Lizzie60 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 New dress = $300.00 New sandals = $150.00 Manicure and Pedicure = $60.00 Miscellaneous (Makeup, perfume, things to smell nice and clean) = $100.00 Total Invoice = $610.00 May I have a refund for the net difference between the cup of coffee and the amount I've spent to get ready for the date? I believe you owe me $605.00 in cash. then you'd have to deduct his clothes as well.. to make it fair... then you might owe him money...LOL
Trialbyfire Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 then you'd have to deduct his clothes as well.. to make it fair... then you might owe him money...LOL Doubt it... The amounts quoted are reasonable rates for clothing and accessories. If we were going somewhere nice, it would factor higher than that. Maybe even get my hair done...
Trimmer Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 New dress = $300.00 New sandals = $150.00 Manicure and Pedicure = $60.00 Miscellaneous (Makeup, perfume, things to smell nice and clean) = $100.00 Total Invoice = $610.00 May I have a refund for the net difference between the cup of coffee and the amount I've spent to get ready for the date? I believe you owe me $605.00 in cash. C'mon TBF. Would you seriously spend $450 on new clothes for a first date (and a blind one, in this context, IIRC)? And as they are durable goods, even if you do, shouldn't you amortize their cost over some reasonable number of usages? And $100 of product? Even if you go and buy that $70 pump bottle of Elizabeth Arden micro-targeted facial skin gel nightime rejuvenator moisturizer industrial solvent, you're still not using more than a buck of it for tonight... Similar logic for shampoo, conditioner and all the other product you will use. Boy, you invoice like a military contractor. Again, I still make the point that it's not about making an economic tradeoff of what we each spend for what we expect to "get" out of the date. Dress up a little and present "a slightly better version of yourself*" and hope to spend time and connect with an interesting person. *phrase borrowed without permission, thanks to doiask42much
lino Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Well I don't mind paying for a 1st date at all whether it be dinner at a restaurant or simply a coffee. Even paying for any further dates doesn't bother me. I like to think of myself who makes women feel comfortable and at ease while with me.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 18, 2007 Author Posted July 18, 2007 Save your money...we'll help for FREE! Just ask! So what's wrong with a pretty women taking me clothes shopping and helping get the RIGHT STYLE??
nicki Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 You can learn to get the "right" style by buying a few men's magazines. Or by asking a sales associate at an upscale designer men's store. Really, what's a "pretty girl" got to do with it? Do you think because she is pretty she has better fashion sense, or maybe you are hoping to get close to the pretty girl helping you turn into prince charming? Maybe go out shopping with a male friend with good fashion sense. Or a female friend with good fashion sense. As for the overweight thing, don't make it an issue by refusing to focus on how "attractive" the woman is. Take the whole weight/physical attractiveness out of the equation. There are plenty of women who wouldn't like to be judged by you and who wouldn't judge you. Be the guy who has humor and manners. Women really do like that guy. I've never been rude to a guy on the first date because of his weight. I've been out with guys who were a bit overweight. No big deal. But, if he was cocky and judgmental because of it, then I'd be rejecting him because of those things, not his weight.
Trimmer Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 So what's wrong with a pretty women taking me clothes shopping and helping get the RIGHT STYLE?? There's nothing inherently wrong with it, it just may not be that realistic an expectation that you will find one or more of them who will be interested in doing that. Let us know if Craigslist works...
Lizzie60 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 So what's wrong with a pretty women taking me clothes shopping and helping get the RIGHT STYLE?? ...wrong with that, in fact some women do hire fashion consultants to help them get the right style... If that works for you.. great. I see nothing wrong with that. but we can still give you good advices on here... about dating, sex, even fashion... I'm sure... just ask.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 18, 2007 Author Posted July 18, 2007 ...wrong with that, in fact some women do hire fashion consultants to help them get the right style... If that works for you.. great. I see nothing wrong with that. but we can still give you good advices on here... about dating, sex, even fashion... I'm sure... just ask. I plan to use the advice I get here and have a dating coach. I need all the help I can get
Lizzie60 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I plan to use the advice I get here and have a dating coach. I need all the help I can get then you won't have any excuses if you don't get dates.. LOL don't forget to take notes.
