purety1 Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 You know...we all search for it and while on the search we make a ton of mistakes due to a young age, lack of self love and growing pains. We get into situations and we are so blinded by the obvious because we want the semi-ideal relationship but in return that blindspot can have you sitten here dumbfounded when that person shows you who they really are what you would have seen had you not had the blinders on. Small things make you happy often times its the casual relationship you never wanted that you are actually in. You play the blame game when things crumble before your eyes....when in reality it was something you consented to and you have to just move on. I just wanted to say..to everyone who has felt what i just wrote....you have to be careful and take things much slower. I guess I have just learned that.
Chinook Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 You play the blame game when things crumble before your eyes....when in reality it was something you consented to and you have to just move on. Sometimes, you think you're consenting to something real ... when in fact what the other person creates for you is simply an illusion. (Read my thread in the abuse section). It's all too easy to blame ourselves when things go wrong. We blame ourselves for having high ideals, future hopes, dreams and expectations. Everybody has them, I don't care who they are or what they say...everybody has expectations - even if it's to expect the worst. Sometimes though... we're not to blame and the crumbling illusion is simply because the other person either ran out of steam, couldn't keep it going, or simply fell short of the expectations. Sometimes it's because there is miscommunication and the illusion presented comes to mean much more than it should. It is life and you're right, a ton of mistakes are made along life's path. But that's the point of making mistakes...as human beings we learn from the things which hurt us. We learn either not to do things again, or to avoid a certain type of person. Until one day, we don't need to be so careful any more because all the previous life lessons have served us well.
Author purety1 Posted July 12, 2007 Author Posted July 12, 2007 i must say you put everything into a great perspective..
Chinook Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 i must say you put everything into a great perspective.. I am glad you think so. Some days it isn't so easy. But I have faith in myself that I can love and give again. The guy who dumped me, he wasn't worthy of my love or my effort...but someone out there is. I try to remember that and I try to help other people along the way
Author purety1 Posted July 12, 2007 Author Posted July 12, 2007 Well you have really helped me.. I will try to remember that also. These guys are really missing out on great girls!!! Sooner or later we will meet the right one..
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