Tomcat33 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 Why is it that you want to change me so badly? And where on earth did you ever come up with the idea that I don't have self-confidence? :lmao: Oh, if you only knew. . . I don't want to "kick my man out" because I love him, I know he loves me and I know that he'll never make the same mistakes again just as I know I will not. We worked our problems out, and the problems were not only his. I'm not "into" punishment. I think it damages the both the person doing the punishing and the person receiving the punishment. I trust that all things will work out. I believe in truth and justice and mostly I believe that peaceful and loving solutions work better than violent ones. I hope that you have peace in your life, and I also hope that someday you will realize that however well your solutions work for you, they do not work for everyone. I don't want to change you at ALL. what I am doing is defending my stance seeing as you have made it a personal mission of yours to follow me around constantly harping on the fact that I feel taking a cheater back is foolish. So if you are secure enough in your decision then why don't you let it go? It would appear you have a real need to keep reminding people you did the right thing....which is why you choose to focus on my stance. Almost like repeating a mantra to yourself many times in order to adapt the doctrine. yeah I think it's foolish to take back a cheater, so what? how does that affect you? your marriage works now, focus on that, not my opinion!
silktricks Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 well... then that's fine. You won't tell me anymore that I did the wrong thing or that I'm a fool whenever you come across my posts. Since I've never "followed you around" that should resolve the issue. Right? Since I've never told you that your opinion is wrong for you, there should be no more discussion necessary.
Tomcat33 Posted July 26, 2007 Posted July 26, 2007 well... then that's fine. You won't tell me anymore that I did the wrong thing or that I'm a fool whenever you come across my posts. Since I've never "followed you around" that should resolve the issue. Right? Since I've never told you that your opinion is wrong for you, there should be no more discussion necessary. Let me remind you how this all started: Post 39 on page 3 of thist thread is how it all started with your following comment: The only MM I have seen you applaud or accept are those who leave their wives to be with the OW. Those, as you said in this thread "know the true definition of love". That definition seems to provide peace for you. The MM, however, who realize they have done wrong and return to their wives in repentence, those men, according to you, should without fail be "kicked to the curb" in punishment. You have implied, if not said, that any wife, such as myself, who has forgiven her husband is a fool. I also am apparently a fool in your eyes for expressing understanding that people are complex. In my opinion, people can do things that are unsavory, unpleasant, even outright cruel for a variety of reasons, and anger is one of those reasons. Granted, sometimes the reason is that the person is simply a creep, but usually that isn't the case I welcome you to show me where before that post, in this thread and on this topic, have I said or implied you were a fool for taking back a cheater. Contrary to doing so, my last comment stands strong. "If you stop following me around bringing up the topic of how I think it's foolish to take back a cheater, you won't have to keep airing your stance on it...unless of course you feel the need to keep doing so, then of course I can see why you keep repeating it. Quite frankly that's what makes you appear a tad insecure in your stance.
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