heartoutside Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Well I kind of hit me hard, probably the hardest yet today. A total sense of hopelessness. My friend this weekend told me that in talking with my ex she had told her that she had told her "mother" that she didn't want to move on. So I asked her again if that's what she really said, and she replied, "I DON'T THINK SHE SAID SHE DIDN'T WANT TO MOVE ON--SHE JUST SAID THAT THIS WASN'T ABOUT HER FINDING SOMEONE ELSE TO BE WITH." This is why I have to stop talking to our friends. Who knows what this means. Then what is it about? Why won't my ex tell me? All that I've heard from HER mouth is she is confused, and needs time and space to figure things out. That I should focus on my career, that she still feels the same about me, it's just the title of girlfriend isn't there. I had a freelance job this morning, and on the ride back, I lost it....I started crying, and walked in my house and my hands were shaking and just let it out....my brother luckly is spending the week with me and just listend to me and bascially told me that what this is all about is her getting her space, and me getting my space. And if she did come back right now, I would probably give her the world on a plate and she would probably just end up leaving again. I also think I came to a reality that she isn't coming back, it hurts me to say it and my brother agreed, that she probably won't come back. But I won't to hold on to hope. I want to believe that she will come back, but I just don't know how to get over the fact or the possiblity that she may not, I can't let go, and right now, I don't know how too!? There just sooo many things that were said by my ex that make me believe that she really just needs time and is really confused. If this were her running like she has done with every other bf, she would have been seeing someone already, or wouldn't be saying that she doesn't have any interest in seeing someone. But, right now I need to get my space......I'm working on it, could use some help, or suggestions. I've got this quote from another posting on here that kind of helps with things and my mind.... If your hope is alive but not your expectations then you are in great shape! I guess I just need to find that place.............
smith604 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I know how you feel I have heard the same thing from my ex wife and my recent ex gf, they all said they needed space and was confussed and I holded on to hope for so long that they wanted to get back together but the truth is very few relationships that end that way get back together, I know it hurts like hell! both of my ex's are now married to someone else my recent one got married to a guy in a mth of beeing with him and she never meet him but online so If I was you I would try to get over it and move on I did but now sad once again but it is prob for the best! just do like me do not get into another realtionship right now take your time before finding someone else even though it sucks to sleep alone
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