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[turtle32]

Ok let me see if i can explain this in a way you can understand. Ok i have been dating a lady for 6 months it is a LDR she lives in Chicago and i live in Kentucky we have a great relationship but here the past couple weeks or so she has been saying she is unsure if she can see herself moving to kentucky and she is afraid she isnt ready to have an instant family cause i do have two children. She told me two days ago that she wanted to pray about it. Now since that time which was sunday i ahve sent her some text telling her i love her and miss her she always responds with i love you too and that she missed me all day on monday cause i didnt text her at al until late and that she was happy to get that text. yesterday morning she text me after i text her and said she loved me and i ask her if she really did know for sure and and she said yes. I sent her some more text yesterday but never heard back so im confused. She has all the control it is her decsion but i feel if i keep telling her i love and how much i miss her all the time she has more power knowing everything is ok with me so she can take her time. I dont like not knowing what is going on with us. Should i be patience and just not contact er and let her think things out? Or should i keep showing her much i care or should i just press the issue and ask her weather she wants me in her life or not and just to tell me so i can move on with my life ? I appreciate your help . Oh and by the way she was at my place last week and while she was here she wanted to look at homes in the next town said she wanted to move here for awhile and see if she likes it and then sunday she is back to unsure im confused what should i do?

[Brokensoul]

Well it sounds like you two are serious with one another and that you do love one another. But I have to tell you, moving far away from home for a relationship is a huge deal. It was a huge deal for me when it was only a few towns over. I am not sure what her relationship with your children is...but it is also scary too. Her being unsure maybe out of fear of what will happen to her life as she knows it if she leaves her home and this does not work. Let her know you understand her sacrifices and that you will make sacrifices for her to make her happy...assure her you are in it for the long hall and no matter what happens you will never abandon her. Also, let her know that if she needs more time, you understand and you do not want to pressure her, you just want her to know how you feel and if she feels the same. Hope this helps...I am a total newbie to break ups...just had my heart crushed.