petal1 Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 my husband walked out a few days ago and my world has fallen apart. i cant eat or sleep, i have 5 children to look after and i feel like im a robot, just going through the motions. weve had literally no contact. i begged him to try and he refused and for the past 3 days i have resisted the temptation to call or text him. i want to show him i am strong but its just so hard. i feel like ive lost everything and the pain is unbearable. all i do is cry, i cant eat or sleep and its so lonely. i just wish this pain would go away. it hurts so much that he said he loved me every day before he left and now doesnt give a damn.im writing this in the hope that someone will write something that will help me get through this. i just want him back so bad it hurts.
directx Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Hey Petal1. I am honestly now sure what to do, but I think you should start contacting your close family members and let them know. You need some support of some kind right now, and they will be thinking clearly. I don't see how you can possibly think clearly after that. No human could. Have you contacted anybody?
Author petal1 Posted July 9, 2007 Author Posted July 9, 2007 my family know but i just cant be around them with all the questions at the minute, i know they want to help but i just feel like i want to be alone. im not very good company.
directx Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Well, no one should expect you to be very good company considering what has happened. If your family isn't giving you what they need, the next obvious step is a friend. Have you explained to your family you are not ready for 20 questions? If you cannot do the family route, I know our phone books have a 'Human Services' guide where they contain numbers of people you can call. I am sure someone here can offer a better place to get help, but maybe its a possible option. If you belong to a good church maybe than can help?
Author petal1 Posted July 9, 2007 Author Posted July 9, 2007 thx directx, i think that my problem is that i would rather have advice and somewhere to come and moan to others that are going through the same rather than talk to my family. reading other peoples similar stories is passing time on and i think doing this is a better way of dealing with this for me. any words of advice from people going through the same will give me the push i need.
sao2 Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 No explanation or anything? After marriage and 5 children? OK no need to feed your anger and hurt. I am not a counselor or anything like that but I think you should allow yourself to feel miserable. Allow yourself to cry. It has only been a few days. You are strong, I can see that. If these situations were easy strength would not be needed. I wish I could say I knew the depth of pain you are feeling right now. I don't, I have never built a life with someone like that. But there others here that have. Others who have built a life with someone and then . . . Others have made it through similar situations. Good luck.
Author petal1 Posted July 9, 2007 Author Posted July 9, 2007 thanks for the comments, it really does help.
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