Pink1985 Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 There's this guy I like (to be more specific he's a bus driver)...He's 35 and I'm 21 (age isn't the problem here, though)...We both like each other A LOT...I've known him since I was a freshman in college and I've always known that he liked me (he would stare at me in the rear-view mirror and smile/wink and when I got off he would either wave to me OR honk the horn)... It wasn't until last December that I finally gave him my # after massive persuasion from my friend (cuz I was shy to do it even though I knew he liked me)...He called me and we spoke a few times...But when I would call him, he NEVER picks up OR he would return my call 2 weeks later...He even asked me out a couple of times but never followed up on it...And I don't think I should be the one to do it if he brought it up... Yet whenever he sees me on the bus, he acts as if everything is fine and just keeps on staring at me all the time making me think that he still likes me...For example, the most recent time I saw him was a couple of weeks ago and he wanted me to go up and talk to him (on the bus while he was driving) but I wouldn't b/c I figured if you don't talk to me when you have my # or pick up when I call, then you must not like me anymore...He ended up coming over to me saying that he had lost his phone and if I could call him so he could "save my #..." I didn't want to do it, but I did...And he hasn't called me since...Which I find sort of weird...B/C then why would you want to save my # again? I stopped calling him b/c I thought it would make me look like a stalker or like I'm desperate... My question is: why does he act like that? We both like each other and it's not going the way I thought it would...I'm wondering why he doesn't just tell me that he doesn't want anything to do with me instead of acting like everything's fine...I've exhausted ALL answers... I know he really likes me b/c he said so and his actions say so...He confuses me sooooo much...
love necessity Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 There's this guy I like (to be more specific he's a bus driver)...He's 35 and I'm 21 (age isn't the problem here, though)...We both like each other A LOT...I've known him since I was a freshman in college and I've always known that he liked me (he would stare at me in the rear-view mirror and smile/wink and when I got off he would either wave to me OR honk the horn)... It wasn't until last December that I finally gave him my # after massive persuasion from my friend (cuz I was shy to do it even though I knew he liked me)...He called me and we spoke a few times...But when I would call him, he NEVER picks up OR he would return my call 2 weeks later...He even asked me out a couple of times but never followed up on it...And I don't think I should be the one to do it if he brought it up... Yet whenever he sees me on the bus, he acts as if everything is fine and just keeps on staring at me all the time making me think that he still likes me...For example, the most recent time I saw him was a couple of weeks ago and he wanted me to go up and talk to him (on the bus while he was driving) but I wouldn't b/c I figured if you don't talk to me when you have my # or pick up when I call, then you must not like me anymore...He ended up coming over to me saying that he had lost his phone and if I could call him so he could "save my #..." I didn't want to do it, but I did...And he hasn't called me since...Which I find sort of weird...B/C then why would you want to save my # again? I stopped calling him b/c I thought it would make me look like a stalker or like I'm desperate... My question is: why does he act like that? We both like each other and it's not going the way I thought it would...I'm wondering why he doesn't just tell me that he doesn't want anything to do with me instead of acting like everything's fine...I've exhausted ALL answers... I know he really likes me b/c he said so and his actions say so...He confuses me sooooo much... Don't carry on with this "crush" for much longer. You'll end up hurting yourself big time!! He's probably acting this way because he is hiding something. He's probably married or has a SO that he's trying cheat on, especially if he's sneaking around like that? Or maybe I am assuming something. But, either way, you are 21 and he is 35, you have a lot of life ahead of you, don't waste your time with a man that is 35 years old. GOOD LUCK!!!
PinkAngelStar Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 Are you sure he's not married? It seems as though he enjoys you chasing him, it's fine when he's at work but he doesn't seem to want to persue out of work, maybe due to other family commitments? How deep have your conversations gone? What do you chat about? Personally I would leave it, don't be made a fool out of. If he wants you, he will put the effort in to at least call you and arrange something. He also shouldn't be encouraging you to chat to him while driving, as far as I'm aware you are not meant to as it causes distraction to the driver putting your safety and others safety at risk. Best of luck Pink.
nylah Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 I agree with PAS, He is probably flattered with a younger girl being interested in him, or just having fun with you....trust me, if he wanted to get with you he would find a way....W or no W....
garnet Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 This is no way for a man of 35 to act. He sounds very immature. Don't pursue anything with him and feel lucky that you dodged a bullet with this one.
nylah Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 This is no way for a man of 35 to act. He sounds very immature. Don't pursue anything with him and feel lucky that you dodged a bullet with this one. She's very lucky....
