raidsniffer Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 How do you get over someone? i dated a girl for maybe 5-6 months...yea i know it wasn't long, but you know how everyone has that ideal girl they wanted to meet and that ideal girl they wanted to get married to? yea she was that ideal girl. i can't say i was head over heels for her or "in love" with her. but i can say I really liked her. Things ended about a month ago and for some reason i can't stop thinking about her. Things didn't end all that great, we were friends for about 2 years.. not great friends but friends more like acquaintances. For some reason things sparked... and ended just like that.. things were great for a month and a half or so, but out of nowhere it turned sour and remained like that for the remaining part of the relationship. I realize now that I was rebound for her, well what felt like rebound to me, cause she got out of a long term relationship that was rocky and in and out of short relationships...those should've been signs to me yet i dismissed those signs cause it was the girl that i've always wanted, except for her issues. It's that crappy feeling of being used, and although the relationship wasn't that great either that feeling of abuse comes into play, cause she said she liked me yet she coudlnt' show it. She said wonderful things, but her actions told differently. It finally ended with me giving up. I knew she had a lot of issues, i was willing to deal with. but one night i got mad cause i wasn't getting what i deserved. i treated her great, but she treated me like crap, even my friends said so. yet i still can't get my mind off of her. she was almost perfect in so many ways, yet not in so many ways. How do you just stop thinking? im pretty good with feeling numb about alot of things, but this time it's hard. what is the best way to cope with this loss? i haven't talked ot her or anything, but its frustrating cause this feeling won't go away. the last things she said that really struck me was that she couldn't guarantee getting into another relationship, but she liked me. Now it seems like she's in another relationship or is seeing someone else, and it hurts. why does it hurt? and how the hell do i stop thinking?
tommycapnpants Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 i was in a similar relationship a few years ago. the best thing i did was force myself to move on. a lot of my friends told me to build anger for the way she treated me, but that did not work. i just reminded myself everyday that i never deserved to be treated like the piece of crap this girl treated me like. the same goes for you, you deserve more. you said she got out of a long term relationship, so i figure she is the confused one. wish her the best with her life and then move on. i know it is hard. . .just remember that it was very unhealthy for you to be involved with her. peace
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