uniqueone Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I read an article recently on how women are pickier when it comes to physical attaction. They said not to blame women as there are biological reasons for it as well as influenced by those that you grew up around and other factors and that we can't control it. Sounds about right to me. The article also said how we look for someone that we like on an intellectual, emotional and physical level. To prove their point about women being more selective about physical attraction, they said that if you had 100 women in a room and told a man he could have sex with as many of them as he wanted, he'd probably have a pretty high number. On the other hand, if you had 100 men in a room and you told a woman she could have sex with as many of them as she wanted, she probably would choose 2 or 3. Well, the information makes me think that it's easier for men to find someone then. I mean, I think it'd be much easier if you'd be attracted to a greater number, right? On the other hand, I think it might be harder for men to stay with the same person...or rather...harder for him to pick "just one". I just thought that the information was interesting and might give some insight on the dating scene.
Curmudgeon Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 The biological reasons could be much like a man's. A woman instinctually looks for someone who appears to have the necessary looks and traits to cause her to want to have his children and who will be protective and a provider. A man instinctually looks at potential mateS as those who will be able to bear his children. When push comes to shove, we're still animals, you know.
Lizzie60 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 this is true... I think women are far more pickier than men... Men are more sexual, therefore they look for a woman they can have sex with, as a woman will look for a nice guy to be 'friend' with.
taiko Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 this is true... I think women are far more pickier than men... Men are more sexual, therefore they look for a woman they can have sex with, as a woman will look for a nice guy to be 'friend' with. Women are pickier because in western society they hold the power and can hold out for the best. Men on the other hand take what is offered to them. In other cultures women's families give them or even sell them off and all that pickiness is gone.
burning 4 revenge Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Women are pickier because in western society they hold the power and can hold out for the best. Men on the other hand take what is offered to them. In other cultures women's families give them or even sell them off and all that pickiness is gone. Yeah, I know it sucks doesn't it? Women have all the power here.
squeak Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Yeah, I know it sucks doesn't it? Women have all the power here. What?? Men who are relationship oriented have all the power. Women have to pick through the players , the flakes, the perpetual daters for the rare guy who is actually into commitment. A man who is looking for a commitment has many more choices, as most women are not players, flakes, perpetual daters, and probably, as stated above, has a much wider range of attraction to choose from as "women who look like they can bear children" is pretty all encompassing!! I'm always amused to hear a guy say what I say, but in reverse
McFadden Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I like how it is here. Even I could find a mate or a ton of people who would want to date me, or different reasonably good looking people to have sex with every 5 minutes if I wanted to. A guy with the same level of attractiveness and personality as me wouldn't do well at all. Every guy I know who has lived out of the country said that its not so much like that elsewhere and they don't like coming back here.
Trialbyfire Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Yes, I do believe that women are far more picky about who they want as a potential mate. - Most guys will put up with a lot more flaws if the woman is good-looking. - Most women will put up with a lot more flaws if the man is financially stable...oops...a good provider. Sorry, incredibly cynical moment...
burning 4 revenge Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 A guy with the same level of attractiveness and personality as me wouldn't do well at all. Every guy I know who has lived out of the country said that its not so much like that elsewhere and they don't like coming back here.Yes, this is what I'm talking about. Women have it so much better. I think a woman in my position would be a decent catch, but with my financial and particular physical flaws I'm total sh*t.
squeak Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 You are not total s**t- don't say that, everyone feels badly about something/s about themselves. Everyone.
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I think a woman in my position would be a decent catch, but with my financial and particular physical flaws I'm total sh*t. Are those hair related?? Climb out of the ditch, please, B4R.
burning 4 revenge Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Are those hair related?? Climb out of the ditch, please, B4R.I'd like to. You want to throw me a rope?
Touche Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I'd like to. You want to throw me a rope? Why, so you can strangle her with it?
burning 4 revenge Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Why, so you can strangle her with it? what? i like ttsp. i like everyone here pretty much
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I'd like to. You want to throw me a rope? Sure... Why, so you can strangle her with it? This is funny, you two.
Touche Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Sure... This is funny, you two. Glad you're being entertained, TTSP. As for the topic, it's ridiculous. Men are just as picky. This has been discussed ad nauseum. It's silly already. Men usually have very specific physical traits they go for. Women, IMO, are not as picky that way.
burning 4 revenge Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Glad you're being entertained, TTSP. As for the topic, it's ridiculous. Men are just as picky. This has been discussed ad nauseum. It's silly already. Men usually have very specific physical traits they go for. Women, IMO, are not as picky that way. I don't think that's true. In my experience it's just the opposite. Check out a dating site sometime and look at the requirements..women almost always have height, age and income requirements...men are much more loose about those things
Touche Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I don't think that's true. In my experience it's just the opposite. Check out a dating site sometime and look at the requirements..women almost always have height, age and income requirements...men are much more loose about those things Nope. If that's the case then those guys are just looking for someone to lay and they can't afford to be too picky. I'm not talking about that. So excluding that scenario, no..men are as picky if not more so. Women are much more likely to overlook the superficial if they like who the man is. Not so a man. They're more visual. We all know that. And therefore their requirements tend to be more superficial in nature.
Touche Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I wanted to add this because I think I have it figured out now. What it is is that men and women are BOTH picky but picky about DIFFERENT things. Would anyone agree with that? The height/income/age thing was mentioned. And I agree that would be more important to a woman. But looks in general would be more important to a man. They wouldn't care so much about height or income, I'd say. So both picky or discriminating but in different areas. Can we finally put this topic to rest?
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 As for the topic, it's ridiculous. Men are just as picky. This has been discussed ad nauseum. It's silly already. Men usually have very specific physical traits they go for. Women, IMO, are not as picky that way. It certainly has. Every possible facet of these topics has been dissected, chewed up, and regurgitated, a thousand times over. Perhaps the "old timers" shouldn't reply to these threads. They should be left to the newer people, to teeth on.
burning 4 revenge Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I think the thing is that in a free society women will have more power, because they have more self-control. A lot of men get into relationships just to be able to have sex. I know that sounds crude, but it's true That's why 99% of the sex trade is geared toward men. Even most of the men involved in the sex trade target other men. That says something
burning 4 revenge Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 It certainly has. Every possible facet of these topics has been dissected, chewed up, and regurgitated, a thousand times over. Perhaps the "old timers" shouldn't reply to these threads. They should be left to the newer people, to teeth on. Are you sending me to the water cooler?
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Are you sending me to the water cooler? That's where all the fun is, anyway.
Trialbyfire Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I think the thing is that in a free society women will have more power, because they have more self-control. A lot of men get into relationships just to be able to have sex. I know that sounds crude, but it's true That's why 99% of the sex trade is geared toward men. Even most of the men involved in the sex trade target other men. That says something I agree with this. Men don't start dating women because they're so into your mind and personality...
halfarock Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 A man instinctually looks at potential mates as those who will be able to bear his children. I hear this all the time but don’t think that it is necessarily true. Almost all women have the capability of bearing children. It really isn’t an issue.
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