space_for_rentt Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Well to start off my name is Lisa. I'm 17 and I have a story that is very weired. I don't really know how often this happens but, I think a few years ago I fell in love with a gay guy and, he fell in love with me too. Yet, now i'm over it but, i'll tell you the story anyways cause its very uncommon. I met him in the 9th grade and I thoguht he was hot, nice, and funny. Which is hard to find anymore and, I guess he thought the same of me. We hit it off instantly we called each other everyday and, stayed on the phone for hours, went to a dance together and then started dating.Everyone would always tease us and, say that we were in love with each other all we could do was blush our asses off.Until I met another guy shortly after and, cheated on the one I was dating. It broke his heart and, told my friends I was the only person who ever made him cry except his dad. He also said I never showed him that I liked him and it made him feel bad. So we broke up and, then during the summer he called me while he was on vacation, and told me he had been missing me and, thinking about me and, wanted a second chance. So we went to a concert together and, got back together. Then in the 10th grade he still liked me but, found another girl friend. Yet, she was so jealous that she told him she thought he was still in love with me and, broke up with him. On to 11th grade he started to figure out he was gay and, told me this. Then he started telling other people I was the only girl for him and, that I was the only girl he would even date. One night he was talking to me about a boy that was pissing him off and, he was like why i can't I just date you again. Then i said "your gay" and he said "so" then i said "so.... that can never work" and he said "yes it can" he was always asking me weried quesitons that sounded like he liked me and always telling me that when we die that we can be together forever because it wont matter then i was like wtf i did not think this could happen but, I guess it does. So I just want some opinions because I do not know if it was real or not and it has been playing with my head for a while becuase it was so out of the ordinary.
quankanne Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 sounds like he's in the middle of a huge confusing storm, regarding his sexual identity. And because you were the first girl he had feelings for, you've set the standard: Whether he comes to an understanding of being straight or homosexual, you're the epitome of the perfect girlfriend. Even if it does turn out that he is gay; it's not unusual for a gay person to befriend and even love to death his or her perfect "opposite." I know this is weird, that it's confusing when he makes comments like "why can't we date again?" but it boils down to this: he considers you the best thing since sliced bread. So even if you cannot be a regular BF/GF couple, he's still offering you a special friendship because he loves what he sees in you. so if you feel the both of you can handle this kind of relationship, be each other's dearest friend, and know that you can count on each other when such a friend is most needed. Like a date for the big dance, or later in life, to someone's wedding … really, anyplace you want your friend to be because he "gets" you. hope this helps!
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