doiask42much Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 I need my own personal attractive female dating coach Why does she need to be attractive? What does that have to do with anything? And what would be in it for her? Would you pay her or what? An attractive girl probably has other things to do with her time.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 No more pizza rolls! That's the OBVIOUS ANSWER, i',m not looking for that
Touche Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 I need my own personal attractive female dating coach Why does the person have to be attractive? What's the difference? (See my profile though and if I'm not good enough I'll stop trying to help.) As far as the weight thing...I think you're making too much out of it. If you're doing online/blind dating, I'd mention your height and weight or send a picture. Let them decide if they're still interested and you can do the same. That cuts out a whole other step that you don't need to worry about in person. I think that would be the way to go for you. There are PLENTY of women who don't mind a man with some extra weight on them. So I don't think that's the issue for you. I think something went wrong on this date somewhere..something that had nothing to do with your looks.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 Why does she need to be attractive? What does that have to do with anything? And what would be in it for her? Would you pay her or what? An attractive girl probably has other things to do with her time. Of Course I would pay her-lol And I want her to be attractive because I take attractive women advice more seriously.
Touche Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Of Course I would pay her-lol And I want her to be attractive because I take attractive women advice more seriously. Well, well, well...what have we here? Why am I getting a sense of deja vu? Anyway, that is just ridiculous. Really. An attractive woman can give crappy advice just as a woman who is less attractive can give very solid advice. That's just ridiculous.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 Well, well, well...what have we here? Why am I getting a sense of deja vu? Anyway, that is just ridiculous. Really. An attractive woman can give crappy advice just as a woman who is less attractive can give very solid advice. That's just ridiculous. I want to know what TURNS ON a pretty women, not someone who is unattractive because I have no intentions on being with a woman I'm not attracted to.
annabelle75 Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Of Course I would pay her-lol And I want her to be attractive because I take attractive women advice more seriously. With an attitude like that, attractive women won't take you seriously. That is not a snotty remark, its the gods honest truth. Trust me.
Touche Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 I want to know what TURNS ON a pretty women, not someone who is unattractive because I have no intentions on being with a woman I'm not attracted to. Well, I would imagine that what would turn on a pretty woman are the same things that would turn on a good, intelligent woman who is not as attractive. How about intelligence, kindness, a sense of humor to start with. Speaking for myself I've always despised arrogance and cockiness. I never liked men who sat back and acted like I had to prove myself to them. (And of course, I probably did, just as they had to prove themselves to me.) But a man with class doesn't go around acting like that. I've always preferred confident men. Men who had morals and values that were compatible with my own. A man who could speak intelligently about many things. A man who wasn't moody or bitter. My list of "requirements" went on and on. Took me until I was 33 to find that man. But I did.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 With an attitude like that, attractive women won't take you seriously. That is not a snotty remark, its the gods honest truth. Trust me. You just don't get it-lol
McFadden Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 If you're overweight because of a medical issue that is completely out of control, this doesn't apply to you, but if that's not the case: if you are not making the effort to be as attractive as possible, why do you expect women in thier prime attractiveness to want to date you, especially if you aren't making 100% effort in other areas? You don't take unattractive women seriously, but you're overweight so why should anyone take you seriously? I normally don't say things that rude but I'm trying to make a point about what you said.
