Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 I've said that mannny times... 'It's not going to work'...but then I get the next question: 'Why not, what makes you think it's not going to work'... we just met, you don't know me'... give me another chance'. What do you answer to this DA? and Why waste time when I can be home doing the things I love doing what is it you love doing (by yourself)... hummm???? Sitting in my underwear eating Pizza Rolls and watching the Game-lol Thats a lot more fun.
Lizzie60 Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Sitting in my underwear eating Pizza Rolls and watching the Game-lol Thats a lot more fun. you didn't answer my first question... eating pizza rolls..heh?
doiask42much Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 What I mean is even though unattractive people have fewer choices, they still have a choice of whether or not to be with someone they find attractive. I don't really see it that way. Unless he has something else to offer, the attractive person is probably not going to choose him. Of course you can always opt to be alone. I guess that is the choice you are speaking of?
doiask42much Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Sitting in my underwear eating Pizza Rolls and watching the Game-lol Thats a lot more fun. Pizza rolls ain't gonna help the weight.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 you didn't answer my first question... eating pizza rolls..heh? I would just say-"You are not my Type"
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 you didn't answer my first question... eating pizza rolls..heh? I would just say-"You are not my Type"
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 I don't really see it that way. Unless he has something else to offer, the attractive person is probably not going to choose him. Of course you can always opt to be alone. I guess that is the choice you are speaking of? Yes that's what I mean, it's better to be ALONE than with someone who doesn't turn you on
Touche Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 I would never tell someone that they weren't my type. I think it's rude. Being honest is not always the polite thing to do. I remember when I was dating. It's just like Lizzie said. If I said I wasn't interested I'd get all the questions. I didn't want to deal with it. It worked out better for me to give no reason at all. Saying I was busy a few times in a row usually did the trick.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 I would never tell someone that they weren't my type. I think it's rude. Being honest is not always the polite thing to do. I remember when I was dating. It's just like Lizzie said. If I said I wasn't interested I'd get all the questions. I didn't want to deal with it. It worked out better for me to give no reason at all. Saying I was busy a few times in a row usually did the trick. Saying you are busy is a OLD and TIRED excuse
Star Gazer Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Yes that's what I mean, it's better to be ALONE than with someone who doesn't turn you on Curiously, you're not finding that to be true right now, now are ya?
Leadnfllw Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 That's why when I was single I would pursue a bunch of girls at once. If one didn't work out after a date I really didn't care cause I had ten more of them on the back burner.
Touche Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Saying you are busy is a OLD and TIRED excuse Yeah, well it worked for me! But seriously, if it's that OLD and TIRED as you say, it must mean you're hearing it a LOT. You need to examine WHY that is. Polite, nice GENTLEMEN, don't hear that one a lot. What should I have said instead? The few times, like I said, that I told them that I was just not interested I'd get a million questions, and even whining and begging for me to give them another try...not my scene, dude. It was MUCH easier for me to just say I was busy a few times or not answer the phone at all. Call me immature..whatever. Like I said, worked for me. And the guys got the message. You should too. Learn from this and then move on.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 Curiously, you're not finding that to be true right now, now are ya? I'm cool right now in the AC and on the web alone. If a woman was right next to me who I didn't want I would be depressed.
jcster Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 It's not immature to refuse to play power games with someone you don't want to date. Demanding to know the reason for someone choosing not to date you is a power play. Refusing to answer that question is always within one's rights. I find the need to know WHY is far more immature.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 It's not immature to refuse to play power games with someone you don't want to date. Demanding to know the reason for someone choosing not to date you is a power play. Refusing to answer that question is always within one's rights. I find the need to know WHY is far more immature. I said NOT RETURNING someone's call is immature, not going into detail why she is not interested
jcster Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 The only reason to not return the call is to avoid having to give a reason. Demanding the return phone call is also a power play. You're not owed a phone call just because you made one.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 The only reason to not return the call is to avoid having to give a reason. Demanding the return phone call is also a power play. You're not owed a phone call just because you made one. So a guy FOOTS the bill for dinner and can't get a Return Call?-lol
Turquoise Waters Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Not for me, I have told women-"sorry it's not going to work" as soon as I realized they were not pretty in the face. Why waste time when I can be home doing the things I love doing See, that is really rude. What if right after meeting you for the first time a woman looked you up and down and said "Sorry, it's not going to work. You're too fat." and then left?
jcster Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 So a guy FOOTS the bill for dinner and can't get a Return Call?-lol Yes. You invite someone to dinner, you pay for it. It's not a contract. She might walk out and hail a cab after the salad and that's still her right. YOU ASKED HER. If you want to get your "money's worth" there are women who will provide that service for you. Otherwise, you pays your money and you takes your chances. That's how it works. I would suggest you stop asking out women that you wouldn't enjoy sharing a meal with.
mishy Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 this is really simple. I have female friends over 35 who are in a mad race to find a man and are doing all sorts of internet and single nite type things. They go out with a guy a few times and if its not right they just tell them. Phone call, text whatever. The reason is because they feel like they don't have any time to lose, pussy footing around with these guys. they figure its rea;ly a numbers game, and just want to get through it as quickly as possible. Sounds clinical but thats how it is. Another friend who broke up 8 months ago with her bf after 16 years, had a few one night stands this year, and then a 3 wk stint with someone else- simply ended it by text msg. he replied, and said thanks for a great time. There were no hard feelings. Its just that women, with all the things that we "have to be", find themselves at 35, and single, and at that point, we have no time to waste. Its a sign of the times.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 18, 2007 Author Posted July 18, 2007 See, that is really rude. What if right after meeting you for the first time a woman looked you up and down and said "Sorry, it's not going to work. You're too fat." and then left? I would have all the respect in the world for her and thank her for her honesty and ask her to be my personal dating coach for a nice fee every month
Touche Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 So a guy FOOTS the bill for dinner and can't get a Return Call?-lol That's right. You got it now. There's no obligation on her part to continue any contact with you beyond the date that you both agreed to. Look, let me say this. If the guy was a really sweet guy and did nothing wrong on the date but I just felt no chemistry with him at all for whatever reason, then I'd just usually tell him thank you so much for the date, I enjoyed it, you're a very nice man, but I don't see that we have that much in common. If the guy was arrogant or only talked about himself or wasn't a gentleman in some way, then I felt NO need to give a reason. Buying someone dinner doesn't mean that they owe you anything in return you know. I think that's where you have the problem understanding how dating works.
Turquoise Waters Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I would have all the respect in the world for her and thank her for her honesty and ask her to be my personal dating coach for a nice fee every month How would a very rude woman make for a reliable dating coach?
Touche Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 How would a very rude woman make for a reliable dating coach?
Krytellan Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Curiously, you're not finding that to be true right now, now are ya? Okay, SG... I gotta give it up for that. Well done
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