Author vivi Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 Well, thanks everybody because now I see what a dumb question this original post was. Of course he's still sleeping with his wife, of course he's lying to me about it, of course he's telling me things he thinks I want to hear, of course he's not leaving his marriage, whatever the hell his true living arrangements are. I was a willing participant and if I hadn't made some stupid and reckless choices because of what I felt for this man and what he felt for me at the time...the infatuation and excitement....well, my life wouldn't be in the turmoil it is now. I'd like to crawl into a hole or go away for a month or something.
NoIDidn't Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Well, thanks everybody because now I see what a dumb question this original post was. Of course he's still sleeping with his wife, of course he's lying to me about it, of course he's telling me things he thinks I want to hear, of course he's not leaving his marriage, whatever the hell his true living arrangements are. I was a willing participant and if I hadn't made some stupid and reckless choices because of what I felt for this man and what he felt for me at the time...the infatuation and excitement....well, my life wouldn't be in the turmoil it is now. I'd like to crawl into a hole or go away for a month or something. Vivi Don't crawl into a hole. Its easy to let emotions run amuck without considering what is may really be going on You sound like you aren't blaming him and are taking full responsibility for your choices. Very healthy and good for you. No need to climb into a hole for a month. Many people here can help you with the emotions you are bound to experience if you decide to truly end it, or continue it. Of course, there will be judgment from many of us, but it is a *form* of support too. Good luck. Avoid holes for a month.
M G D Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 To the original poster. Yes they exist and so does stay for the kids. whatever anyone else tells you yes it can be true. if not the theory would never have existed
TogetherForever Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 To the original poster. Yes they exist and so does stay for the kids. whatever anyone else tells you yes it can be true. if not the theory would never have existed Huh? What theory? What existed? Care to elaborate MyGreenDick? Oooops, I mean MGD.
NoIDidn't Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Care to elaborate MyGreenDick? LOL!!! MintyGreenDonut LMAO!!!
Author vivi Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 it's like a soap opera. I filed for divorce and we're in the home stretch. The marriage was on the rocks for a long time, and all I needed was a push. But Cutie pie said he'd do his after my turmoil was over. So I reminded him of this yesterday and he hedged. He didn't say no, he didn't say yes, he said he had a relationship with his wife before they were married and she's a nice person. I was quiet for a long time and he said, "Are you going to ask me to leave?" and I said, "What hurts is that you were so certain before, and you're ambivalent now," and he said "yes" and then "No, no, that's a girl trick." He was not happy when I told him I would date. I just sent him an email that said I was hurt by his hedging and his reasons didn't matter. He sees shades of gray where I see black and white. And I told him what "wait and see' meant and that it had to go both ways. Wait and see for me means I hang in there and hope that she doesn't convince him to buy a place together in Flushing. Wait and see for him means I find a man who will at least give me the possibility of some kind of future together, which he absolutely can't do right now. and that he saw only a fraction of what I have to give and I deserve to give it fully to someone who can return it fully and whether or not its him is up to him. It took a long time for me to hit "Send." We had times I will never forget and never regret. I went so far out on a limb and thought he'd be there when I fell. On the other hand, Coffee Guy left a message on my voicemail that Saturday isn't good, maybe Sunday. Sunday looks pretty good to me right now. I'm supposed to see Cutie Pie on Friday. We'll have to wait and see.
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