annabelle75 Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 You just don't get it-lol After reading your threads it seems pretty obvious that you are the one not getting it. I am an attractive woman and I have just told you that the "I only want advice for pretty girls" attitude is a major turn off and would guarantee you didn't have a shot at a first date let alone a second one. If you really want advice than you got to listen to what the people here are telling you. Isn't it obvious yet that the way you have been going about it for most of your life is not working? Time for a new direction. If you are really open to taking advice there are plenty of people here that are willing to help.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 If you're overweight because of a medical issue that is completely out of control, this doesn't apply to you, but if that's not the case: if you are not making the effort to be as attractive as possible, why do you expect women in thier prime attractiveness to want to date you, especially if you aren't making 100% effort in other areas? You don't take unattractive women seriously, but you're overweight so why should anyone take you seriously? I normally don't say things that rude but I'm trying to make a point about what you said. I don't focus on a women's body, only her face and I have a handsome face and I want to be attracted to her face too. Nothing to do with body
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 After reading your threads it seems pretty obvious that you are the one not getting it. I am an attractive woman and I have just told you that the "I only want advice for pretty girls" attitude is a major turn off and would guarantee you didn't have a shot at a first date let alone a second one. If you really want advice than you got to listen to what the people here are telling you. Isn't it obvious yet that the way you have been going about it for most of your life is not working? Time for a new direction. If you are really open to taking advice there are plenty of people here that are willing to help. I'm open to advice from ALL people, I was just saying I think a personal female dating coach who is pretty would improve my dating skills. But I'm always open to advice from anyone
JeanQueen Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 I need my own personal attractive female dating coach Or you could stop with the crappy attitude and start dating in your league. I know it's tough out there DateAnalyzer, but it's a lot tougher when you refuse take the advice offered here. I'm not a gold digger, but I like to be treated like a lady. I think that if I am asked out on a date then I should not be expected to split it with the man who asked me. It I asked a man out on a date then I would pay for it. No one here is suggesting you take a woman you just met out for a 5 course meal. However, I doubt a nice dinner at Olive Garden or Applebee's is really going to break the bank. And, I don't think it's going to kill you to sit through a dinner with someone just because you aren't immediatly sexually attracted to them. Has no one ever told you that it's a good idea to be nice to the ladies you meet and remain friendly with them just in case they have a friend you might be perfect for?
Lizzie60 Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 I'm open to advice from ALL people, I was just saying I think a personal female dating coach who is pretty would improve my dating skills. But I'm always open to advice from anyone and where exactly can you find a pretty female coach on dating skills?
jcster Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Does anyone here know the average success rates for blind dates? Blind dates have probably the lowest success rate of any other type! Blind dates have gone down in history as just slightly below giving a speech in your underwear for potential embarrassment and pain. If you insist on continuing to blind date - you should provide a recent photo and require one back. At least then you know whether you're going to high tail it and run from the scary ugly woman. The only way to get better at talking to women is to actually do it. In all settings, to all types. A dose of humility will go a long way - try becoming a student rather than an expert. You might find something to like in ALL women, and that's the most attractive trait a man can have.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 Or you could stop with the crappy attitude and start dating in your league. I know it's tough out there DateAnalyzer, but it's a lot tougher when you refuse take the advice offered here. I'm not a gold digger, but I like to be treated like a lady. I think that if I am asked out on a date then I should not be expected to split it with the man who asked me. It I asked a man out on a date then I would pay for it. No one here is suggesting you take a woman you just met out for a 5 course meal. However, I doubt a nice dinner at Olive Garden or Applebee's is really going to break the bank. And, I don't think it's going to kill you to sit through a dinner with someone just because you aren't immediatly sexually attracted to them. Has no one ever told you that it's a good idea to be nice to the ladies you meet and remain friendly with them just in case they have a friend you might be perfect for? No I never thought of that, thanks for the advice.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 and where exactly can you find a pretty female coach on dating skills? Craiglist.Org
Touche Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Craiglist.Org Sounds kind of silly to me. What makes anyone an "expert" on dating? If you've dated a lot, then I say you're an expert. So that makes me one. Hell, I can put an ad in Craiglist and call myself a dating coach! But hey, go for it if you think it will help you. However, I think the good people of LS have already identified your problems in this area. You should take it to heart.
Lizzie60 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Sounds kind of silly to me. What makes anyone an "expert" on dating? If you've dated a lot, then I say you're an expert. So that makes me one. Hell, I can put an ad in Craiglist and call myself a dating coach! But hey, go for it if you think it will help you. However, I think the good people of LS have already identified your problems in this area. You should take it to heart. If you've dated a lot, then I say you're an expert. So that makes me one. Then that statement makes me a 'sex' expert...
