H0ney Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 I have been with my boyfriend for about 8 months now. Over these past 8 months we've gotten very close to each other, our families, and also friends. My problem is, we both don't really like each others friends! I have about 3 good friends and granted some of them are drama queens at times or just a little slutty-- my boyfriend says nasty things about them anytime I want to hang out with them! They have no bad influence on me and I do not act like they do- so why's he feel like he has to talk so badly about them!? Since we've been dating, slowly but surely I barely hang out with them anymore and I know it's sad. Let me make a point- it's not like he tells me I can't hang out with them. But when I do he makes snide little comments like "that trashy whore" etc. WHy does he do this? I guess another reason I have kinda stopped hanging out with them is because they do a lot of things single girls do--house parties and clubs, etc Now, I'm not very fond of my bf's friends either. But I never ever say anything bad about them or give him sh*t for going out with them to the bars. He has 2 close friends and both of them are just downright dirty, and direspectful to women. They make fun of each other for everything (very immature, I know) and especially of my bf since he has a gf he loves very much... I know boys will be boys, but I cannot STAND them even though they are nice towards me when we hang out... I'm starting to feel very resentful towards my boyfriend because for the past month or so I have lost contact with a lot of my friends and he still goes out with his every week and in a way I feel like blaming it on him.. ugh
norajane Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 Sounds like you need more of a backbone. If you want to go out with your friends, go out with them, just like he goes out with his without caring about your approval or disapproval. You are the one who is CHOOSING not to see your friends because you aren't willing to deal with his disapproval. If you don't like his criticism of your friends, have you told him that? Have you told him you feel the same way about his friends, yet you don't criticize them or him when he goes out with them and you expect him to respect you the same way? If you care about these girls, do not allow yourself to drift apart. They might not be there for you if you end up breaking up with your bf because you have cut them out of your life to try to please him.
Krytellan Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 I get more amazed every day. You post about your bf and add a little comment like him calling a friends "a little whore" and you mention it like blah, blah, blah. People... people... people... How are these behaviors even acceptable? It's almost laughable how low the standards for everyone (at least those on LS). Do we now only require someone be breathing and have sexual organs in order to be worth all this love we shower on them? If someone ever referred to someone close to me as a "dirty little whore", they would be out the door in a second. I can't imagine that I'm alone in that. Get a backbone and tell your disrespectful bf to f*ck off. If you don't, you are in essence begging for more of the same. Unfortunately from what I've seen here over and over again, that wouldn't surprise me.
oh_what_am_I_doing Posted July 16, 2007 Posted July 16, 2007 I get more amazed every day. You post about your bf and add a little comment like him calling a friends "a little whore" and you mention it like blah, blah, blah.... If someone ever referred to someone close to me as a "dirty little whore", they would be out the door in a second. ..tell your disrespectful bf to f*ck off. Amen. That's really all I have to say, but I'm getting an error that says that wasn't enough and to keep writing. Dump this guy! He sounds like a total jerk. He doesn't have to like your friends or approve of their behavior, but it is not acceptable for him to badmouth them!
Keara Posted July 16, 2007 Posted July 16, 2007 Unacceptable behavior. You have to set a line, and be willing to stand by it. Your friends are important to you. They are an extension of your family. Showing them disrespect is being disrespectful of you. Are you going to allow it?
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