halahala Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 I have been really attached to this girl I met few months back. She has also shown lots of signs that she likes me. We had a lot of fun together but never dated. We went out with friends. When I wanted to date her she resisted. She is 23 and I am 38. She claimed she is confused and doesn't know what she wants and cannot make a decision. I told her the way to know is to give me a chance. Then I really gave her an ultimatum and told her that if she doesn't want then we should be friends and we shouldn't talk to each other. She called our mutual friends and admited that she likes me and she doesn't want to be friends only but she is still confused. After a week or two she changed her mind and apparently decided that friends is more convenient for her. But she kep calling me and left me hanging. I really got pissed and one day I sent her a very harsh email after I heard that she has done that with other guys in the past. I insulted her and accused her of leading guys on and that she is sick and she needed professional help . My email was very harsh. She now doesn't speak to me. I don't call her but I ran into her few days back at a friends dinner. She said hello to everybody on the table except me and stayed only for fifteen minutes to avoid me. After I saw her I got really back into thinking about her. Is there a chance that we can get back together ? She is probably not catgeorized as an ex because we never went out alone ? but she admited she liked me before and I felt it in everything she did? We had such a good time together ? She seems to never want to speak to me after my harsh email ? should i ever appolgize ? Whats the best solution for me ?
uniqueone Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 Why did you never apologize before? Of course you should apologize...and should have done so sooner. I wouldn't count on dating her though. She's a little young for you, don't you think? That could explain why she's confused and doesn't know what she wants. I really doubt that's changed.
nylah Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 maybe she is too young for you, as she doesn't seem to know what she wants...but if you're kool with that then I guess it's okay....but it doesn't sound like you are.....seeing that you "went off" on her in you email because she didn't return your advances......she's probably afraid of you now for talking to her real crazy.....
LakesideDream Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 The large age difference may have much to do with your situation. I would give her lots of time.. and expect the worst. There is a chance she will want for a relationship with you, but it's slim.
nylah Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 The large age difference may have much to do with your situation. I would give her lots of time.. and expect the worst. There is a chance she will want for a relationship with you, but it's slim. So you think older guys and younger girls don't mix??
Author halahala Posted July 15, 2007 Author Posted July 15, 2007 So Nylah what is ur recomendation on what I should do ? Shall I appologiz enow ? or wait with no contact for a month or two and then try to contact her ? what else can be done ?
ilmw Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 So Nylah what is ur recomendation on what I should do ? Shall I appologiz enow ? or wait with no contact for a month or two and then try to contact her ? what else can be done ? Well, apologise first... and play it cool... let her see that you are a guy she would want to be with... then try again later.....If that does not work... NC! As you do not sound that you want to only be friends... Also.. you cannot make demands on others, especially when there is no exclusive relationship.... it kinda smells of control.
BlueEyedSarah Posted July 16, 2007 Posted July 16, 2007 So you think older guys and younger girls don't mix?? Speaking from my experiance I would have to say no.
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