Author Pink1985 Posted July 14, 2007 Author Posted July 14, 2007 Thanks guys!!! Am I sure he's not married? When I gave him my #, my friend was with me and she asked him that...He bugged his eyes out like the prospect of that was ridiculous and said, "No..." Then he actually showed us his hands so we could see there was no ring on it, which means nothing in my eyes...I really don't think he's married, though...He probably has a kid or kids...I'm kind of scared to finding out the answer to that... Our conversations aren't that deep...For starters, I'm deathly shy so I'm hesitant to ask him the stuff I really want to know...I know he's going back to school...He said he's in the process of buying a condo...One time I just came out and asked him if he liked me to which he responded, "I do really like you..." So then why are you acting that way? He actually asked me out twice, but he never called back to set up a date so I don't know what was going on there...Another time (it was a Thursday) he saw me on the bus and asked me what I was doing on Saturday and never followed up on that either...His actions are just so off... I definitely do agree that he's probably hiding something, but then why would he continue to be interested in me if he has no intention of starting anything with me? And plus why would he want my # again after losing his phone if he has no plans on calling me back? That totally makes no sense to me...Is it possible he feels guilty for not calling? He's the one that initiated the whole flirting game and I played along b/c we happen to be extremely attracted to each other...I never thought I would get enough courage to give him my #, though... OK, I guess he's a loser...One more thing: if I see him on the bus, should I just completely ignore him (he'll try to catch my eye regardless, though) or just act as if nothing's happened and show him that he hasn't affected me? And also, do any of you think I should call him to find out what's really up with him or would that be too stalker-ish? What could I ask him that wouldn't seem too forward, I guess...It would be easier for me to get over him if I knew I wasn't the problem...
daphne Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 He's feeding his ego by allowing you to pursue him and not telling you that he's not interested. Big time loser. When you see him, don't approach him. Ignore him. If he says hi, be breezy, smile and say hi. Do not engage him in any conversation. MOVE ON. This guy isn't worth it. Trust me, I've been there.
PinkAngelStar Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 Am I sure he's not married? When I gave him my #, my friend was with me and she asked him that...He bugged his eyes out like the prospect of that was ridiculous and said, "No..." Then he actually showed us his hands so we could see there was no ring on it, which means nothing in my eyes...I really don't think he's married, though...He probably has a kid or kids...I'm kind of scared to finding out the answer to that... Could be in a long term relationship? He still could be married, just doesn't wear the ring and his reaction of his eye movement is a bit OTT, almost as if he needs an extreme reaction because your on his scent and he needs something to throw you off. definitely do agree that he's probably hiding something, but then why would he continue to be interested in me if he has no intention of starting anything with me? And plus why would he want my # again after losing his phone if he has no plans on calling me back? That totally makes no sense to me...Is it possible he feels guilty for not calling? He's just enjoying the chase sweetheart. You are doing all the chasing, and he's just lapping up the attention. He's hiding something, maybe it is a girlfriend/wife and that's why he won't persue. He's taking you for a fool, you need to forget about him. It's like he's dangling you on string and pulling you up and down when he feels like it. OK, I guess he's a loser...One more thing: if I see him on the bus, should I just completely ignore him (he'll try to catch my eye regardless, though) or just act as if nothing's happened and show him that he hasn't affected me? And also, do any of you think I should call him to find out what's really up with him or would that be too stalker-ish? What could I ask him that wouldn't seem too forward, I guess...It would be easier for me to get over him if I knew I wasn't the problem Ignore him, it'll probably drive him wild as he's not getting the attention, but don't fall back on the habit of flirting with him. Don't call him, erase his number to stop any drunk calling or temptation. Sometimes we don't always get the answers we want, but that's life and we have to deal with it the hard way. take care, Pink
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