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 18, 2007 Author Posted July 18, 2007 Sounds kind of silly to me. What makes anyone an "expert" on dating? If you've dated a lot, then I say you're an expert. So that makes me one. Hell, I can put an ad in Craiglist and call myself a dating coach! But hey, go for it if you think it will help you. However, I think the good people of LS have already identified your problems in this area. You should take it to heart. No one on Craiglist advertises they are dating coaches, I posted an ad asking for a pretty women to help me with dating and if she sends her photo and I like it then she can help me with DRESSING THE RUGH WAY, what to talk about on dates, and what signs to look for on a date if their is chemistry
Lizzie60 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 No one on Craiglist advertises they are dating coaches, I posted an ad asking for a pretty women to help me with dating and if she sends her photo and I like it then she can help me with DRESSING THE RUGH WAY, what to talk about on dates, and what signs to look for on a date if their is chemistry Save your money...we'll help for FREE! Just ask!
Touche Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 No one on Craiglist advertises they are dating coaches, I posted an ad asking for a pretty women to help me with dating and if she sends her photo and I like it then she can help me with DRESSING THE RUGH WAY, what to talk about on dates, and what signs to look for on a date if their is chemistry Hell, I can do that. Send me my monthly fee to P.O. Box 6969, Lover's Lane, California, 69696. And Lizzie, you're not the sex expert. You're a SEXPERT. So there you have it, DA. One sexpert and one dating coach. How's that? Also, all kidding aside, maybe you really should seek advice from men on this. Men who have actually been successful at dating? Now there's a thought. But really, it's not rocket science. Dress in a nice shirt and pants. No sneakers. EASY on the cologne (I often didn't go back for a second date because of the heavy cologne..)..talk about what interests you, talk about the food you're eating, ask her about herself, travels, hobbies, quirks..gosh there's so much to talk and laugh about in life. Signs to watch for if there's chemistry...hmmm, it varies. Does she look you in the eye a lot. Does she laugh at your jokes? Does she seem nervous? Does she touch you on the arm or leg maybe? You can't always tell about chemistry on the first date. If she accepts a second date, you'll know she likes you. Are you a gentleman? Do you hold the door open for her? Pull out her chair? Compliment her but not be over the top about it? And don't make compliments about her body. That's rude when you dont' know someone. Oh..don't act all nervous if you can help it. Try to act confident. Smile and have fun. Try not to have ridiculously high expectations. Just go with the attitude that you're making a new friend. Let's see...I'm trying to think. Ask us some questions. (And don't forget to send my check!)
Trimmer Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Of Course I would pay her-lol And I want her to be attractive because I take attractive women advice more seriously.Well, well, well...what have we here? Why am I getting a sense of deja vu? Yeah, that popped out at you, too, did it? ...i'm convinced most men dislike going on dates. Um, well, don't speak for me on that one... So that's why it's important for me to take another break from dasting and my plan now is to become a GIRLFRIEND to a pretty women who is a GUY. Wow, I think I'm suffering some kind of wierd gender confusion. One mistake i made before the date was saying out loud on the phone-"That if I meet a woman on a blind date and don;t feel the attraction I'm going home because I don't want to waste my time" .... So in the future I will not say-"I'm leaving if she is not cute" I will just keep it to myself Yeeeeaaahh.... I'm thinking that keeping that thought to yourself might be kind of an important starting point. This sends the signal to me that it's not a date. Or that he's met me and decided he's not interested in me. Generally if a guy is attracted to you and wants to see you again, he's more than happy to pay. Yeah, to me the whole "who pays" thing is really incidental to the whole point, which is, simply: did you like spending time together? Grumping about who pays and fretting about getting your money's worth before the date even happens is just bound to carry over in your attitude, and not in a good way. This may be a self-fulfilling prophecy for you, DA. I can just imagine what a difference it might make if your attitude and your philosophy were more about making an interesting connection with an interesting human being, instead of measuring what kind of romantic return-on-investment you can expect when paying for a meal and grudgingly subjecting yourself to a date.
Trialbyfire Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 New dress = $300.00 New sandals = $150.00 Manicure and Pedicure = $60.00 Miscellaneous (Makeup, perfume, things to smell nice and clean) = $100.00 Total Invoice = $610.00 May I have a refund for the net difference between the cup of coffee and the amount I've spent to get ready for the date? I believe you owe me $605.00 in cash.
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