Trialbyfire Posted July 11, 2007 Posted July 11, 2007 Maybe you Canadians use it universally, but around here when dealing with anything other then a romantic relationship, it is not called "whipped". For friends we use the term "pushover". It's not a canuckism, more my abuse of terminology, as usual. It's more meaningful when applied to a friendship between two men.
Pyro Posted July 11, 2007 Posted July 11, 2007 It's more meaningful when applied to a friendship between two men. Thats pretty funny when you put it that way.
Citizen Erased Posted July 11, 2007 Posted July 11, 2007 Same thing applies to a whipped woman. It's called wang whacked thank you very much. Much appreciated if you would use the right terminology
Tenorman Posted July 11, 2007 Posted July 11, 2007 On the brief description, he sounds like a gentleman which usually takes strength. If a guy turns up wearing for example a pale pink shirt which he would never have worn before and you say "WTF!" and his girlfriend says "Isn't it nice I chose it" and the guy says "yes isn't it nice" and looks like he wishes you would shoot him then and there or actually now believes that he likes the shirt, then you know he is whipped.
Art_Critic Posted July 11, 2007 Posted July 11, 2007 I know a guy who is literally abused physically, verbally and emotionally, by his wife... he is what we called a 'doormat'... so for me, a whipped man/woman is a doormat... If the reverse happens and a woman is abused physically, verbally and emotionally does that make her a doormat ? I think there is a difference between being a doormat and being physically abused by your wife.. As someone who was physically and verbally abused by my Exwife I can tell you I was NO doormat.. I didn't bend for her every whim.. I didn't give her everything at my expense...I didn't let her take my self respect.. Doormat behavior is when a man has no self respect for himself and where he lets himself do things for her that he normally would not do in order to please her and make himself feel loved.
Author PandorasBox Posted July 11, 2007 Author Posted July 11, 2007 how do you know it was his wife? she could have been a hooker or a mistress or his sister. It has already been asked. As a matter of fact I had mentioned it on page one. It was my bad to assume they were married to each other anyway, which means its just one more assumption on LS that someone made. Wife, girlfriend, mistress or whatever, bottom line, he was being nice.
Herzen Posted July 11, 2007 Posted July 11, 2007 Here in the Northeast, the term "whipped" applies exclusively to subordinate men in hetero relationships. Wives who act "whipped" are good, dutiful wives. Sub husbands, on the other hand, are derided as weak, limp, testosterone challenged. "Whipped" as an expression speaks volumes about our views of gender and power in hetero relationships. And it's always used with contempt with a dollop of derision when applied to husbands. For many, subordinate behavior is fine in wives, but not so much in husbands. Hence, the lack of application of the term "whipped" to wives. Whipped is a gender-specific term of derision used to describe men who are perceived as almost always acquiescing to their wives' demands and commands. It's all about our expectations about how a man should act in a relationship.
Art_Critic Posted July 11, 2007 Posted July 11, 2007 For many, subordinate behavior is fine in wives, but not so much in husbands. Hence, the lack of application of the term "whipped" to wives. Whipped is a gender-specific term of derision used to describe men who are perceived as almost always acquiescing to their wives' demands and commands. It's all about our expectations about how a man should act in a relationship. Nicely summed up Herzen
Herzen Posted July 11, 2007 Posted July 11, 2007 Nicely summed up Herzen Thanks. I've learned over the years that when one has nothing original to add to a discussion, one can always summarize that discussion. All the points were made, and made well.
Pyro Posted July 11, 2007 Posted July 11, 2007 It's called wang whacked thank you very much. Much appreciated if you would use the right terminology I never heard that expression before. For a guy, I heard the term p*ssy whipped, and for the girls, I heard the term d*ck whipped.
Citizen Erased Posted July 11, 2007 Posted July 11, 2007 I never heard that expression before. For a guy, I heard the term p*ssy whipped, and for the girls, I heard the term d*ck whipped. Wang Whacked just has such a different feel to it, d*ck whipped is so unoriginal
Star Gazer Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 That's called CHIVALRY. It's not dead. Hallelujah!!
Curmudgeon Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 I saw a man being really nice towards his wife. He was being sweet, and pulled her chair out for her. Seemed to really be listening to her while they were talking. Got the door for her as they left etc. And I'll bet he both opened AND closed the car door for her as well. For those of you youngsters, that's the epitomy of what used to be known as a true "gentleman!" More and more that seems to be a foreign, old-fashioned or prehistoric concept but I assure you, we do still exist. It's not about being "whipped." It's about attention, respect and consideration. Some of our parents just raised us right!
Hyperpen12000 Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 How do you know if a man is whipped? I was out at a resturant with some friends the other night. I saw a man being really nice towards his wife. He was being sweet, and pulled her chair out for her. Seemed to really be listening to her while they were talking. Got the door for her as they left etc. Well that is cool with me, looks like he has respect. But as we were eating a friend of mine makes the commet, "Oh he is probably whipped, and thats why he does those things for her." I couldn't help but think, wtf? Just because a man is nice, and respectful he is whipped? So what do you think is considered a whipped man? Was he really serious? Sometimes some guys say things facetiously when they see guys bending over back for their women in public. "Probably whipped" is not necessarily entailing that he is whipped. I don't think he's whipped. I think he was being polite to the woman he loves. Chivalry hasn't died. Even though the "Independent women" vociferations almost destroyed chivalry in men, It still exist.
