that she's happy when she's really not. Then she hung up on me. I tried calling her the next day but she didn't return any of my calls. She finally called me sunday and said that by going out saturday and having fun and not talking to me and fighting, she realized that she didn't need our relationship anymore. She said we could both do better, and over the past couple days she has seen more of a relationship out of someone else and her friends than I have gave her the entire year(which really hurt). We have gave our things back to each other today(wednesday) and i realized it is over for good. Yet I find myself always thinking and dreaming about her constantly and breaking down and crying randomly during the day. i have this gut-like feeling in my stomach 24/7 and have no appetite. I have a facebook and a myspace, so I always find myself looking at her page. I don't know how to get over her and it's driving me crazy. I guess reality is that it has only been a couple of days and these sort of things take time. A relationship between me and her just doesn't work. I was just looking for some advice on how to get her out of my head and stop thinking about her all the time, because I still do love her and know she loves me.
pantheralum93 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I know exactly how you feel man. My gf of 5 months broke up with me and although she didn't say the things your girl said she certianly has made me feel much like you feel. Not returning my calls or texts. Telling me before she broke it off that I'm too this and that and totally playing with my mind, my heart and my emotions. You need to go into immediate NO CONTACT. I tell you this because I myself have broken that very golden rule. But if you truly want to get over her you will need to do this. This means no My Space. No Facebook. No contact period. Move onward and upward as my friends would say. Good luck
Author Brownie0915 Posted July 18, 2007 Author Posted July 18, 2007 Thanks man, I had to keep in contact with her til i gave her, her things back and got mine. I made her this picture frame for her birthday before we broke up that had pictures of me and her on it, and her birthday is friday so i gave it to her. She hugged me and said i love you to me. I forgot to mention, we didnt break up because she doesn't love me. We broke up because we tried to make our relationship work so many times and it just wouldnt, even though we both love each other she finally decided enough is enough and broke things off for good. One more ?, in this whole no contact thing, should i deny her calls when she tries to call me?
funkybassplayer Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 as the above said you have to go into no contact. Each time you try to contact and no repsonce, it will be like a stab in the heart. What you MUST do from now is stop looking at her myspace, belive me it will bring you down further than you are now. She was out of order the way she ended it, ther is no need to make some1 feel lile crap, but the same happened to me. There is nothing you can do. I ahve to be blunt, she does not love you, and she wont be coming back. Im only saying this b/c the sooner you let go of hope, the faster you will move on. Cry sulk do whatever, but looking for answers from her will not do anything but bring you down. Post here thre are some great helpful and kind people, take time out for you, heal, them go forward. i wish you well man, your in this club now, and were all been through it, and here to help. I myself miss my ex and her 3 kids, but she went strait to another relationship after begging to stay frieds. I agreed to this for the kids as she put it, then new chap comes and im forgotton and made to feel like crap. Some people can be so selfish and cruel with no regard for feelings. Get your own back by walking away, and keep your self respect. I did that, and i feel good for it. BE strong.
Author Brownie0915 Posted July 20, 2007 Author Posted July 20, 2007 Well it's almost been a week since we broke up and I have tried the no-contact thing a few days and contact a few days. On the no-contact days I feel normal sometimes and find myself constantly wanting her to call or wondering what she is doing or if she misses me. But on other days i find myself calling her to talk and she's nice about it but she just doesnt seem as interested as I am, and i have to call her, she doesnt call me. And through the rest of the day I find myself constantly thinking about her and hoping we will get back together, but the truth is I have a feeling we won't and I know I need to move on. Plus on these days I have no appetite so that can't be healthy. So I say no-contact is definatly the way to go, and each day is like a little building block of my heart being put back together, and one day my heart will be complete again with happiness and willingness to find someone that will feel the same way!
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