mrpeanut Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Basically ive bin with my girlfriend for about 6 month. We were very happy for the 1st few months ,as all couples are, but recently things haven't been to great.I was in a relationship about 2 years ago that lasted for 8 months and found out at the end f the relatonship that my ex had been using me to get back in touch with her mother as she didnt like being alone. So as soon as she patched things up with her mum she binned me off claiming that she didn't love me for half of the relationship. Also she would talk to guys on IM's and talk bout meetin them and so on..Anyway, both me and my current girlfriend have always been worried about losin each other to someone else. I mean we both say we trust each other, that we both think neither of us will cheat, but are worried of if it did happen. Now im beggining to think that us saying this is just covering up how we dont trust each other. The amount of time we've talked about this still hasn't seemed to put my mind at ease.Another thing is when we got together, she was sort of seeing someone at the time but she spent time with me and evenetually stopped seeing this guy. Now weve bin together for months and i recently checked her phone because another lad was texting her all the time ( i know its wrong to check her phone) n saw that he wanted to get with her but she denys wanting anything to do with him as she loves me so much. But i saw the other day there was a txt off the guy she was seein when she got with me sayin "u looked gorgoues as always tonight. it was nice seein you again. If you ever want me im always here." and another 1 sayin "im sorry i didnt get to say goodbye" aswell. Now my girlfriend works as a waitress in a pub so probably saw him there as she was working that night. But she not mentioned it too me at all and its really got me worrying. I dont want her to do the same to me as she did to him ( although they were only together a couple of weeks). I also worry that shes gonna be texting lads behind my back, sort of how my ex was. I want to confront her about it , but ive done wrong and looked through her phone. I dont know what to do because i love her soo much, i just dont want to lose her, im just so unbelivably paranoid that im going to. I dont no what to do.The whole fact that i've gone to a website to discuss this and not to my girlfriend shows there must be something wrong. I just cant seem to get my feelings across. I no that my paranoia will ruin the relationship, so i just want to stop worrying. I just dont want to lose her. Sorry if i waffled on.
squeak Posted July 10, 2007 Posted July 10, 2007 I'm not trying to be funny but can you rewrite this with more paragraph breaks? You'll probably start getting replies. A lot of posts aren't read because one paragraph is really hard on the eyes...thanks!
Author mrpeanut Posted July 11, 2007 Author Posted July 11, 2007 Basically ive bin with my girlfriend for about 6 month. We were very happy for the 1st few months ,as all couples are, but recently things haven't been to great. I was in a relationship about 2 years ago that lasted for 8 months and found out at the end f the relatonship that my ex had been using me to get back in touch with her mother as she didnt like being alone. So as soon as she patched things up with her mum she binned me off claiming that she didn't love me for half of the relationship. Also she would talk to guys on IM's and talk bout meetin them and so on.. Anyway, both me and my current girlfriend have always been worried about losin each other to someone else. I mean we both say we trust each other, that we both think neither of us will cheat, but are worried of if it did happen. Now im beggining to think that us saying this is just covering up how we dont trust each other. The amount of time we've talked about this still hasn't seemed to put my mind at ease. ZAnother thing is when we got together, she was sort of seeing someone at the time but she spent time with me and evenetually stopped seeing this guy. Now weve bin together for months and i recently checked her phone because another lad was texting her all the time ( i know its wrong to check her phone) n saw that he wanted to get with her but she denys wanting anything to do with him as she loves me so much. But i saw the other day there was a txt off the guy she was seein when she got with me sayin "u looked gorgoues as always tonight. it was nice seein you again. If you ever want me im always here." and another 1 sayin "im sorry i didnt get to say goodbye" aswell. Now my girlfriend works as a waitress in a pub so probably saw him there as she was working that night. But she not mentioned it too me at all and its really got me worrying. I dont want her to do the same to me as she did to him ( although they were only together a couple of weeks). I also worry that shes gonna be texting lads behind my back, sort of how my ex was. I want to confront her about it , but ive done wrong and looked through her phone. I dont know what to do because i love her soo much, i just dont want to lose her, im just so unbelivably paranoid that im going to. I dont no what to do.The whole fact that i've gone to a website to discuss this and not to my girlfriend shows there must be something wrong. I just cant seem to get my feelings across. I no that my paranoia will ruin the relationship, so i just want to stop worrying. I just dont want to lose her. Hope thats better
squeak Posted July 11, 2007 Posted July 11, 2007 Sounds like she was just dating him? Not even a real relationship? Then you came along and she dated you instead? Not seeing you while in a relationship with him, right? Well she mentioned she was getting the texts from him right? Originally-before you checked the phone? Those texts he sent, while confirming he had seen her, but maybe just at work, does not really amount to much to me. Unless secretly you are worrying that it was not at work. But the ending "if you ever want me I'm always here" sounds like nothing was established and communication is not there , he was making an offer. If something was going on there would not be a need for an offer. It would have been nice if she mentioned it, but maybe she did not want to alarm you. And she did choose to be with you over him, right? Maybe someone else can offer better insight, I do not want to weigh in too heavy or influence a situation that is really quite *grey area* (relatively harmless-irritating, but harmless) to me.
Author mrpeanut Posted July 11, 2007 Author Posted July 11, 2007 no she didnt metion the texts of him, she said about some other lad. Yer suppose you got it right there really. Jus tthere test sayin it was nice seein her sort of made me think she'd been chattin to him for a while or something. Dunno , just gets me worried and threatened really. Like i said its me being paranoid probably. I just dont know how no put my mind at ease
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