Touche Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 I do admit I want to like to know what they do for a living, not because I want to know his income, I just find it interesting to know what people do for their jobs. It says a lot about what they are interested in. For example, a poetry professor is going to be different than an engineer who designs office furniture, both of which I've dated. It's fun to talk to them about their jobs and what their day entails. You learn a lot about a person. I agree. But timing is everything. It's obnoxious when it's one of the very first things people ask. I think it's more than obnoxious though..it's rude.
Lizzie60 Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 ^where are you girls meeting these guys??! i've never had a guy ask me anything of that sort on a date. that's disgusting! No..I'm being silly... I just made up those questions... LOL I never had these questions asked..
Lizzie60 Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 So...um, are those real?You're not into foreplay are you?Is it ok if my buddy joins in?How many dudes have you had? just joking around L60 1) Yes they are... you want to check them. 2) Yes, very much, I'm an 'Oral Master' 3) If he's good looking, yes why not...if you're doing him too...that should be fun. 4) Over 300, is that enough?
McFadden Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 I agree with you. I also hated when people asked me right away what I did for a living. I NEVER asked that. It's as bad as asking what kind of car you drive. So transparent. Man, dating sure can suck. I feel for you. A guy I met a few weeks ago asked me that! (car) No question has ever made me happier. I actually explained all about it and whipped out pictures of it, its a good ice breaker. That usually doesn't happen because I try to arrange things so I will be driving anyway.
Star Gazer Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 I don't mind any questions. If it's something I don't want to answer, I'll tell them "It's a little personal for a first date, don't you think?". At least it shows interest. I do expect that they will answer any questions I have. I don't mind any questions either, in case it's something like the favorite sexual position question...way over the top. Many of these questions seek to find out about who the person is, what makes them tick, what they believe in, etc., and I see nothing wrong with those questions. I agree. But timing is everything. It's obnoxious when it's one of the very first things people ask. I think it's more than obnoxious though..it's rude. But why is it rude? I meet strangers at airports or while traveling or wherever - male and female - and right after "Where are you from?" comes "So what do you do?" and shortly after that (if there's more time) comes "So what do you do for fun?" It's a totally reasonable progression of questions in getting to know someone. I'm not sure why it's a rude question at all...
IpAncA Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 1) When was the last time you had sex? 2) Have you ever had a threesome? 3) When was your last STD check-up? 4) Why did your last relationship ended? You know if you never came out and said you were joking, I'd believe you. I don't know if that's a good thing but hey whatta gonna do. As for being asked questions, what happend to transition talking? I've never in my life had someone play 20 question unless I was on-line or trying to know someone for one of my college classes or at an interview.
doiask42much Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 But why is it rude? I meet strangers at airports or while traveling or wherever - male and female - and right after "Where are you from?" comes "So what do you do?" and shortly after that (if there's more time) comes "So what do you do for fun?" It's a totally reasonable progression of questions in getting to know someone. I'm not sure why it's a rude question at all... I thought the same thing. I'm not trying to find out about their status/income, mostly making small talk. And given that most people spend 40 hours or more at work per week, it does tend to tell you a lot about a person.
Lizzie60 Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 You know if you never came out and said you were joking, I'd believe you. I don't know if that's a good thing but hey whatta gonna do. As for being asked questions, what happend to transition talking? I've never in my life had someone play 20 question unless I was on-line or trying to know someone for one of my college classes or at an interview. It's not a 'questionnaire' per se... but I like to know a few things before I meet the guy: I am curious... I will ask him 'what he does for a living' ... I will say : no need to tell me where you work but just what you're doing... I will ask him what type of car he drives (I know LOL)...but if he says he drives a Corvette at 40ish... 'no thank you not my type'. If he says a Chev or something... I will ask him what year (yes I know LOL) if he says 1989... 'no thank you, not my type'. A car tells a lot about the guy...IMO... if he meet me with an old 1989 Ford Escort, all rusted... ouch... not my type of guy... I might sound shallow but hey... at 55 I can afford to be. LOL
halfarock Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Making a statement and seeing how someone reacts is a more conversationally comfortable way to discover one’s point of view. So, instead of asking, “Do you believe in god?” Which puts one on the spot, I’ll say, “Did you know that if souls were real you wouldn’t be feeling the effects of your drink.”
