Bronzepen Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 OoooK. It's good that your talkative but what you talk about is very important. Like everyone said, don't talke about sex unless it's something flirtatious and it's within context. Go with the rythm of the conversation. Never talk about ex's or past experiences. Especially so early and a no no on first dates. Bring up current events but make it funny not a news cast. Like....."Hey, I heard Brittany is trying to make a come back. I wonder if she will ask Kfed to be her opening act." A good mixture of cocky and funny shows a confident man. Have fun. Don't call her every day, keep busy doing other things. Call her Sunday, if you can't leave a message then move on. She has your number too so if she doesn't hear from you but was interested in you then she will call you. Learn from each date. Don't give up. Your way to young to be thinking like that. Hell, I am sure you were probably not happy with some of those first dates. Remember, a first date is not just about her accepting you but you evaluating her as well. Good Luck.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 15, 2007 Author Posted July 15, 2007 OoooK. It's good that your talkative but what you talk about is very important. Like everyone said, don't talke about sex unless it's something flirtatious and it's within context. Go with the rythm of the conversation. Never talk about ex's or past experiences. Especially so early and a no no on first dates. Bring up current events but make it funny not a news cast. Like....."Hey, I heard Brittany is trying to make a come back. I wonder if she will ask Kfed to be her opening act." A good mixture of cocky and funny shows a confident man. Have fun. Don't call her every day, keep busy doing other things. Call her Sunday, if you can't leave a message then move on. She has your number too so if she doesn't hear from you but was interested in you then she will call you. Learn from each date. Don't give up. Your way to young to be thinking like that. Hell, I am sure you were probably not happy with some of those first dates. Remember, a first date is not just about her accepting you but you evaluating her as well. Good Luck. All that is true but when all your first dates from 25-32 have resulted in zero second dates, you kind of lose the motivation and enthusiam to go on more dates. Now when this was happening at 26 and 27 it was no big deal but since it's now 7 years and counting you begin to think you are not relationship material. My best years was 22-25, i have no idea what happened after 25
shadowplay Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 Call her Sunday, if you can't leave a message then move on. She has your number too so if she doesn't hear from you but was interested in you then she will call you. i'm not sure about that one. I know a lot of girls wouldn't call a guy if they didnt hear from him. They'd just assume he wasn't interested. Is there any other way you can contact her? Like through email or whatever? Or even send her a text message and explain that her inbox was full. I wouldn't give up until you're sure that she knows you've tried to reach her.
halfarock Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 All that is true but when all your first dates from 25-32 have resulted in zero second dates, you kind of lose the motivation and enthusiam to go on more dates. Now when this was happening at 26 and 27 it was no big deal but since it's now 7 years and counting you begin to think you are not relationship material. My best years was 22-25, i have no idea what happened after 25 There is this phenomenon where many women in their mid to late 20’s are less attracted to guys their age. Something about them seeing guys their age as immature. This could be at play. At 32 you’re just past that, your dating successes should begin to increase, as long as you’re not a total dork or otherwise undesirable.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 15, 2007 Author Posted July 15, 2007 i'm not sure about that one. I know a lot of girls wouldn't call a guy if they didnt hear from him. They'd just assume he wasn't interested. Is there any other way you can contact her? Like through email or whatever? Or even send her a text message and explain that her inbox was full. I wouldn't give up until you're sure that she knows you've tried to reach her. That poster has a point, the fact that my number still showed on the Cell phone on Thursday Night, If I was to call tonight and she doesn't answer then it doesn't look good and I will probably left her a nasty message for WASTING My time and playing games with me.
nylah Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 That poster has a point, the fact that my number still showed on the Cell phone on Thursday Night, If I was to call tonight and she doesn't answer then it doesn't look good and I will probably left her a nasty message for WASTING My time and playing games with me. wait until after you try calling her today.. She just might be at home waiting for you to call....
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 15, 2007 Author Posted July 15, 2007 wait until after you try calling her today.. She just might be at home waiting for you to call.... Yeah that's what I meant, if I call tonight and don't get a Answer then the nasty messsage is coming for wasting my time and lying in my face
nylah Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 lying in your face?? did she tell you she would call?
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 15, 2007 Author Posted July 15, 2007 lying in your face?? did she tell you she would call? Well I guess I should say playing games, telling me I'm cute while we were face to face and pretending to be interested. That's why I was 97% sure I would talk to her that night before I went to bed after being complimented and asked about my sex life. That would go down as the WEIRDEST DATE of all time if I never talk to her again
nylah Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 I'm just curious...do you live in a small town where everybody knows everybody?.. If so, that could be part of the problem...
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 15, 2007 Author Posted July 15, 2007 I'm just curious...do you live in a small town where everybody knows everybody?.. If so, that could be part of the problem... Philadelphia, PA
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 15, 2007 Author Posted July 15, 2007 well, when are you going to call her? Tonight around 9:45pm/10pm
nylah Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 oh please, call her now!!! Hey do you have any friends that could introduce you to some nice women?
alphamale Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 Tonight around 9:45pm/10pm why don't you call her around 8pm or so? that would be better. and remember to keep the call 5 min or less - your only objective should be to secure a day and time for date #2 it would also help if you had a specific activity in mine before you call
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 15, 2007 Author Posted July 15, 2007 oh please, call her now!!! Hey do you have any friends that could introduce you to some nice women? Ok i will move it up to 8pm, I try to HIDE the fact I struggle at dating from my friends. Just something I feel they don't need to know about me
Author DateAnalyzer Posted July 15, 2007 Author Posted July 15, 2007 why don't you call her around 8pm or so? that would be better. and remember to keep the call 5 min or less - your only objective should be to secure a day and time for date #2 it would also help if you had a specific activity in mine before you call Sounds like a plan, thanks. I will defintely do that
Leadnfllw Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 It means she likes you, but doesn't necessarily mean it will go any further. I just assume a woman has invested nothing unless I've slept with her. The reason? Well she can flirt and do all this stuff but it really means nothing, tomorrow she may be flirting with another guy and forget about you in a second. So my opinion is if she fits what you want then be aggressive. I don't believe in any of those waiting to call rules, but then again I'm a pretty straight up guy.
shadowplay Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 Are you calling her cellphone? Because if you're calling her landline it's possible she may not have caller id. I still think an email or text message is the best way to go if her voicemail box is still full, just so you're sure she knows you've tried to reach her. Don't worry about being too aggressive. I don't buy that line of logic (and I'm a woman). I like guys who are assertive and go for what they want as long as they don't seem too extreme or desperate. The reality is you have nothing to lose. She"s already decided whether she likes you or not and no games will change that.
alphamale Posted July 16, 2007 Posted July 16, 2007 Sounds like a plan, thanks. I will defintely do that so whats the update man? oops wait, maybe you're not in eastern time or you may not even be in US, who knows?
nylah Posted July 16, 2007 Posted July 16, 2007 what's up?...... I can't wait to hear what happened!!!!
nylah Posted July 16, 2007 Posted July 16, 2007 I stayed up late in the UK just to find out I can't believe how excited I am about this..... I'm ashamed of myself (kindda)... But I still can't wait to hear what happens...
Chinook Posted July 16, 2007 Posted July 16, 2007 I can't believe how excited I am about this..... I'm ashamed of myself (kindda)... But I still can't wait to hear what happens... You're too funny I was actually kidding but yeah, found myself checking for an update seeing as my head is chock-full of crap tonight and I ain't sleeping anytime soon
nylah Posted July 16, 2007 Posted July 16, 2007 I wonder where he's at ..... oh God, I want things to work out..... maybe Loveshack is too much for me right now!! (smile)
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