Woggle Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 Chivalry is almost dead and women killed it. I am a gentlemen to my wife but I let the door slam in a strange woman's face. Ever since a woman spit on me for letting her go first I don't do any of that stuff.
Hyperpen12000 Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 Chivalry is almost dead and women killed it. I am a gentlemen to my wife but I let the door slam in a strange woman's face. Ever since a woman spit on me for letting her go first I don't do any of that stuff. Chivalry was a priority when I was with my EX. After she started to act respectful towards me and didn't want to cook a single meal, ranting about how prehistoric it was, I let doors close on her and chairs stay none-pulled out... Why? Because if the things I politely asked her to do were prehistoric, chivalry is prehistoric in my book too. ________________________________________________________ Just don't understand why wanting a woman who can cook his come under such bias.
Trialbyfire Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 I don't really see it as chivalry, more manners associated to upbringing. For example, if someone were to hand me a widget that I needed, I would always say thank-you. If I ask someone for something, I always say please. If someone is behind me, I ensure that the door is kept open so it doesn't slam in their face. Most definitely, they don't need to cook me dinner for me to be polite. But then, that's just me.
Herzen Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 Chivalry is almost dead and women killed it. I am a gentlemen to my wife but I let the door slam in a strange woman's face. Ever since a woman spit on me for letting her go first I don't do any of that stuff. What?! I'm 56, and I've been polite towards women (with one or two exceptions on here ) my entire life. I've held doors open, etc., and I've never been shown disrespect or a visible lack of appreciation--let alone been spat on. That's either an outlier incident or there's more to the story.
Woggle Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 What?! I'm 56, and I've been polite towards women (with one or two exceptions on here ) my entire life. I've held doors open, etc., and I've never been shown disrespect or a visible lack of appreciation--let alone been spat on. That's either an outlier incident or there's more to the story. Well she was drunk and it was a bad neighborhood so that might have something to do with it.
Citizen Erased Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 Well she was drunk and it was a bad neighborhood so that might have something to do with it. Yes but that doesn't change anything in your mind now does it Woggle? I would never date a man who didn't have manners. It's not about chivalry. I can open my own door, if they don't offer whatever. But I believe in treating everyone, strangers, friends, family etc with respect and I hate the fact that any man using his manners instead of standing there with a dumb look on his face is considered a wuss or whipped
Author PandorasBox Posted July 12, 2007 Author Posted July 12, 2007 And I'll bet he both opened AND closed the car door for her as well. For those of you youngsters, that's the epitomy of what used to be known as a true "gentleman!" More and more that seems to be a foreign, old-fashioned or prehistoric concept but I assure you, we do still exist. It's not about being "whipped." It's about attention, respect and consideration. Some of our parents just raised us right! He probably did open the car door for her. You're right, some of you do still exsist. I know that there are men who have manners and respect for their spouse or S/O. But it was more geared towards the comment my friend had made the night about the other guy being "whipped". I didn't feel he was whipped either. Ahhh yes, to be a youngster again.
Hyperpen12000 Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 Chivalry is something a women feels a man is suppose to do. That's not different from men thinking women are suppose to know how to cook. If so, it's all prehistoric... I feel this way. Woman: I think a man who practices chivalry is a turn on. Me: I think a woman who knows how to cook is a turn on Women: Cook your own damn food! Me: Open up your own damn doors and pull out your own chair! Woman: Why don’t you cook for me? Me: Why don’t you open doors and pull out my chair for me? (I guess asking her to do that wouldn’t be socially correct nowadays….) Like someone said, it's politeness you look for. Doesn't necessarily means he has to pull out your chair. And if he does, it doesn't mean he's whipped. He probably loves to practice chivalry and she probably can cook the hell out of a casserole. _________________________________________________________________ Pardon me for being so obsessed with a woman who can cook.
Author PandorasBox Posted July 12, 2007 Author Posted July 12, 2007 Like someone said, it's politeness you look for. Doesn't necessarily means he has to pull out your chair. And if he does, it doesn't mean he's whipped. He probably loves to practice chivalry and she probably can cook the hell out of a casserole. I agree. What about a man who never opens a door for a woman? Maybe they just didn't have a good role model? Or maybe they are being disrespectful or could give a rats ass? I kid you not...I have gone out with my sister and her husband before, and we'll will walk up to the door of wherever, and as we approach the door, I swear that man will take a few steps back, put his hands in his pocket and look at her like, "Well aren't you going to open the door?" And its not like he doesn't know what he could do, its like he purposly does it. For the record I'm not saying that it is something he has to do or needs to do all the time, and its not about her not being able to open up her own door, but I would think once in a blue moon would be ok. But he actually will take a step back, like, "I'm not opening the door, you can open it for me."
Citizen Erased Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 For the record I'm not saying that it is something he has to do or needs to do all the time, and its not about her not being able to open up her own door, but I would think once in a blue moon would be ok. But he actually will take a step back, like, "I'm not opening the door, you can open it for me." Then she should open the door, walk in and then shut it in his face
Author PandorasBox Posted July 12, 2007 Author Posted July 12, 2007 Then she should open the door, walk in and then shut it in his face Good point. She has opened it before and walked right on in, leaving him standing outside looking like wtf just happened here? :rolleyes:Most of the time too, that is what she does. She even asked him, why he didn't do that sometimes. His answer was, he never thinks about it.
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