marzipan Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 I'm new to this forum. I was/am? dating a guy for about a month and a half, we went out 9 times total, didn't get physical until about the 5th date, and I thought it was going really well. We went out a week ago on Monday and I called him a few days later on a Thursady to invite him to something for my friend's b-day. He called back (I missed call) then I called back a couple hours later, he said he had plans for that night in question, but had told his friends about the party and said he would let me know if they could come by, also he said he would call me Saturday though he had plans with friends that night also. I sent him a text the next day about something really random (just a question about music) and he wrote back several hours later with an odd reply. Anyways, it's Tuesday now, and haven't heard from him. We could also communicate by email. He was always really good about calling when he said he would call, and usually was the one asking me out. I only asked him out a couple times during the whole month. What gives, and should I bother calling him this week to see what's up? Do guys really think its ok to disappear like that?
Arizona100 Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Don't call back. That's my advice. You invited him, called back, texted him... For whatever reason (and it isn't necessary a bad reason) he can't or doesn't want to see you right now. If he's caught up in something, he'll call. If he doesn't want to see you anymore the last thing you want to do, in my opinion, is to come up as needee. To me, from the info you gave, it doesn't seem like he's really into you, got sex on the way and called it (but that's just me and I am no madam fortune..) In my book, it's not ok to disappear like that but some people do it (without a good legitimate reason that is).
Trialbyfire Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 I also agree about not calling or texting. If someone wants to be with you, they will find a way to contact you.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Hey this is good to know. I had posted earlier about a guy who didn't call me after 5 dates (and sex) and finally heard back with this: My computer crashed and I had no internet for two weeks, and my cordless phone finally died, my cell got disconnected so I had no way of finding where I stored your number. Oh, and he still wants to go out sometime. Oh ya and this is the second cell phone of his to get disconnected in a matter of weeks. I guess I should have left it all alone like I was advised right here, so please take Arizona's advice!!!
jcster Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 My computer crashed and I had no internet for two weeks, and my cordless phone finally died, my cell got disconnected so I had no way of finding where I stored your number. Oh good Lord!!!! And there are people here who think it's better to give a reason than to just disappear! At least you got a good laugh out of it.
Author marzipan Posted July 18, 2007 Author Posted July 18, 2007 Ok, that's good advice, I'm not going to call, but I'm wondering if it's not so much what I did or didn't do, or the fact that he wasn't into me (I'm pretty sure he was by the way he treated me, especially on our last date)....is it possible a guy bails because he opened up too much and now he decides to disappear because he feels freaked out? It doesn't matter, I'm not calling him, I assume he'll call when I don't care anymore, which is just how it goes sometimes. People should really not disappear like that... it's unbelieveably rude and cowardly. And it's never happened to me like this. One or two dates, yes, but 9? Never. Wow. Thanks for advice....
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