Ex contacted my mother..??

[LoveLace]

My high school sweetheart/ fiance of 3 years joined the military after we broke up 10 years ago, then he got married. About 6 years ago, we ran into each other, and all the feelings came back...he was not happy in his marriage and I was longing to feel that kind of love again..so it seemed like a good idea to see each other at the time. But only after a few weeks, I remembered why I wanted to end it with him to begin with. Not a bad guy at all, he was sweet and loved me more than anything...but for me, it just wasn't "there"...and I was a changed person by then, nothing like the girl I was in high school. He was ready to leave his wife for me. So I freaked out and ended it. We never spoke since.

 

Through the grapevine I heard that him and his wife moved states away, and had a couple kids. My mother runs into his family members at the bank she works at - so she finds out all this stuff. My mom loved Bob and felt sorry for him because his own mother was a little harsh on him. My mom would help him look for jobs, etc, and he was always appreciative.

 

However, after that 2nd stint with him, I realized I have to leave him in the past. But a few days ago, mom said he called her. He is getting divorced. I don't think he'll move back home because of his kids...but I wonder about his intentions. He invited us both to go visit him...WTF? I told mom, I just want to leave him in the past but I"m glad he's doing ok. Mom said, what's wrong with being friends?..You should just call him and catch up...she even knows about our small "affair" from a few years ago. I said I'd have to think about it.

 

I have nothing against him, and he's a very good man, and I don't know if anyone will ever love me as much as he did....but is this a sign that he still hasn't let go? I realize that living so far away is a safety zone...but I'm sure he was estatic when mom told him I am still single. Would calling him make him think he should pursue me? One things for sure...I will not go visit him!!