Heavenly55 Posted July 13, 2007 Posted July 13, 2007 I actually made a post about this last year or so. Anyway there used to be this guy who I used to see on my daily commute. To make a long story short for almost a year straight all we did was stare at one another. I'd catch him staring all the time and of course when we caught eyes he'd look away or pretend he was looking somewhere else and I would check him out too. I was beyond attracted to him and used to look forward to seeing him every day..I know it sounds gay. I would catch him looking at me all the time, he would just appear out of no where sometimes and be standing by me, I would see his friends who he used to sit with look at me and all the while him not I ever said anything to one another. He lives right by me too bc he used to get off the same train stop and we would park by one another. So I got a new job and started a different commute and of course the one thing I always regretted was not saying anything to him but that's just not me. I'm an attractive girl, I've seen him talk to girls he was friends with I'm assuming so why just the constant stares at me but nothing not a peep I don't get. So months have passed , I never saw him again and figured I wouldn't and today low and behold like faith has it I decided to go back to my old commute. I wasn't even in my area , I was in the city already when all of a sudden I look and there he is 2 people away from me. Of course I tried not to look but I saw him looking from the corner of his eye. Anyway once again we got off the same stop, so I know he works by me too but he was in front of me and when he got off he literally ran up the stairs lol..I was thinking ok does he think I'm stalking him..like his behavior is just bizarre..do I scare him. So I decided that I'm going to keep commuting this way and hopefully now I'll see him in the morning. Like what could I even say to him or do to try to break the ice and why is he acting well just weird around me someone he's never spoke too lol.
alphamale Posted July 13, 2007 Posted July 13, 2007 and why is he acting well just weird around me someone he's never spoke too lol. cause he's attracted to you H55 and you spooked him by showing up after being absent for months. just hand him your email/phone and name on a slip of paper but it is his job to approach you. sound like he's shy. nyuk nyuk nyuk
T-town Posted July 13, 2007 Posted July 13, 2007 next time u see him ask him if he had a nice jog! Then kind of laugh it off and introduce urself.
Author Heavenly55 Posted July 13, 2007 Author Posted July 13, 2007 next time u see him ask him if he had a nice jog! Then kind of laugh it off and introduce urself. haha lol that's kinda cute to say
Author Heavenly55 Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 cause he's attracted to you H55 and you spooked him by showing up after being absent for months. just hand him your email/phone and name on a slip of paper but it is his job to approach you. sound like he's shy. nyuk nyuk nyuk hmm..you really think that was the reason. I guess it makes sense.
jcster Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Talk to him! Just say "Hi! I see you on the commute all the time..my name is __" If he screams and runs away then you know it was a bad thing to do
Mary3 Posted July 18, 2007 Posted July 18, 2007 Just give the shy guy a big smile and hand him your number. Tell him you would like to get to know him more and here is your number.... If he doesn't call then he's either VERY shy or not interested but I DO believe his is interested
Author Heavenly55 Posted July 21, 2007 Author Posted July 21, 2007 Just give the shy guy a big smile and hand him your number. Tell him you would like to get to know him more and here is your number.... If he doesn't call then he's either VERY shy or not interested but I DO believe his is interested well yesterday he actually kinda surprised me. I was standing on the platform and I saw him coming. Well I wasn't gonna stare so instead I looked straight ahead towards the car I was going in. Well next thing I know I look to my side and there he is next to me. He was down a ways and I was the only person standing at that door but he walked over to go in the same door and car as me. I think I gave kinda a half smile but I was actully surpised he came to stand by me so I might have not lol. Of course when we got in the train he didn't sit by me. Then again when we got off I was walking kinda fast then next thing he's there next to me. I feel like a 12 yr olds talking about this lol. Ugh!!
huh Posted July 21, 2007 Posted July 21, 2007 Commuting is an instant ice breaker. You can always talk about the delays, the weather, etc. Which then in turn can lead to talk about places to go to lunch/out near the office or places to go out after work. If he's shy, some interest like this may be the encouragement he needs. I was a bit bolder in my commuter approach. Both my commute & job changed. So when I finally saw a guy I'd been chatting with prior to that, I gave him my business card & said, "let's keep in touch." He never called though (maybe he had become involved--we'd talked about being single & family pressure or maybe he just wasn't interested or maybe he lost the card. The next time I saw him, I just pretended to be asleep on the bus because I figured it was easier than faking my own death. But, as the saying goes, "nothing ventured, nothing gained". At least I know I tried. As I get older, I'm becoming more of the "better to be rejected outright than wonder" school.
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