Mary3 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 :eek:Be funny...like most people I normally do not find excess weight attractive but all of the men that were overweight that I still found attractive had a sense of humor about it and acted like they weren't bothered over it. Overweight + chip on shoulder about being overweight = not hot. Wow ! So true . Listen DA I happen to like big guys so ...as much as I have read all your posts your additude is a Major Turn Off because you tell the girl you are going to ditch her if shes not sexy , cute , hot , slender , ....( Just for the record I am slender and quite hot ) hehe... And number 2 strike is you are cheap ! A big blow to anything happening in the future. I'm not a gold digger but I despise a cheap guy with a calculator. Cheap at the table means cheap in Bed ! TIght with the hugs...kisses...ect.. How much do you weigh ? How tall ? Be honest...
Mary3 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 That's the OBVIOUS ANSWER, i',m not looking for that Listen : There are sites for that. Go to BBW and look for Big Men . Or click on Google and type in Large Men Dating..... But your attitude is going to kill getting a nice hot girl.... I know about the site because I have been on them looking for a Big teddy bear I say * have * because I don't believe in the Internet stuff much any more... So there really are small women looking for big guys ( but apparently rare ) ..
Mary3 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 New dress = $300.00 New sandals = $150.00 Manicure and Pedicure = $60.00 Miscellaneous (Makeup, perfume, things to smell nice and clean) = $100.00 Total Invoice = $610.00 May I have a refund for the net difference between the cup of coffee and the amount I've spent to get ready for the date? I believe you owe me $605.00 in cash. And DA showing manners = Priceless
Touche Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I agree with Mary. Another thing I noticed. I've really tried to help. I took the time to post a rather lengthy post here that I thought would help you a bit. Even if you think it's all BS, the polite thing to do is to acknowledge the people who took the time to respond to you. That's always been a dead give away to me on here...whether a person responds (and even THANKS others) or not. You seem lacking in the manners department. If I were your dating coach I'd give a good lesson in proper etiquette. And with that I bid you good luck as I won't be posting on your threads anymore.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 18, 2007 Author Posted July 18, 2007 :eek: Wow ! So true . Listen DA I happen to like big guys so ...as much as I have read all your posts your additude is a Major Turn Off because you tell the girl you are going to ditch her if shes not sexy , cute , hot , slender , ....( Just for the record I am slender and quite hot ) hehe... And number 2 strike is you are cheap ! A big blow to anything happening in the future. I'm not a gold digger but I despise a cheap guy with a calculator. Cheap at the table means cheap in Bed ! TIght with the hugs...kisses...ect.. How much do you weigh ? How tall ? Be honest... 6'6 and weigh 305
Lizzie60 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 6'6 and weigh 305 whoooaaa big guy.... you must carry your weight pretty good. My last ex was 6'1'' and about 240 when I met him.. then he gained about 30 more pounds... (that's because he was too happy with me LOL)... last year, with his gf, he lost over 60 lbs after gaining some more...he was up close to 300 maybe more. When I met him he was overweight...but I fell head over heels for him... He was smart, funny, hard worker, successful businessman... he was an amazing dad to his sons... he was a good person...still is. And I should say that overweight people were sooo not my style...and since him, I don't see big people the same way... but I strongly encouraged him to lose weight for health issues.
Trialbyfire Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 C'mon TBF. Would you seriously spend $450 on new clothes for a first date (and a blind one, in this context, IIRC)? And as they are durable goods, even if you do, shouldn't you amortize their cost over some reasonable number of usages? And $100 of product? Even if you go and buy that $70 pump bottle of Elizabeth Arden micro-targeted facial skin gel nightime rejuvenator moisturizer industrial solvent, you're still not using more than a buck of it for tonight... Similar logic for shampoo, conditioner and all the other product you will use. Boy, you invoice like a military contractor. Again, I still make the point that it's not about making an economic tradeoff of what we each spend for what we expect to "get" out of the date. Dress up a little and present "a slightly better version of yourself*" and hope to spend time and connect with an interesting person. *phrase borrowed without permission, thanks to doiask42much I don't do blind dates... If I'm going out with someone on a first date, I do tend to shop for an outfit and hit the spa. As for the balance of miscellaneous, you need to know the products I use before assuming the costs, amortized or not. Trade secret...