mslizz Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Hi all, Call me crazy, but sometimes I DO ask if a guy wants kids or if he is open to the family life in the future. I figure that it's best not to waste each others' time, right? I'm 27 with no kids, so why would I want to get to know a guy and begin to like him only to find out months later that our wants are not the same? I ask casualy...I don't make a grand scene of it. Maybe that's why I'm still single... Anyway, here are the first date questions that I'm not crazy about: 1)What's you bra size? 2)How'd you get that scar?(I have a small scar on my forehead) 3)Have you ever been with another woman?(increasingly popular)
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 1) When was the last time you had sex? 2) Have you ever had a threesome? 3) When was your last STD check-up? 4) Why did your last relationship ended? I never want to know when the last time a women had sex, none of my business
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 Hi all, Call me crazy, but sometimes I DO ask if a guy wants kids or if he is open to the family life in the future. I figure that it's best not to waste each others' time, right? I'm 27 with no kids, so why would I want to get to know a guy and begin to like him only to find out months later that our wants are not the same? I ask casualy...I don't make a grand scene of it. Maybe that's why I'm still single... Anyway, here are the first date questions that I'm not crazy about: 1)What's you bra size? 2)How'd you get that scar?(I have a small scar on my forehead) 3)Have you ever been with another woman?(increasingly popular) NO!!!!!!!!!!!!-lol Too early for that sh*T
IpAncA Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 It's not a 'questionnaire' per se... but I like to know a few things before I meet the guy: I am curious... I sure hope not. Geez I would have to say something if I ever had that happen. I will ask him what type of car he drives (I know LOL)...but if he says he drives a Corvette at 40ish... 'no thank you not my type'. If he says a Chev or something... I will ask him what year (yes I know LOL) if he says 1989... 'no thank you, not my type'. A car tells a lot about the guy...IMO... if he meet me with an old 1989 Ford Escort, all rusted... ouch... not my type of guy... So that's what does it for you. The car type. Lol!
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Most of the guys I've dated lately I met online. We usually get all those questions out of the way on MSN or email. If he asks the sex position, bra size questions, or asks me if I have any "special pictures" I file him under B for blocked! I usually ask about the car, mainly because I want to know if he has a reliable fuel efficient vehicle since I live 45 min from the city (and due to the last bf problems with his junker). I like to ask where they've travelled, then they get to tell me about it, conversation gets flowing.
Lizzie60 Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 I sure hope not. Geez I would have to say something if I ever had that happen. So that's what does it for you. The car type. Lol! It says a lot about the guy... In fact, it says what I need to know... LOL (If he's mature and confident about himself (not driving a Corvette at 40ish) and well-off (driving a nice car, not an old rusted car)... )
IpAncA Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 (If he's mature and confident about himself (not driving a Corvette at 40ish) and well-off (driving a nice car, not an old rusted car)... ) Maybe he's saving his money and decided to drive the car where the drivers side doesn't open. I like that. Shows he likes a challenge lol!!
Pyro Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Many of these questions seek to find out about who the person is, what makes them tick, what they believe in, etc., and I see nothing wrong with those questions. I agree with this statement. How else are you suppose to get to know someone? I know that actions speak louder than words, but you need to communicate. The more questions that the date asks you about yourself, then the more interested that they are in you. IME, when I dated, if her and I did not click, then she would start talking about herself. That is usually when you can tell if your date has lost interest.
Topper Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 4 Questions I should have ask. 1;Are you still on Parole. yes turns out she was. She had just go out after serving 6 years out of 10 year sentance for sumggling cocain. No need to ask if she had ever been with another woman lol 2; So how long have you been addicted to pain killers? Nice lady but she was addicted to pain meds. sad really. 3; Is your ex over you? How many guns does he own? When I was younger an ex did try to kill me. 4; Have you ever been arrested for stalking? Only one woman stalked me, this after going out twice.
Trimmer Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Guys actually ask this??? My God, that's totally inappropriate. I'd slap a guy if he asked me that on the first date. My God, I'd slap myself if I ever asked a woman that on the first date... I don't mind any questions. Really, even the sex position one? That doesn't set off any flags? Making a statement and seeing how someone reacts is a more conversationally comfortable way to discover one’s point of view. So, instead of asking, “Do you believe in god?” Which puts one on the spot, I’ll say, “Did you know that if souls were real you wouldn’t be feeling the effects of your drink.” I like that! That's a cool way to put out a provocative topic that could open up a great discussion. Of course, you could just get a blank stare and "Huh?", but I suppose that would tell you what you need to know anyway, wouldn't it?
Trialbyfire Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Really, even the sex position one? That doesn't set off any flags? Nope. They can ask but it doesn't mean I'll tell. This is about questions that you hate. I don't hate sex questions on first dates, I'm just not interested after that.
nicki Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 The sex position question should be off limits until it becomes a sexy thing to ask....like when you are having sex or are going to soon! Topper, I guess you better start asking those questions. Wow! Who would consider those to be applicable, or even necessary questions? But, I do think I might start asking first dates if they are still hung up on an old ex. Might just save me from some trouble. Only if they answer truthfully, however.
Pyro Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 The sex position question should be off limits until it becomes a sexy thing to ask....like when you are having sex or are going to soon! More then likely if the person is asking questions on the first date pertaining to sex, then that is all they want from you.
Turquoise Waters Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 The sex position question might be stolen from the movie Serendipity.
Trimmer Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Nope. They can ask but it doesn't mean I'll tell. This is about questions that you hate. I don't hate sex questions on first dates, I'm just not interested after that. Well, that's a subtlety of interpretation, I guess. So it sounds like even though you wouldn't "hate" such a question, it would be likely to dampen your interest then? In other words, if I find TBF interesting and would like a second date, probably don't bring up sex positions on the first date...
Mary3 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Real Questions I've been asked on a date : What size are your breasts ? Do you spit or swallow ? Can I live with you , I lost my apartment . You ARE paying for your movie right ? I have ADD , I hope thats okay ? Do you like anal sex ? NOW you see why I dumped the Internet , LOL !
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