CAKE456 Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 I am 22 and have been with my fiance for 5 and a half years now, and we have been engaged for almost 1 year, we plan to get married in 2 years when weve saved some money up. since i have been with him i have never even looked at another man and never thought i would do anything to hurt him, about two year ago i descovered that he had cheeted on me, it was a one time thing and he promised to never do it again, i believed him and we never split, after this we were as happy if not happier than weve ever been and he proposed to me whitch was a huge suprise, we are so happy together. This summer we decided it would be a good idea to go on holiday with our friends he went with his mates, and i went with mine. whilst on holiday one of my friends met a guy one of his friends really liked me and asked me every day to kiss him, i thaught he was qute but i couldn't do this to my fiance, however he was persistant and one day grabbed hold of me and kissed me, I pulled away and felt really guilty however i liked the attention i was getting, it had been a long time since i'd had any male attention other than that off my fiance, later that night when i was a bit drunker i kissed him back. The next day i felt so guilty and couldnt believe how stupid id been, but then that night i kissed him again and ended up sleeping with him, i felt so guilty, i had to tell my boyfriend but didnt know what to say to him, the next day i told him i had kissed someone and he was devistated and said he needed time to think, allthough he had cheated on me in the past i swore i wasnt one of those people who would do it to them just to get back at him, he trusted me completely and i had broken his trust, although i never done it to get back at him, my friends kept telling me that he'd done it to me so why was i bothered, but to be honest i think i shocked my self more than anyone, i wasn't this type of person. My boyfriend told me he understood that the kiss was a stupid mistake and he forgave me i kept going on about it but he just wanted to forget about it. i still havn't told him i slept with the guy and don't know what to do, i dont want to loose what weve got over a stupid drunken mistake, but think ive made things worse by not telling him and if i tell him now hell know ive lied to him and dont know if he'l forgive me. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
PandorasBox Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 This summer we decided it would be a good idea to go on holiday with our friends he went with his mates, and i went with mine. whilst on holiday one of my friends met a guy one of his friends really liked me and asked me every day to kiss him, i thaught he was qute but i couldn't do this to my fiance, however he was persistant and one day grabbed hold of me and kissed me, I pulled away and felt really guilty however i liked the attention i was getting, it had been a long time since i'd had any male attention other than that off my fiance, later that night when i was a bit drunker i kissed him back. A strange guy you never met before, kept asking you to kiss him? Then he was persistant, and grabbed you and kissed you? Ok, well he has no manners or respect, and sounds like a hornball. You liked the attention you were getting, because it had been along time since you had male attention other than your fiance's? I didn't know you needed anymore attention for another male other than your fiance. I think you both are young, you have been together since you were like 17 or so, he cheated on you, now you cheated on him, it doesn't sound like either of you are ready for a committed relationship, let alone to get married. That has to be up to you if you tell him about sleeping with this other guy. Personally I think you should. He has a right to know. Then I think you both should go your seperate ways until you both feel you are ready to take being in a committed relationship seriously. JMO.
Curmudgeon Posted July 13, 2007 Posted July 13, 2007 I agree. She's been able to make a knowing decision about him since his cheating. I think he should be able to make the same knowing decision about her since her cheating. Beyond that, I don't think either of them are ready or mature enough for a marriage.
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