Lizzie60 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I agree with Mary. Another thing I noticed. I've really tried to help. I took the time to post a rather lengthy post here that I thought would help you a bit. Even if you think it's all BS, the polite thing to do is to acknowledge the people who took the time to respond to you. That's always been a dead give away to me on here...whether a person responds (and even THANKS others) or not. You seem lacking in the manners department. If I were your dating coach I'd give a good lesson in proper etiquette. And with that I bid you good luck as I won't be posting on your threads anymore. puhhhllleeeezze... do you expect a special 'thank you' note everytime you post on a thread??? Thank you.
Trimmer Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 As for the balance of miscellaneous, you need to know the products I use before assuming the costs, amortized or not. Trade secret... Oh, such a common ploy - next you're gonna claim secrecy based on national security. I'll just think of you as the "F-16 of first dates."
Trialbyfire Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Oh, such a common ploy - next you're gonna claim secrecy based on national security. I'll just think of you as the "F-16 of first dates." If you really must know, just use the Patriot Act...
McFadden Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Are you sure you don't just want an attractive female coach so you can try to hit on her? I'm sure there is better advice for free elsewhere, the one woman's advice will all be subjective to her likes and may not help you with other women. On a lighter note I'm sure you'll find someone on Craigslist, especially if you offer money. My friend and I post wacky joke ads for a joke sometimes and we get at least a reply or two to anything.
Touche Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 puhhhllleeeezze... do you expect a special 'thank you' note everytime you post on a thread??? Thank you. No, of course not. I KNEW someone was going to say that. But really, if a person goes through the trouble of posing a rather long post with helpful suggestions, the polite thing to do is to at least acknowledge it, don't you think? Oh and you're welcome. At least someone thanked me! Again, good luck Drake..or DA..whatever.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 18, 2007 Author Posted July 18, 2007 No, of course not. I KNEW someone was going to say that. But really, if a person goes through the trouble of posing a rather long post with helpful suggestions, the polite thing to do is to at least acknowledge it, don't you think? Oh and you're welcome. At least someone thanked me! Again, good luck Drake..or DA..whatever. I apologize, I didn't notice the post
IfWishesWereHorses Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 I agree with Mary. Another thing I noticed. I've really tried to help. I took the time to post a rather lengthy post here that I thought would help you a bit. Even if you think it's all BS, the polite thing to do is to acknowledge the people who took the time to respond to you. That's always been a dead give away to me on here...whether a person responds (and even THANKS others) or not. You seem lacking in the manners department. If I were your dating coach I'd give a good lesson in proper etiquette. And with that I bid you good luck as I won't be posting on your threads anymore. :lmao: Touche, You're expecting an awful lot from a guy who doesn't want to pay for a first date because it might not work out!!!!! There is little gain without risk D.A.! Play it safe and you'll never know! Women don't tend to judge men on their looks as much as their personalities, MEN are lucky in that aspect. I don't care for clothes that are wrinkled and unkempt, but intelligence, personality, culture, respect, and some degree of humbleness are absolute requirements in my book. As is generosity and a desire to please. Any man without these would be a no go! I think you need a counselor not a fashion designer!
underpants Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Well, This thread is interesting. DA here are a few thoughts that I had as I read through this. I am of the belief that the person who asks for the date should be prepared to pay. I would prefer a first date to be casual and I would probably offer to pay my half as that is just how I roll. Now if he asked me out again, to dinner and I wanted to see him again, well then it would be nice if he paid. Not all dates have to cost any money. There are a million free and interesting things to do when you meet someone. Activity dates are great because you two are involved in doing something besides sitting across from a table. Activities also give you and your date a chance to interact and see how one another deals with things. A simple walk in a public park, gallery visit, free music concert, local area activity papers usually offer a calender of things to choose from. If you weight bothers you, then you are the only one that can decide to work on it. I don't think it would prevent you from finding someone, however, it seems to be an issue for you. Good luck, Unders
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