Jmina Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 my history with ex (21 and 23 years old now) 05 great friends, instant spark, instant connection, both wanted to know each other we were both straight, (and both girls.) 06 as above, then became and item in july as we had such a strong attraction and connection to each other we thought we would try it and go with the flow 07 remained an item until may, ex pulled out saying i love you so much, and it is a strong and deep love, but its not the right time for me, i want to experience guys too (she had never been with a guy) we both wanted to be friends 07-june we had a bit of a messy break up because both loved each other and struggled with being apart, but worked through it and things were okay, and we planned on picking up a friendship down the track when we both new we were ready. 07-july she lost my trust from something that i have no idea what its about... i hadnt spoken to her... i feel like she has got something wrong because she does jump to conclusions and then finds herself so angry and upset about something that was false... she did that during the break up.. my problem i want to contact her and tell her she can trust me with my life. i love this girl as a person and always will. i know trust has to be earnt..even if i didnt do anything wrong in the first place... do i email her and ask her what have i done wrong? and clear it up? i found out that she said "it will take a long time to be friends again if at all, because i dont trust her" now if she doesnt trust me over something that is untrue then its years of pain and misery for me because i have to deal with her turning her back on me as a friend when i did nothing wrong, and we couldve been great friends! i dont want to live my life without her and she has said the same i have a feeling she is just pushing me away. for some reason. i dont know what to do. but im miserable about it. im not looking for anything from her except her being open to the truth jmina
funkybassplayer Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 Mate be honest, both of you cant have a friendship. Just leave her to it and in the time during no contact, she will have the time to think about things, as you will, and often you will see that person for who they are, and im sure you dont have to prove anything to her. The more contact you make at this stage, the more you will push her away, and the more you will hurt, so just let things be for now, time has a way of sorting things out, be that friends or nothing at all, you have to give yourself time to heal and move on. Maybe in a few weeks, you wont feel the need to contact her.
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