uniqueone Posted July 10, 2007 Posted July 10, 2007 And still one more question I have.... Why is it that some people can just walk away quietly from a breakup and some can't? Is it just the person's nature? Some people get broken up with and they handle it quietly. Others might contact the person, cry, get mad, beg, etc..... I'm guessing that some people are just more emotional than others.
JulieJ Posted July 10, 2007 Posted July 10, 2007 I don't think it's safe to assume that just because someone isn't very upset/hurt just because they aren't showing it. I know I have definitely been very upset over break-ups and completely torn up inside, but I refuse to break-down in front of anyone or call my ex or show any feeling at all (except to my closest friends) because I know that in the end it won't make me feel better, it will just make others think that I can't handle my emotions.
Author uniqueone Posted July 10, 2007 Author Posted July 10, 2007 I didn't mean that the people who don't show it aren't upset. I meant that they're able to control it. Some people seem to have no problem controlling their emotions.
purety1 Posted July 11, 2007 Posted July 11, 2007 I am still asking myself the same question.. I have always been the emotional one and tried to contact.. now i am learning to just let go... People can just walk away without even thinking about it or even acting like they care.... its sad. I don't see how you can handle it quietly although i guess I am learning how to right now... Keep your head up.. focus on making yourself happy.. don't think about what he is thinking of feeling.... maybe that person just wasn't meant to be a apart of your life at all.....In the end it only makes you a better person.
Walk Posted July 11, 2007 Posted July 11, 2007 I think some of the "quiet" people have come to understand that hystronics don't actually get you what you want. The other person has to want it too. If someone broke up with you because the relationship isn't working for them anymore, then no amount of crying, begging or outbursts is going to help. The only thing it might do is cause the other person to feel guilty or feel sorry for you. I personally don't want to guilt trip someone into being with me, and I hate the thought of someone taking pity on me. Also... I tend to be more reserved when it comes to breaking up... I don't know how to describe it, but its kind of like my feelings overwhelm me to the point that extra energy isn't really available for any kind of outburst. Its more like I fold into myself, rather then act out. More introspective version of the extroverted physical actions. I deal with things by looking inward, rather than outwardly screamig my pain.
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