Lilly Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Why is that the worse you treat a guy, and the more you're not available, the more he comes around and wants to be with you. When you starting being nice and asking him to do things with you he starts to lose interest. It is a no win situation. Why do we have to play these games? I'm tired of wondering what I'm supposed to do.
alphamale Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Why is that the worse you treat a guy, and the more you're not available, the more he comes around and wants to be with you. When you starting being nice and asking him to do things with you he starts to lose interest. It is a no win situation. Why do we have to play these games? I'm tired of wondering what I'm supposed to do. The idea, LILLY, is to be "balanced woman". Sometimes be unavailabe and sometimes be available. Sometimes be mean and sometimes be nice. Sometimes do what he wants and sometimes don't. You have to mix it up sister! Keep him guessing. This applies for men too...
Pyro Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Why is that the worse you treat a guy, and the more you're not available, the more he comes around and wants to be with you. When you starting being nice and asking him to do things with you he starts to lose interest. It is a no win situation. Why do we have to play these games? I'm tired of wondering what I'm supposed to do. The guys that you are referring to don't sound too much like real men. They sound like someone who plays games and is wishy washy. If I were you I would stay away from those type of guys. Plenty of other guys to choose from.
Author Lilly Posted July 9, 2007 Author Posted July 9, 2007 Alphamale, I think you may be right about mixing it up and keeping them guessing. Just wanted some opinions from other people.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 I have a bunch of single girlfriends and the going joke is: If you want a guy to be interested in you tell him you're not looking for a serious relationship. If you want him to run for the hills tell him your biological clock is ticking and you're ready find someone to settle down with. Initially atleast, this theory is has a 100% proven accuracy by them at this time!:D:D!!
daphne Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 alpha's right. I can't believe I said that. Most of the guys I've dated have been this way. With the exception of the one or two that I had lukewarm feelings for. It wasn't difficult for those few to be crazy about someone who wasn't even sure she wanted to be with them. I tried to stop dating someone who has gotten wishy washy on me. To my dismay, I told him I didn't think we wanted the same things and that I wanted a serious relationship. I've never said that in my life. Now I feel it was the kiss of death because I'm not trying to lock anyone down. I was just trying to say that he needed a girl that was ok with booty calling, since I"m not that girl. Now I'm really pissed at myself and him that I had to spell it out because I feel like a total girl and I lost all of my power. oh well. I wasn't sure that it was going to work out anyway.
Author Lilly Posted July 10, 2007 Author Posted July 10, 2007 It seems that whenever I start liking a guy and treating him nice, he starts taking me for granted. I may not have even liked him in the beginning but then started to have feelings for him after dating for a while. He pursues me! So then I starting showing interest in him and wanting to be with him more often and he loses interest and doesn't call that often. This has happened to me in my last two relationships. I just don't understand. I thought you supposed to grow closer. Maybe I'm doing something wrong.
Trialbyfire Posted July 10, 2007 Posted July 10, 2007 This isn't solely a male phenomenon, women are just as bad. It's called the "grass is greener" syndrome.
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