Krytellan Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 So, here it is week 3 since my breakup and I am absolutely and completely through the mourning process. I mean, I think about her occasionally and would like to have her around, but not in a mood changing way. When my ex-wife and I separated, I had shifted into a new gear by 6 weeks. Granted that was a bit of a negative situation that I left, but still. It makes me question how "in it" I am when I'm with the people if I can move on so damn quickly. But I do know, and I think my past threads have demonstrated, that I give it my all when I'm in a relationship. But if it doesn't work out, I am equally able to take it all away and move on quickly. I suppose this is a blessing that I shouldn't take for granted. I'm sure I have many more break ups to experience in my life, so I'll go forward content in the knowledge that if someone throws me out like yesterday's news, I'll be wondering who the hell she was 2-3 weeks later
melodymatters Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 I'm the same way krytellan and I think it's a COUPLE of reasons. Like you said, if they can " throw" you away, I always figure " how special was it anyway ???" If somone doesn't think I'm irreplacable, then why the hell would I want them around ? And, it comes down to a healthy sense of self. That you were OK before them, and are a cool person, who will be not only OK without them, but open for even bigger and better things ! Cheers and good for you !!!
Pyro Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 So, here it is week 3 since my breakup and I am absolutely and completely through the mourning process. I mean, I think about her occasionally and would like to have her around, but not in a mood changing way. When my ex-wife and I separated, I had shifted into a new gear by 6 weeks. Granted that was a bit of a negative situation that I left, but still. It makes me question how "in it" I am when I'm with the people if I can move on so damn quickly. But I do know, and I think my past threads have demonstrated, that I give it my all when I'm in a relationship. But if it doesn't work out, I am equally able to take it all away and move on quickly. I suppose this is a blessing that I shouldn't take for granted. I'm sure I have many more break ups to experience in my life, so I'll go forward content in the knowledge that if someone throws me out like yesterday's news, I'll be wondering who the hell she was 2-3 weeks later I did the same thing after my last relationship. We were together almost a year-and-a-half and after all the dust settled and the breakup was official, it only took me a couple of weeks. I like to think that I became this way from all my experience with the past relationships. I would definitely call it a blessing and consider yourself lucky because you see on here all of those who are struggling to move on. I try to give back to the LS community and I share with them my wisdom in hopes that they can move on.
Chinook Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 I think what happens too is that when a relationship is having problems along the way, it's easier to get over it because you're kind of doing the grieving as you go along. I'm 3 weeks post-break up and the initial pain has settled. There are still some issues for me to settle but I don't have the 'moving on' issues. I know I will in time, when I'm ready. I'm like Riddler though, I like to give back to LS because it's helped me a lot.
funkybassplayer Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 Its been nine weeks for me, and i feel that im moving on fast. I think if it was not for her kids that i bonded with, it would have been much sooner. Im still gonna be on my own for a while yet i think, but thats because of selling up and stuff. Yes i think once you pass a certain point, you move on very fast. I think alot of people try to hold on to a dream, and that really slows them down. Once you let go, then you move on.
nylah Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 Now I'm really feeling "not good".... It's been 2 months and I'm still feeling bewildered and hurt over a "senior citizen" who doesn't want to be with me because I'm younger and people are talking. How sad is that......???Consider yourselves lucky!!!!!
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