Is She Crazy?

[nylah]

I say "we've" because she was effecting both of our lives. She was calling the house when she knew he was at work and I'd be at home. She'd drive by the house at all hours. She'd call and then leave long messages but doesn't say anything (that was just strange). She'd get her sister to call me (they have very strong accents so I knew it was her right away) to say that my husband was with another woman right then and there. Too bad she didn't realize that I was on the other line with my husband at the time and he was at work. She basically tried to make my life a living hell so I'd give up and kick him out again. How do I know this? Well she's young and very stupid, she was friends with one of my husband's friends girlfriend and she told her all of this. Then in turn the friends girlfriend told me because she knew how hard all of this was on me and thought it would be easier if I knew what was going on and why.

 

She's also called him repeatedly at work and left voice mail messages (they have call display and he didn't answer when she'd call) begging him to come back to her. She'd send him messages through his friends. She'd follow him home from work and when he'd pull into our street she'd take off like a maniac (I did happen to see it once because I was outside with the kids at the time). She's young and nuts.

 

It's a long story but they had a PA and she fell in love. She was planning kids, marriage, everything. When I kicked him out she started shopping around for a place for them to live. When he refused she started getting more and more forceful. When I'd call him for something she'd try and grab the phone from him so she could "talk to me". I heard her in the background one time saying "don't call him anymore. he's mine!".

 

Anyways, we're trying to work things out and it's going not bad but it's been a lot better since she's quit stalking us.

 

That is a lot to have to deal with. That is also how people get killed. Her coming to the house, and coming around your kids.... see, I don't think I could handle that. One has to assume that if a woman is "crazy" enough to come to another woman's home, then she's pretty much hoping for confrontation... which is very dangerous!!

 

Some men just don't get it. How their crazy actions affect everyone around them.

 

Well, I'm glad things are working out, but don't let your guard down on that "nut"... you never can tell what she might do.

[justice]

I say "we've" because she was effecting both of our lives. She was calling the house when she knew he was at work and I'd be at home. She'd drive by the house at all hours. She'd call and then leave long messages but doesn't say anything (that was just strange). She'd get her sister to call me (they have very strong accents so I knew it was her right away) to say that my husband was with another woman right then and there. Too bad she didn't realize that I was on the other line with my husband at the time and he was at work. She basically tried to make my life a living hell so I'd give up and kick him out again. How do I know this? Well she's young and very stupid, she was friends with one of my husband's friends girlfriend and she told her all of this. Then in turn the friends girlfriend told me because she knew how hard all of this was on me and thought it would be easier if I knew what was going on and why.

 

She's also called him repeatedly at work and left voice mail messages (they have call display and he didn't answer when she'd call) begging him to come back to her. She'd send him messages through his friends. She'd follow him home from work and when he'd pull into our street she'd take off like a maniac (I did happen to see it once because I was outside with the kids at the time). She's young and nuts.

 

It's a long story but they had a PA and she fell in love. She was planning kids, marriage, everything. When I kicked him out she started shopping around for a place for them to live. When he refused she started getting more and more forceful. When I'd call him for something she'd try and grab the phone from him so she could "talk to me". I heard her in the background one time saying "don't call him anymore. he's mine!".

 

Anyways, we're trying to work things out and it's going not bad but it's been a lot better since she's quit stalking us.

 

 

Wow FandI, your Ow sounds almost as nuts as the one I had stalking me when I was married. I'm so relieved for you that she quit the stalking, what did your H have to say about what she was doing? I really don't know your story so I'm being curious here, comparing notes on what I went through with yours. It's hellish isn't it?

[FireandIce]

That is a lot to have to deal with. That is also how people get killed. Her coming to the house, and coming around your kids.... see, I don't think I could handle that. One has to assume that if a woman is "crazy" enough to come to another woman's home, then she's pretty much hoping for confrontation... which is very dangerous!!

 

Some men just don't get it. How their crazy actions affect everyone around them.

 

Well, I'm glad things are working out, but don't let your guard down on that "nut"... you never can tell what she might do.

 

Well like the girl who told me what she was doing said, the OW was hoping to piss me off so badly that I'd kick him out again and she would be there to pick up the pieces. It was more frustrating than scary for me but I'll always be watching because honestly, I don't trust her one bit.

 

Wow FandI, your Ow sounds almost as nuts as the one I had stalking me when I was married. I'm so relieved for you that she quit the stalking, what did your H have to say about what she was doing? I really don't know your story so I'm being curious here, comparing notes on what I went through with yours. It's hellish isn't it?

 

He didn't say much until the very last time when we had a huge fight about it. That's when he finally realized how much this was hurting me. He just assumed that if he continued to ignore her then she'd go away but she never did and I doubt she ever would. She sent him a message to him that the reason she was still hanging around was because he owed her some money ($30 to be exact) but he didn't think he owed it to her (she wanted to go out one night and he didn't have any money so she gave him the $30 so they could go somewhere) and that's why he figured if he just kept ignoring her then she'd go away. Well anyways I made him give it back to her with me sitting there in the car. He then told her to not call, drive by, send messages to him, etc. She saw me in the car and was bawling. We haven't heard from her since (at least to my knowledge) and I hope we never do.

 

And yeah, it is very hellish. I was sick just thinking about it but to have her still lurking in the shadows made it even worse. I believe that is why I'm still having such a hard time with the whole thing. I still had this constant reminder on almost a daily basis. It will be a very long time before I get over the whole thing and that IMO made it worse for me.