funkybassplayer Posted July 13, 2007 Posted July 13, 2007 Reminds me of my ex and the way she handles her own issues. !!
Author funkybassplayer Posted July 13, 2007 Author Posted July 13, 2007 It made me smile!! Are you getting on better now? you sound much more confident. Did you send back the stuff?
Chinook Posted July 13, 2007 Posted July 13, 2007 It made me smile!! Are you getting on better now? you sound much more confident. Did you send back the stuff? Yep, things are evening out a lot now. I did send his stuff back. Not heard a sausage since. Mind you, I wouldn't because I've blocked his emails, MSN ID, Yahoo and changed my mobile number
Author funkybassplayer Posted July 13, 2007 Author Posted July 13, 2007 :laugh:Good on you this says to him that your moving on and can and dont need him in your life.Its sticking two fingers up to him and his new g/f. It will make him realise that your a strong person and one that deserved respect ( but i guess in reality, like my ex, they will be glad just to get there stuff back!! ) Good to hear C. x
Chinook Posted July 13, 2007 Posted July 13, 2007 :laugh:Good on you this says to him that your moving on and can and dont need him in your life.Its sticking two fingers up to him and his new g/f. It will make him realise that your a strong person and one that deserved respect ( but i guess in reality, like my ex, they will be glad just to get there stuff back!! ) Good to hear C. xIf I'm honest, I couldn't give a stuff. New g/f or ex-w whoever it is, they're very welcome to him!
Author funkybassplayer Posted July 13, 2007 Author Posted July 13, 2007 Thats it you have caught up with me! Good for you.
Melissa277 Posted July 13, 2007 Posted July 13, 2007 Reminds me of my ex and the way she handles her own issues. !! Okay, how'd you get that picture of my H?
Chinook Posted July 13, 2007 Posted July 13, 2007 Thats it you have caught up with me! Good for you. Yeah... funny how quick that happened. At first I was thinking that maybe it's because I didn't really feel as deeply for him as I thought I had. But I know that's not true. I think basically what happened was the day he walked away, that killed anything that I felt for him and I couldn't really SEE that because of how much pain I was in. It may be that I've rationalised the pain and torment since then and it's made it easier. But what struck me was how he refused to give me closure or even talk to me. You don't treat someone like that who you supposedly loved and respect. It was that which hammered home the fact that he not only didn't respect me, he didn't love me either. So it made it easier to move on. I know how I felt. I do still feel something if I'm really honest. But it's not pain. It's not even anger any more. I don't know what it is...but I know sooner or later, it will fade with time. I will welcome that too.
Author funkybassplayer Posted July 13, 2007 Author Posted July 13, 2007 Yeah... funny how quick that happened. At first I was thinking that maybe it's because I didn't really feel as deeply for him as I thought I had. But I know that's not true. I think basically what happened was the day he walked away, that killed anything that I felt for him and I couldn't really SEE that because of how much pain I was in. It may be that I've rationalised the pain and torment since then and it's made it easier. But what struck me was how he refused to give me closure or even talk to me. You don't treat someone like that who you supposedly loved and respect. It was that which hammered home the fact that he not only didn't respect me, he didn't love me either. So it made it easier to move on. I know how I felt. I do still feel something if I'm really honest. But it's not pain. It's not even anger any more. I don't know what it is...but I know sooner or later, it will fade with time. I will welcome that too. This is what i was getting at last week, once you let go of the thought of getting them back, then all the rest seems to go to, leaving you with a kind of numness to the ex inside that helps you move on, and even if you try to think of the good things, the bad stuff just wins over, so you move on faster, thats what i found. Its true sometines you realise that they never loved you, i cant say that of my ex, She made out she loved me, but it may have been more of an infactation on her part? I really dont know. I still have mins of sadness as i do still miss the kids and her a little, but ro know that im better off without her is the drive behind my healing. I dont think i will date seriously until ii have the house sold, and my new car and stuff, and i dont mind taking the time i need to recover from such an emotionaly draining exp. In fact im wondering if i ever really loved her, im not sure, i know i could have if we met at a time when she dumped her baggage, but i dontthink that will ever happen. i dont really think i will ever know.
Chinook Posted July 13, 2007 Posted July 13, 2007 In fact im wondering if i ever really loved her, im not sure, i know i could have if we met at a time when she dumped her baggage, but i dont think that will ever happen. i dont really think i will ever know.You know, it's not worth looking back and questioning yourself. As I said to Aliddy earlier today, the things that have been, have now passed and the things that will be will still come irrespective of whether you stress over them. So just take it easy on yourself, kick back and relax, enjoy your freedom whilst it lasts...because some other lass will come along and take your heart when you least expect it!
Author funkybassplayer Posted July 13, 2007 Author Posted July 13, 2007 Belive me when i say this, im not stressing about if i loved her or not, im cool with how things are now,and i feel im moving on well. i dont think what if, because i know what was! And thats the key, know what was.
frd150 Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 Funny Fbp, I was just telling someone that my ex must have her head in the sand you not seeing all of my effort. Or maybe she could give a rats a**. I have been following and learning from both you and Chinook. I just want to thank you guys for your efforts here. Hey, aren't both of you from England??? I dont know, just a thought:).
Chinook Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 Funny Fbp, I was just telling someone that my ex must have her head in the sand you not seeing all of my effort. Or maybe she could give a rats a**. I have been following and learning from both you and Chinook. I just want to thank you guys for your efforts here. Hey, aren't both of you from England??? I dont know, just a thought:). Hey, you're welcome And err... LOL.
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