electric_sheep Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 My girlfriend is away for a week or two visiting her parents. Normally we talk just about every day, if only just for a little bit. I'm not really a big phone person, to be honest, and I've never liked "chilling" on the phone, like a lot of people do. Anyway, last night I left my phone in the car, and I just noticed this morning I had 7 missed messages. She called 7 times between 10:40 and 12:50 last night. I also got an email message from her around 1 am, in which she says she is worried about me, and asks me to call her no matter what time it is. I'm sure most would agree here that 7 calls in a single night is a bit obsessive. How about the idea of being always available via phone to begin with? I guess I'm old enough to remember when life wasn't that way, and nobody really worried or thought much of it. She states in the email that she hopes nothing is wrong, and I simply "forgot about her, though that would be ****ty". I'm a little baffled. I didn't realize we had an unwritten agreement to call each other every day.
Lizzie60 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 What?? Didn't you know that you have to report every day, and in the evening so that the partner knows what you're doing at all times??? Wow talking about insecure. She is either too motherly or she doesn't trust you... LOL
Author electric_sheep Posted July 18, 2007 Author Posted July 18, 2007 She has anxiety problems. Could be she doesn't trust me too, but I'm not sure about that. Funny thing is, I remember registering this uneasy feeling last night, while I was watching a movie. The "feeling" was... you better call your girlfriend, or she'll be pissed. Alas, it was late, and I was lazy, so I just said screw it. I mean, honestly, I get tired of the chit-chat and "I love you's". I'd prefer to wait to talk with someone until I actually have something to say.
Lizzie60 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I mean, honestly, I get tired of the chit-chat and "I love you's". I'd prefer to wait to talk with someone until I actually have something to say. I hope she won't get to read this... it wouldn't help her anxiety problem... LOL
Nemo Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 How on earth did you get separated from your cellphone?! I would just die if that happened. Get an iPhone, and your problems will all be over.
Author electric_sheep Posted July 18, 2007 Author Posted July 18, 2007 I was one of those reluctant cellphone people. I didn't get one for the longest time. The idea of everyone being able to reach me at all times just sort of irked me on some fundamental level. I finally relented and bought one, but I leave it at home, or in the car, quite frequently. Either that or just let the battery run out. Probably all a passive aggresive reaction to something that philosophically bothers me. I just don't obsess over being "reachable" all the time. I also loath PDA's and anything vaguely related. I like pencils and little notepads. Actual real, physical things I can hold in my hand. The iPhone is tremendously cool though, I'll admit. It's the first phone that has ever gotten me even the slightest bit excited.
Missy27 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 How on earth did you get separated from your cellphone?! I would just die if that happened. Get an iPhone, and your problems will all be over. :lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao: What?? Didn't you know that you have to report every day, and in the evening so that the partner knows what you're doing at all times??? And don't forget you need to have a full explanation ready as to why you didn't pick up your phone the first 44 times she tried to call you and then why you didn't have time to talk to her for an hour when you eventually did pick up ~~ !!!! :laugh::lmao:
jcster Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I was one of those reluctant cellphone people. I didn't get one for the longest time. The idea of everyone being able to reach me at all times just sort of irked me on some fundamental level. I finally relented and bought one, but I leave it at home, or in the car, quite frequently. Either that or just let the battery run out. Probably all a passive aggresive reaction to something that philosophically bothers me. I just don't obsess over being "reachable" all the time. I turn my ringer off and return (or don't) return calls at my leisure. I too grew up pre-cellphone. Heck, we didn't have caller ID or a message machine either! People called and hoped you were home. Maybe they'd leave a note on your door (haven't got one of those in a while). Isn't your GF 21 years old, or something like that? She's insecure. Pretty much all girls in their early 20's have some major insecurity problems, most get over it, the rest become incredibly neurotic. I think you should just call her back, tell her you left the phone in the car, and don't address the 8 million phone calls and the needy email. She probably regrets sending them.
zilverenvlinder Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Aww. The poor girl. She's not being needy. She was just worried about you. That's girls for you...they all have that little tiny maternal instinct in them that some guys see as "needy" but should probably see as motherly. She just wanted to tell you good-night or something because she probably missed you. I wouldn't get so worked up about her calling you so many times. Maybe she thought you were being a bit inconsiderate to not have thought of her at all last night.
jcster Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 That's girls for you...they all have that little tiny maternal instinct in them that some guys see as "needy" but should probably see as motherly. Needy often masquerades as motherly. Calling 7 times in one night and then emailing - just because he didn't have his phone on him at the time is not nurturing, it's demanding. She needs to chill out.
Nemo Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 She needs to chill out. She needs to buy him an iPhone. (And, of course, put her picture on there as the backdrop. "Remember that I will always love you more than life itself," seems like a reasonable inscription for the back. In triplicate.)
jcster Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 She needs to buy him an iPhone. What? Are they paying you or something? 600 bucks for a phone? Give me a break!
Nemo Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 What? Are they paying you or something? 600 bucks for a phone? Give me a break! I'm pretty sure they aren't a dollar over $599. So stop exaggerating, please.
jcster Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I'm pretty sure they aren't a dollar over $599. So stop exaggerating, please. Sorry about that!
Author electric_sheep Posted July 18, 2007 Author Posted July 18, 2007 We talked. She isn't upset with me. She does regret the 7 calls, and the desperate e-mail. She is a little neurotic, but I love her anyways. Now, if I could just get her to shave her legs, and get a tiny bit of sun every now and then, hee hee.
Tyra Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Stop talking about your girlfriend saying, if you could just get her to shave her legs.Are you going to do it for her.LOL!!!!You just make sure that you answer you cell phone the next time she calls.
Author electric_sheep Posted July 18, 2007 Author Posted July 18, 2007 Stop talking about your girlfriend saying, if you could just get her to shave her legs.Are you going to do it for her.LOL!!!!You just make sure that you answer you cell phone the next time she calls. Hey, not only do I shave my face, but I also shave my chest hair and my pubes! jeesh, I'm just going to waste all day here today. And to think I get paid for this?
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