jcster Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 stay out of those mosh pits, they can take a very kinky and sexual turn very quickly. Those elbows to the face really get my motor revving!
Author supertouch Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 i think she did enjoy spending time with me, talking, being physical, et cetera but still had a single person's mentality of wanting to connect with other people. in essence, she wanted to have her cake and eat it too. i think her being with me outside of the bars made her feel secure and wanted. she said something the night things ended that really hit me and i kind of knew she was going to find someone else at that point. she said "i don't want to get too close to you because i don't want to get hurt again." how do you truly love someone like you claim yet not want to get too close to that person?
jcster Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 how do you truly love someone like you claim yet not want to get too close to that person? You can't - it's impossible. That's not love, it's need.
oppath Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 how do you truly love someone like you claim yet not want to get too close to that person? Maybe she is lying in her claims. My ex claimed she was giving up the most amazing relationship of her life, that the break up had nothing to do with a lack of feelings, that all the chemistry, romance, and passion were there, and that if she wanted a relationship with anyone, it would be with me (in response to me saying when someone says 'it's not you, it's me, I need to find myself and be single because I've always been in relationships', it means they don't want a relationship with you'). It confused the **** out of me. I had ZERO explanation other than a dubious journey to find the character of her soul, whatever that means (I want to be free to flirt and date other guys if they ask me out). She then asked to be FWB two weeks later. ****ed with my head. bottom line is that my gut said something was up, and it turns out her ex of 5 years proposed to her 1.5 weeks before the breakup. We got in a fight because she was acting all distant; in hindsight I did not handle the fight well, probably because she was not being honest. But I was not being jealous of her. Something was up. She didn't claim jealousy when she dumped me, but I guarantee she felt that way. Yet...her failuire to disclose was what let me to push. When someone breaks up with you, and their reason feels like BS, it is because it is. Just as within a relationship, if something feels like it is up, it is! All you can control is how you express yourself. Respond, don't react. All you can do is say "something feels off, and I feel you have been acting a little distant lately and it upsets me. What is your take on this and is there a reason why?" Saying "you've been acting distant lately and I don't feel like I am a priority" is how you feel, but it won't lead to resolution unless the other person is WILLING to disclose.
McFadden Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 It does seem like she cares about you and may love you but its possible for someone to just be afriad to give up their 'single' lifestyle. Or to not even realize that she was still acting single. It sounds like she is not very old.
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