Trialbyfire Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 The painfully shy are hard to deal with, particularly in a work environment when you need strong communication skills with little to no time to complete your work, nevermind prying info from a shy person. Give me abrupt and efficient any day of the week.
Pyro Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 I like shy girls also but they're also the ones that cause alot of problems later. From what I've seen shy guys don't get very far. I am curious to know how shy girls cause alot of problems later on.
lino Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 Well I can only speak of the ones I've dealt with and I've found that the shy ones are usually the most dishonest and have alot of things to hide. Alot of their 'niceness' usually ends up being an act too. I prefer people/women who are honest and upfront with nothing to hide like me. And I'm not shy or the opposite I'd say I'm in between.
Pyro Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 Well I can only speak of the ones I've dealt with and I've found that the shy ones are usually the most dishonest and have alot of things to hide. Alot of their 'niceness' usually ends up being an act too. I prefer people/women who are honest and upfront with nothing to hide like me. And I'm not shy or the opposite I'd say I'm in between. Ok. I can't really say anything like that because I haven't dated anyone who would be referred to as shy, but my brothers best friend just recently went through a divorce. I went to school with the girl and she was the shyest of the shy. They were together for over 6 years before they married and within the first year of marriage, she cheated on him. In the end, I don't think that there is one type who is worse than the other. You will find dishonesty with the shy and the not so shy.
lino Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 That's true, one type isn't worse than the other. I've just found that most shy girls are dishonest with stuff to hide.
Pyro Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 That's true, one type isn't worse than the other. I've just found that most shy girls are dishonest with stuff to hide. I'm sorry if you had to personally deal with a shy girl like that. I just hope that you don't hold it against the entire female population.
Poboy Posted July 14, 2007 Posted July 14, 2007 i realised very early dating shy girls is a waste of time. the effort , time spent on basically waiting for her to open up was not worth it considering i could have spent that time somewhere worthwile ( staying single , time with friends , work ). and in the end , most of the time ... they never did open up or were too slow at it. it becomes boring & one sided. made the mistake twice , never again.
DateAnalyzer Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 I told myself I can't be shy on dates anymore because I was able to see from watching Dating Shows that SHYNESS on a grown is not attractive at all. It makes him look a little weird and I was able to see how weird I looked on my dates to the girl
lino Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 I'm sorry if you had to personally deal with a shy girl like that. I just hope that you don't hold it against the entire female population. Well more than one. I don't hold anything against anyone, just myself. I should be sharper and able to pick up on these things quicker next time.
Pyro Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 Well more than one. I don't hold anything against anyone, just myself. I should be sharper and able to pick up on these things quicker next time. There is always room for improvement, so you are in good shape. Just soak up as much info as you can while going through these experiences.
halfarock Posted July 15, 2007 Posted July 15, 2007 I’ve been on both sides of the shyness fence, and to the extremes. As a kid I was painfully shy and would, at times, literally freeze up. When I was in high school I became very popular and I’m not so sure why, exactly. Even though I was still very shy, there were several girls who had crushes which, in a way, masked the fact that I was so shy. My underlying shyness has not completely gone away; it’s ingrained into my personality. But, in many ways, I am bold and brash and confident and have learned to use my shyness to my advantage. It’s one of the reasons I’ve gotten away with carrying on with certain married women – their husbands never suspected the shy guy. Not long ago I overheard my girlfriend talking to one of her friends. The friend mentioned something about me being shy. My girlfriend said that I wasn’t shy, that it was just my style. Might have something to do with why I keep hearing women mentioning my apparent innocence. he he Whenever I hear guys say that they can’t get girls because they are too shy. I aoften think that they just use it as an excuse for having poor social skills, and not being very attractive. It’s a lot easier to say “I’m shy” then to admit that they are otherwise undesirable. Not all shy women are the same. I’ve come to where I can confidently look anyone in the eye. With the women in my life we often just look at each other and communicate on a very animalistic level. With very shy women it is impossible to interact with them in this manner and thus I don’t. It’s like they just won’t let you in. But with other shy women, they shy away in a way that is tender and inviting. You have to work a little harder to get close to them but when they do open up and let you in, it’s like being invited into a highly exclusive club. Your love is like an exciting secret that you share.
Author VirtualInsanity Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 Not all shy women are the same. I'm glad someone is able to recognize we're not because it's true.
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