I'm so sad

[kaveets]

I got engaged 3 mos ago to a man that I have been in a rocky relationship with for almost 2 years. I had left him for 3 mos and he came back with a ring and all these promises that everything would be different. And he actually showed me some real change. I was so happy that my wish had come true, he had finally come through.

Well- after 2 mos of the most perfect enagement, it took a turn for the worse. The last month was horrible. He treated me horribly and even let his daughter disrespect me. And he would get mad at me if I brought it up.

Well- we had a very big fight and I had to make a decision. He said we could stay together under all these circumstances that made and he took the ring away. I didn't do anything wrong and he was punishing me like he always does. So, I made the difficult decision to walk away from the relationship. The hard part was, I had no place to live and I also knew that if I stayed in that area we would be back together in no time and the abuse would start again, so I moved.

I moved 9 hours away to my parents house. I quit my job and everything. My friends and family are sooo proud of me and everyone says I made the right decision. No one likes us together. And in my heart and mind I know I did the right thing, but it hurts. I miss him soooo much. I'm so far away, I feel so helpless. It's really over this time... I haven't talked to him since Sunday and have implemented NC. But all I want to do is call him. The last time we broke up he slept with all these strange women and I just picture him doing that now. I hate that I'm so far, but I know I needed the distance to finally break away.

I just want to feel better...

[Jasmine8719]

you really did the right thing, and you no in your heart you did...you'll meet someone else and see what true love is really about and you'll be so happy you got away from your ex.....it might hurt now but i know and you know in the long run it will be the best decision. Dont call him and just do things to occupy yourself and get your mind off of him...good luck

-Jasmien

[nylah]

I agree with Jasmien....I know it's easier said than done but you'll be better off for doing it...I'm pretty much in the same boat...I'm going to be moving very soon myself to get away from a guy that I have "casually" dated for almost 3 years now....the constant up's and down, and no contact and I love you then I hate you, and on and on....it has just taken it's toll on me, and at this point, I really don't know what I want...but I do know that if I stay here, it will continue...So, just know that you are doing the right thing...the right thing is always the hardest thing to do....keep your head up!

[Cioriel]

I don't even know you and am extremely proud of you! I know it hurts, but do you know how great it is that you were able to recognize that he wasn't treating you right and that you didn't deserve it?

 

I know you are hurting - it is never easy to lose someone you love (even if the choice is yours). I think you have done the right thing. I am a firm believer in second chances, but not third and fourth choices. If he didn't care enough to change the things he realized were problems with the second chance you gave him then he never will. You gave him a chance to prove himself and he sadly didn't take the opportunity to make the most of it and better himself in the process.

 

Seriously, you are obviously a strong person and you definitely did the right thing. Now you can take the time to heal and lean on those around you, and then find someone who treats you amazingly because you deserve that.

 

Just keep remembering that he is not good enough to you and you've got other people who care about you that actually matter.

[kaveets]

I wanted to thank you guys for the supportive words. I have been trying to keep busy-- I am looking for a new job and in the mean time am going to volunteer at a hospital. It's still hard, but getting easier. Thank you again.